Let Things Lie

Medusa said:
I'm not sure how to reply to this as I don't completely agree with it (so a "like" doesn't quite work), don't completely disagree with it (the angry face would be way out of bounds), but also have nothing to add to it. Yet, I don't want to ignore it as that would imply, well, that I'm ignoring it for some reason.

Hence: Noted. 🙃

We need a ✅ emoji.
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I agree a ✅ emoji would be very useful. I'd use it to say, "I read your post, understand what you're saying, and get where you're coming from."

That doesn't imply I agree with a stance, think their life situation is "likable" or requires a hug, sadness or anger on my part. It's simply a statement that I took the time to read what they had to say and know them a bit better because of it.

People aren't always hoping to be supported or agreed with, simply being heard is often enough.
 
StarSong said:
I agree a ✅ emoji would be very useful. I'd use it to say, "I read your post, understand what you're saying, and get where you're coming from."

That doesn't imply I agree with a stance, think their life situation is "likable" or requires a hug, sadness or anger on my part. It's simply a statement that I took the time to read what they had to say and know them a bit better because of it.

People aren't always hoping to be supported or agreed with, simply being heard is often enough.
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In those instances I just use the thumbs up ''like '' buton which I used on your post just now Star.. often it's to say a person is not being ignored and that I've read and liked their post... other times it means I agree with their post..or at least agree with the sentiments..
 
Magna-Carta said:
There are things I see in posts that I might only partly agree with, but significantly enough for me to click 'Like'. There are some things in other posts that I might not mostly agree with, but I might click ‘Like’ because of how it was put over. Personally, I try not to read too much into people’s emoji’s. If people really want me to fully understand their reaction to a post of mine, tell me using words instead. I’m not going to judge someone’s reaction to much from an emoji. I think that would be a bit silly. It amazes me how many seem to read a novel into other peoples emojis.
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Medusa said:
For me, the "Like" button is too close to indicating (or being interpreted as) my actually agreeing with the content of the post, which I don't, completely or I'd "Like" it. That's how I interpret the "Like," anyway and consequently, I'm reticent to use it in that way.

I'm tell'n ya, I need a ✅. ;)
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I was on a Xenforo-powered forum like this once and they had, as well as a Like button, a 'Read' button if you just wanted to signal that you had read the post without actually giving it a like. More neutral in a way

Elsewhere, I've also seen a 'Dislike' button, which some might prefer to have as an option. I guess Matrix is the guy to ask if you want that..
 
Medusa said:
Hover over the member's avatar and click the "ignore" button.
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I don't see that as "blocking" though, in that some members say they block othere's. As I see it there is no blocking of the other member as some have described it . In the use of "Ignore", the only blocking that is happening is the blocking of oneself. Blocking oneself from seeing othere's. Though's othere's still being free to respond and reply to and to "Like" any post, posted by anyone.
 
Ah I see said the blind man!! - the process reminds me of how the well known french actor/producer/comedian Jacques Tati would deal with the need to block someone - finish up blocking himself!!
 
Balzac said:
I was on a Xenforo-powered forum like this once and they had, as well as a Like button, a 'Read' button if you just wanted to signal that you had read the post without actually giving it a like. More neutral in a way

Elsewhere, I've also seen a 'Dislike' button, which some might prefer to have as an option. I guess Matrix is the guy to ask if you want that..
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it's been asked before. This is a standard forum these emoticons are part of the forum.

One of the worst forms of Bullying I saw on a British forum..which thankfully is now defunct was when there was a dislike button. This forum twisted sisters clique had homed in on a really nice woman when they smelled she was easily bullied.. and she could have just posted that the sky was blue, and 20 DISLIKE buttons were pressed.. if she posted Good morning..or Merry Christmas.. she was drowning in Dislike emoticons.. terrible... ..
 
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davey said:
nah that is only your interpretation it can mean different things to different peoples - this after all is an international site heh - the tickk symbol to me from say uk or oz means - yes I agree with your sentiment and even I have your back?
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And there lies the problem. Not necessarily in the emoji itself, but the way in which it might be interpreted. The same person might even interpret it differently on different occasions.

As previously mentioned by another poster, use them with care, but that doesn’t mean the person posting them should feel responsible for how the other person ‘sees’ them.
 
davey said:
Ah I see said the blind man!! - the process reminds me of how the well known french actor/producer/comedian Jacques Tati would deal with the need to block someone - finish up blocking himself!!
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Would this person be a "Blind man on a galloping horse"?
 
Magna-Carta said:
And there lies the problem. Not necessarily in the emoji itself, but the way in which it might be interpreted. The same person might even interpret it differently on different occasions.

As previously mentioned by another poster, use them with care, but that doesn’t mean the person posting them should feel responsible for how the other person ‘sees’ them.
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And some folks are just determined to take umbrage at any little thing they think they can use.....
 
hearlady said:
So many times there are the inevitable squabbles that come with participating in a forum with so many different people from so many cultures and values. I think it's fine, in fact I love the (usually) healthy debate.
One thing we have in common is that we're seniors. Most people at this point have wisdom and common sense.
So, when there is a squabble and it dies down and people get back to the discussion, why oh why must someone always come back in with a comment even in support of a poster? Just let it go. Its over (or so we thought.)
I'm not lecturing, I'm requesting. I won't respond to comments on this thread. I won't debate.
I won't reply, I'll let it lie.
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Some of us are more senior than others :giggle:
 
davey said:
nah that is only your interpretation it can mean different things to different peoples - this after all is an international site heh - the tickk symbol to me from say uk or oz means - yes I agree with your sentiment and even I have your back?
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Yes, that's my interpretation. That's why I said, "For me..." ;) 🙃
 
Balzac said:
I was on a Xenforo-powered forum like this once and they had, as well as a Like button, a 'Read' button if you just wanted to signal that you had read the post without actually giving it a like. More neutral in a way

Elsewhere, I've also seen a 'Dislike' button, which some might prefer to have as an option. I guess Matrix is the guy to ask if you want that..
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I had to look up, "Xenforo-powered forum." lol - I see it's a company of some sort that, um, powers forums.
Anyway, while I like the idea of a, "Read" button, I'm really warming to my ✅ . :)
 
Medusa said:
I had to look up, "Xenforo-powered forum." lol - I see it's a company of some sort that, um, powers forums.
Anyway, while I like the idea of a, "Read" button, I'm really warming to my ✅ . :)
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I'm now warming to it too. It would only work though if everyone, and future member to come, knew what its purpose was, or had become. I don't know what options there might be available for renaming this check mark as a "Read" mark or similar.
 
Magna-Carta said:
I'm now warming to it too. It would only work though if everyone, and future member to come, knew what its purpose was, or had become. I don't know what options there might be available for renaming this check mark as a "Read" mark or similar.
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It doesn't need to be all that serious. I'll use my little checks, (and you can too, if you want), follow them with "Got it." or "Gotcha" or "Acknowledged." or "Read and Appreciated." Actually, I like that last one. And people will get my meaning. :)
 
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