Reflections of My Life

katlupe said:
I keep seeing that people do not want to work anymore. I cannot understand it. She is not a young woman, said she was bored staying home after she retired so wanted to work. I am trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. It is hard with my past history of trying to hire an aide to clean my tiny apartment.
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So , are these people getting paid by the agency to be on their books even if they don't actually do any work ?.. I'm trying to figure out a reason why they are signed up to an agency and when their given a job they don't take it.. it's the only reason I can think of..
 

katlupe said:
Today my new aide will be starting her job with me. I am praying this works out. As much as I did not want an aide before...........I feel like I need one now. I made a list of things for her to do today. When she was here we discussed the days she would come, so far I believe it will be on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM. Of course, that hits my eating window but on those days I will have something prepped to eat that does not take time up in the kitchen when she can be cleaning. I chose those days because when I make appointments it is always on Tuesdays or Fridays. That gives her nine hours a week to begin with. When and if I need extra help for some reason she can stay longer since I am approved for 15 and right now I am her only client.
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Even simply expecting someone, who doesn't come, is unsettling.
And in this situation, you did so much good planning around anticipating her coming, which makes sense for you to do. What an added disappointment and confusion, then though.
But as you said, you don't want anyone coming if they are actually sick. So right, what could you say?
Even more frustrating, though.
And yet it's very unsettling to be planning on it, and it doesn't happen. Repeatedly. Gosh, that is difficult.
 
I guess I am weird. If I have signed up for a service and that person does not show up I would expect them to provide someone on call to come and take care of things that needed attention. If they say you need help, then you need help. You are waiting on someone to mop the floors, change the bed, clean the bath. If you were able to do it without help you would. You need to send a letter certified mail, you are trying to do as they require to get your needed medical/dental needs met. They are the one that cannot fulfill the requirements they say have to be met.

They should send you a letter that they agree, have not been able to provide the needed in home care they asked for and should consent to payment for your dental care. If not, you will once again contact the local news so they may investigate the situation. I am just sick and tired of these insurance people saying you are not covered unless you do this and that when they are the ones not providing the service they say is mandatory. NOW IS THE TIME TO THROW A FIT!
 

hollydolly said:
So , are these people getting paid by the agency to be on their books even if they don't actually do any work ?.. I'm trying to figure out a reason why they are signed up to an agency and when their given a job they don't take it.. it's the only reason I can think of..
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No, she is not paid until she comes to my apartment and signs in by using my phone to call the number the agency has for this purpose. It is like a time clock I think. Then when she leaves she will call the number again from my phone.
 
Kaila said:
Even simply expecting someone, who doesn't come, is unsettling.
And in this situation, you did so much good planning around anticipating her coming, which makes sense for you to do. What an added disappointment and confusion, then though.
But as you said, you don't want anyone coming if they are actually sick. So right, what could you say?
Even more frustrating, though.
And yet it's very unsettling to be planning on it, and it doesn't happen. Repeatedly. Gosh, that is difficult.
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Right. I feel like I am just going to have to keep doing everything myself. At first I did not want an aide and only accepted it because this health insurance supplement said they will not pay for my dental procedure, transportation to medical appointments or vision without me using the aides. I can actually do what I need to do, just takes me longer. Some chores I just have to figure out how to do them due to my limitations.
 
Blessed said:
I guess I am weird. If I have signed up for a service and that person does not show up I would expect them to provide someone on call to come and take care of things that needed attention. If they say you need help, then you need help. You are waiting on someone to mop the floors, change the bed, clean the bath. If you were able to do it without help you would. You need to send a letter certified mail, you are trying to do as they require to get your needed medical/dental needs met. They are the one that cannot fulfill the requirements they say have to be met.

They should send you a letter that they agree, have not been able to provide the needed in home care they asked for and should consent to payment for your dental care. If not, you will once again contact the local news so they may investigate the situation. I am just sick and tired of these insurance people saying you are not covered unless you do this and that when they are the ones not providing the service they say is mandatory. NOW IS THE TIME TO THROW A FIT!
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You are right. I will wait and see what happens on Wednesday.
 
This morning I used the mug I normally use for water and ice tea for coffee. My other cups are too short for using the new frother in them. I was making a mess. So now I use the chocolate salt electrolytes and some cream and froth it to my hearts content. So good! I did not want to have to use a measuring cup for it because I need to keep it hot. Now I am thinking this cup might trigger my mug warmer. The mug warmer works good but none of my coffee mugs were heavy enough to make it turn on. It works by feel.

I marvel at the fact that I can now afford to have a grocery budget. When I was living at my house with my husband, I never had grocery money. Most times I would sell something on eBay and that would end up being for gas and some food. I amazed myself with the meals I would come up with from my garden produce and normal pantry baking ingredients. Back then I would attempt to eat low carbs, but could not stick to it due to being married and having to cook for two. Now I can easily buy meat. It can be expensive but when you do not have to buy breads, snacks and other side dishes you can buy meat. Protein and fat are key to good health when eating low carbs/keto.

I used to bake my own bread and what a time consuming job that was. Now I have gotten used to not eating bread and I don't miss it at all. Instead I make cornbread flavored chaffles (not made with cheese, though I do make that kind sometimes) and use them for sandwiches and such. I used to make quite a bit of cornbread in my cast iron skillets at my house. It would stretch a meal and was good. So the cornbread flavoring I have started using was a welcome addition to what some people call a boring keto diet. Not boring if you know how to cook!
 
I have one of those frothers, I got it for my husband before he passed so he could blend his coffee at home. Starbucks is ridiculous, I would by half and half in flavors, chocolate syrup and let him go at it. It was a something he enjoyed and I loved the savings in my budget. The one I have came with a magnetic stand so it was on the counter until it was accidently knocked off and broke the stand. I have purchased more of these for little Christmas gifts thru the years, people love them. I don't drink coffee but I have it tucked away if the kids do an overnight visit. There is always half and half here for my hot tea.
 
Blessed said:
Funny, I was at the walmart today. There was a lady, little older than me, she was asking a clerk where something was, jello. He did not know, I said, here let me show you. I took her down to that aisle. She laughed and said you should work here. I was thanks but no thanks, I worked long enough, I am done.
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I love this story of yours. It even got me to smile, which is important for me, today. 🥰
 
Kaila said:
I love this story of yours. It even got me to smile, which is important for me, today. 🥰
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What is happening, are you not feeling well or it just worry about the incoming bad weather? I understand, tell us and we will try to help.
 
@katlupe
My computer just went off for 10 minutes, then back on, but missing the post I had been writing, here.o_O:rolleyes:
As I was saying (you'll understand now, if this shows up twice, right? :oops::unsure:)

I am so very, very glad, that you took all the steps involved with moving away from that previous living situation of yours!🤩
I am sure it was very challenging at times, but so worth while. The right thing to do, it was. 🥰🥳
 
Blessed said:
What is happening, are you not feeling well or it just worry about the incoming bad weather? I understand, tell us and we will try to help.
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Thank you. I don't want to take over Katlupe's thread, but I do appreciate your caring! I was having multiple difficult issues, and worsening overall for about a week, and then now, in addition, I have the extra anxiety from worrying about the heat and electric going out, for who knows how long.
 
Kaila said:
Thank you. I don't want to take over Katlupe's thread, but I do appreciate your caring! I was having multiple difficult issues, and worsening overall for about a week, and then now, in addition, I have the extra anxiety from worrying about the heat and electric going out, for who knows how long.
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Every time there is a storm here that is all people talk about. More times than I can count it doesn't happen.......we do not lose our power. Living in an apartment the heat is something I cannot control. At my house, I had two wood stoves going all winter and never thought about things such as losing power. It is something to be concerned about now, but I have actually only lost it twice in the five years I have been here. Not fun but making sure I have cold food available at all times and having extra clothing to put on helps.
 
katlupe said:
I am so sad to say that I went to fakebook to check on Mr. Bigglesworth and he has given up the fight. He died in his owner's arms. So sad. I didn't know him personally but I loved him all the same. His last photo. R.I.P. Mr. Bigglesworth.

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I'm sad Mr. Bigglesworth passed. I thought although hairless, he was handsome. Sorry for you Kat, I know you loved him.
 
katlupe said:
This morning I used the mug I normally use for water and ice tea for coffee. My other cups are too short for using the new frother in them. I was making a mess. So now I use the chocolate salt electrolytes and some cream and froth it to my hearts content. So good! I did not want to have to use a measuring cup for it because I need to keep it hot. Now I am thinking this cup might trigger my mug warmer. The mug warmer works good but none of my coffee mugs were heavy enough to make it turn on. It works by feel.

I marvel at the fact that I can now afford to have a grocery budget. When I was living at my house with my husband, I never had grocery money. Most times I would sell something on eBay and that would end up being for gas and some food. I amazed myself with the meals I would come up with from my garden produce and normal pantry baking ingredients. Back then I would attempt to eat low carbs, but could not stick to it due to being married and having to cook for two. Now I can easily buy meat. It can be expensive but when you do not have to buy breads, snacks and other side dishes you can buy meat. Protein and fat are key to good health when eating low carbs/keto.

I used to bake my own bread and what a time consuming job that was. Now I have gotten used to not eating bread and I don't miss it at all. Instead I make cornbread flavored chaffles (not made with cheese, though I do make that kind sometimes) and use them for sandwiches and such. I used to make quite a bit of cornbread in my cast iron skillets at my house. It would stretch a meal and was good. So the cornbread flavoring I have started using was a welcome addition to what some people call a boring keto diet. Not boring if you know how to cook!
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I enjoy reading about your cooking and different combinations of chaffles. Chaffles have become a staple for me, thanks to you. I have never heard of the cornbread flavoring. Where can you get that?
 
Kaila said:
By the way, @katlupe
what is cornbread flavoring? :geek:
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palides2021 said:
I enjoy reading about your cooking and different combinations of chaffles. Chaffles have become a staple for me, thanks to you. I have never heard of the cornbread flavoring. Where can you get that?
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Cornbread flavoring is like using extracts. Smells and taste just like cornbread. Some are better than others. This is the last brand I bought. The one before this one raised the price by a lot so I changed brands.

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Cornbread Flavor
 
Things I expected and Things I was hoping for...

When growing up I expected the love of Mother, Sibling and Maternal Grandmother. Needless to say, I didn't get it. Mother had wanted a son for her second child, she got another daughter, no love there, but something's changed after my wedding. Things improved, phew!

Sibling, well I was the punching bag. Every time I'd success in school, I'd get a beating because she failed miserably at her studies.

Grandmother, she didn't like babies period! I guess having been born in 1893 and an admirer of Queen Victoria... That explains it, but no love...

Thankfully, I'd plenty of love from Papa and Maternal Grandfather who taught me archery, fishing, ice skating, roller skating, swimming and cycling. As well as acquiring skills for all sorts of minor DIY, and painting walls and interior decorating. As well as floorplans designs and car repairs. I still feel uncomfortable using a drill. Without hubby, daughter and I have hope that one neighbour's going to help us install our outdoor lighting. Fingers crossed!

In the years with hubby, we wanted Friday evening dinner parties. Sadly, didn't happen. We both worked hard all week and in weekends we wanted to have fun and entertain but all our coworkers only wanted to get sloshed and talk shop. Bummer!

We had attended many weddings, funerals, birthday parties and baby showers. So, we hoped to have the same returned. Nope, but wedding was just a few friends, although we did consider after my bridal attire disaster to run away and elope alone with strangers. Maybe we should have...

One thing remains very strange... I've two major love lost, our son then hubby, where I'd hoped to receive people for a wake afterwards. Both time, I made food for an army, no one came. We stored it and ate it the following weeks.

Two pregnancies, no baby showers. Just Mother gave us the two christening outfits and a box of second-hand baby clothes.

Honestly, I sometimes wish I could quantum leaped and change things around a bit. I'd still marry the same guy, he was wonderful. Organising other things, yeah, that's where I'd make changes. Better planning with other people.

When you're a person who loves helping others and sharing, well it was a bit lonesome. I'll be much more careful of whom I choose in my future retirement years.

Lessons learned!
 
Supernatural said:
Things I expected and Things I was hoping for...

When growing up I expected the love of Mother, Sibling and Maternal Grandmother. Needless to say, I didn't get it. Mother had wanted a son for her second child, she got another daughter, no love there, but something's changed after my wedding. Things improved, phew!

Sibling, well I was the punching bag. Every time I'd success in school, I'd get a beating because she failed miserably at her studies.

Grandmother, she didn't like babies period! I guess having been born in 1893 and an admirer of Queen Victoria... That explains it, but no love...

Thankfully, I'd plenty of love from Papa and Maternal Grandfather who taught me archery, fishing, ice skating, roller skating, swimming and cycling. As well as acquiring skills for all sorts of minor DIY, and painting walls and interior decorating. As well as floorplans designs and car repairs. I still feel uncomfortable using a drill. Without hubby, daughter and I have hope that one neighbour's going to help us install our outdoor lighting. Fingers crossed!

In the years with hubby, we wanted Friday evening dinner parties. Sadly, didn't happen. We both worked hard all week and in weekends we wanted to have fun and entertain but all our coworkers only wanted to get sloshed and talk shop. Bummer!

We had attended many weddings, funerals, birthday parties and baby showers. So, we hoped to have the same returned. Nope, but wedding was just a few friends, although we did consider after my bridal attire disaster to run away and elope alone with strangers. Maybe we should have...

One thing remains very strange... I've two major love lost, our son then hubby, where I'd hoped to receive people for a wake afterwards. Both time, I made food for an army, no one came. We stored it and ate it the following weeks.

Two pregnancies, no baby showers. Just Mother gave us the two christening outfits and a box of second-hand baby clothes.

Honestly, I sometimes wish I could quantum leaped and change things around a bit. I'd still marry the same guy, he was wonderful. Organising other things, yeah, that's where I'd make changes. Better planning with other people.

When you're a person who loves helping others and sharing, well it was a bit lonesome. I'll be much more careful of whom I choose in my future retirement years.

Lessons learned!
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@Supernatural, I am sorry you went through all this! I also am a widow, so I can relate. Just so you know, this is @katlupe's diary. You might consider doing a diary thread of your own. Just an idea. I also started one of my own.
 

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