She only had to flutter her eyes at him,..., how your attention was grabbed, (a familiar theme)

grahamg

grahamg

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I'm not up to date on this subject I must admit, though maybe this phenomenon has existed since time began on a human evolutionary scale, the signals sent out by women to any man who might take their fancy, (and how easily we might fall for it, or once have done?).

So fluttering your eyes, wittingly or unwittingly, all that stuff is the very serious subject of this thread, (a well worn topic!).

Some research to help us along the way:
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/female-body-language/

More here:
https://www.theguardian.com/science/neurophilosophy/2015/jun/02/how-your-eyes-betray-your-thoughts

Someone adept at the practice of fluttering eyes:

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I thought the eyelash fluttering was a thing of the past and ladies stopped doing that in the early 18th century.

Funny but real story…was having coffee one day with a group of friends and someone at the next table, very attractive, but quite obviously wearing false lashes, lost hers in her cup of cappuchino. I don’t know how the waiter kept a straight face…he deserved a medal for excellent manners and total discreteness
 
I read Graham's whole link and started laughing with, "she'll show her armpit," then the Marilyn Monroe walk and Marilyn face, crossing her legs, plucking her eyebrows to look more submissive, tossing her hair and the hilarious Pantene commercial. If some energetic young woman does all that in your direction Graham I think you better submit or call the police.
 
Della said:
I read Graham's whole link and started laughing with, "she'll show her armpit," then the Marilyn Monroe walk and Marilyn face, crossing her legs, plucking her eyebrows to look more submissive, tossing her hair and the hilarious Pantene commercial. If some energetic young woman does all that in your direction Graham I think you better submit or call the police.
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I guess you are right, (though we can all dream hey! :) ).
 
Jamala said:
I thought the eyelash fluttering was a thing of the past and ladies stopped doing that in the early 18th century.
Funny but real story…was having coffee one day with a group of friends and someone at the next table, very attractive, but quite obviously wearing false lashes, lost hers in her cup of cappuchino. I don’t know how the waiter kept a straight face…he deserved a medal for excellent manners and total discreteness
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Fluttering eyelashes a thing of the past, (along with admiration for a "well turned ankle", all they were permitted to see in those times! :) ).
 
MikeyDude said:
I've learned that any "flirtatious" action a woman may take is merely a benign social greeting and actually means nothing more than a cordial "hello".
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I think it's pretty common for men to mistake "friendly" for "flirtatious," especially when we're young, like up to around age 35, I'd say. By then, the fine line between the two is a lot less fine. Maybe we get better at reading women, or maybe we're just not as desperate. Probly both.
 
I can always tell by a woman's eyes. And actually, it's not flirting, exactly, they have a way of looking at you that says they want you to go talk to them. Just talk. Like they just want to feel you out, not up.

And if you don't go say Hi, or whatever, they just invite someone else like it's no big deal. I actually kind of like that.
 
Murrmurr said:
I can always tell by a woman's eyes. And actually, it's not flirting, exactly, they have a way of looking at you that says they want you to go talk to them. Just talk. Like they just want to feel you out, not up.

And if you don't go say Hi, or whatever, they just invite someone else like it's no big deal. I actually kind of like that.
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😄 If I want to talk to someone, I just go over and do it.

I approached a good looking young man in a coffee shop a couple of days ago.
I went over and told him he was a very lucky man.

Why? because he was holding a very young baby very tenderly and I like that in a man.
Then I touched him on the shoulder, said 'Congratulations', and left the shop.
He was beaming as I departed.

I can do things like that now that I have turned 80.
All inhibitions about talking to strangers disappeared long ago.
 
Warrigal said:
😄 If I want to talk to someone, I just go over and do it.

I approached a good looking young man in a coffee shop a couple of days ago.
I went over and told him he was a very lucky man.

Why? because he was holding a very young baby very tenderly and I like that in a man.
Then I touched him on the shoulder, said 'Congratulations', and left the shop.
He was beaming as I departed.

I can do things like that now that I have turned 80.
All inhibitions about talking to strangers disappeared long ago.
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Oh, I do too...DID. If I saw a lady who looked pleasant and appealing, maybe she didn't notice me so I didn't hesitate to go talk to her.

I like your story. I was a single dad for a long time, and Maud, my youngest, was only about 8 months old when her mom left us. Encouraging words go a long way with young fathers.
 
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Women don't flutter their eyes any more. They're much more direct - at least with me.
I mentioned to a woman who's a casual friend that I remodeled my bathroom & converted my old tub to a walk-in shower.
The first thing she said was, "Is it big enough for two?"
 
win231 said:
Women don't flutter their eyes any more. They're much more direct - at least with me.
I mentioned to a woman who's a casual friend that I remodeled my bathroom & converted my old tub to a walk-in shower.
The first thing she said was, "Is it big enough for two?"
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I hope you blushed at the thought!!!
A very good friend of mine who is sadly no longer with us used to mention being a "passionate lady", (not an invitation to myself let me add), as she thought she needed to be direct when seeking a partner, and she was quite amused by my bashfulness on the subject.
 
grahamg said:
I hope you blushed at the thought!!!
A very good friend of mine who is sadly no longer with us used to mention being a "passionate lady", (not an invitation to myself let me add), as she thought she needed to be direct when seeking a partner, and she was quite amused by my bashfulness on the subject.
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Naw, I didn't blush. I was too busy LMAO.
 
Do men prefer a woman to show her interest, or do they prefer to think of themselves as the 'hunters'? The easiest thing to do is smile and see how he responds. If he's not interested, there's no face loss.
There were several times when a man was interested in getting to know me but was afraid to make the first move. I only found out because someone else noticed the way he looked at me. I seemed to be giving out the wrong signals. However, if a man lacks the courage to approach me, then I doubt if he is 'my type'.
 
MikeyDude said:
I've learned that any "flirtatious" action a woman may take is merely a benign social greeting and actually means nothing more than a cordial "hello".
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Good for you on figuring it out. In forums where dating is discussed, there are many questions like the following:

"The cashier in the store smiled at me. Do you think she's interested in me?"
[No, it's her job to smile at you.]

"A woman had to push past me in a crowded place. She smiled and said Excuse me. Is she interested in me?"
[Of course she's interested in you. Otherwise she would have waited for the crowd to disperse, even if it took all day.🙄]
 
Lavinia said:
Do men prefer a woman to show her interest, or do they prefer to think of themselves as the 'hunters'? The easiest thing to do is smile and see how he responds. If he's not interested, there's no face loss.
There were several times when a man was interested in getting to know me but was afraid to make the first move. I only found out because someone else noticed the way he looked at me. I seemed to be giving out the wrong signals. However, if a man lacks the courage to approach me, then I doubt if he is 'my type'.
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This morning I attracted the attention of a young man, but I'm at a loss to understand why. We were both in a shop and just happened to be looking in the same section. Something about me seemed to attract his attention, as he followed me. I was talking to an assistant and he quite openly stood beside me, listening. When she asked me for my personal details, I shoo-ed him away and she said, 'I thought he was with you!'.
If I was younger, I might have thought he fancied me but he was half my age. I was chattering away to the assistant and he was watching me with a smile on his face. Rather bizarre. (Not really complaining because he was rather nice-looking!)
 
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