Let Things Lie

Balzac said:
I was on a Xenforo-powered forum like this once and they had, as well as a Like button, a 'Read' button if you just wanted to signal that you had read the post without actually giving it a like. More neutral in a way

Elsewhere, I've also seen a 'Dislike' button, which some might prefer to have as an option. I guess Matrix is the guy to ask if you want that..
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I really like the idea of a neutral button meaning you’ve read it. It leaves no room for interpretation which is I think is better. You don’t even have to say or show whether you agree or not.
 
davey said:
that sounds a bit frustrating - yes we've all read it but choose to say no more - nah that's a bit of a cop out ?/
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I’m not suggesting we choose to say no more. Of course anyone can add to the conversation. I’m suggesting the neutral emoji would be less frustrating for those who tend to read into things. No cop out.
 
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PeppermintPatty said:
I’m not suggesting we choose to say no more. Of course anyone can add to the conversation. I’m suggestion that the neutral emoji would be less frustrating for those who tend to read into things. No cop out.
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It is in no way a cop out, but a way of doing the opposite in letting people know you've read and understood their words, but simply have nothing to add.
 
davey said:
but aren't these meant to be discussion threads?
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It’s ok if you want to answer to every post you read. Nobody is trying to change your mind. If you don’t wish to do things the same as anyone else, that’s ok. That’s what makes us different.

Not long ago we had a 95 page thread about the WOW 😮 emoji. If you read that, you’ll discover that many members become offended by some of these emojis for various reasons.

With myself, since I’m generally so expressive, I tend to use emojis often.
I’ve been asked a few times why I’ve used an emoji and have also asked why someone else used an emoji. Once I added a laughing face since I thought a poster was being sarcastic. Turns out I was wrong so I respectfully explained my reasoning. I also apologized for my emoji face since the member seemed a bit offended.

Later I asked about an emoji a member used which unfortunately turned into needless animosity. From reading this thread, you will find others with similar stories.
https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/the-wow-emoji.81979/page-4#post-2513031
We as users of these emojis know why we are using them, others may not understand which can actually cause friction hence the reason why a neutral checkmark ✅ might be a good emoji choice.
 
So ridiculous to get offended in a forum. Just My Humble Opinion, nothing more. Don't tell me one gets wiser with age. We don't.

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in fact, I know many people from childhood. They are the same they were at five years old. Maybe know more stuff, but their personalities are exactly the same.
 
I agree that a neutral "I read it; I get it" emoji would be helpful.

It would be an acknowledgment of having read and understood a post without adding that you "like" it (or love/are angry about it, etc.) I think that would be a great addition to the forum.
 
Pepper said:
So ridiculous to get offended in a forum. Just My Humble Opinion, nothing more. Don't tell me one gets wiser with age. We don't.
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It is ridiculous to get offended in a forum but many members I’ve known DO get offended including you and I. It happens. We are human with human emotions and we express them. We are also getting older, possibly more grumpier with a touch of dementia creeping in and to be brutally honest, lately there seem to be a lot more agitated people in the world. I’m not exactly sure why but it doesn’t really surprise me that some of it is expressed here. To me, I don’t think expressing anger is the main problem. I think holding resentments and animosity towards others after being offended is what causes the most friction on forums. That’s when gossip between members start which then turns into cliques. It’s not an insult to the forum. Every forum has animosity and cliques that comes with the territory of forum life.
 
186 posts and most of them are complaints about other members so clearly there’s some anonymity and some are members offended.
Even if I took myself out of this equation, I still think this thread would continue with just as many members offended. I have no solution but I do think this thread is about membership animosity which I don’t think will ever be resolved.
 
Pepper said:
You are so right when you say there's a lot more agitated people in the world. So right. Such tension, you can feel the seething. Thanks for your comment.
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There is. It ‘feels like’ and visually appears, that humanity on a global level , are becoming more and more agitated. There’s far more aggression being shown internationally making it even more difficult to pinpoint what’s causing it.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s not the electromagnetic radiation we get from our phones . Apparent it’s bad to have our phones anywhere near our head.

“Is it bad to sleep with your phone beside you? Yes, usually speaking, it's not a good idea to sleep with your phone nearby. Sleep quality may suffer if you keep your phone close to your head while trying to slumber because it emits electromagnetic radiation.”

Sometimes I wonder if it’s side effects from the Covid vaccinations. These are just thoughts . I’m not actually suggesting that these actually are , side effects from the vaccines

Sometimes I think the world is changing so fast that people are panicking and becoming agitated. Mass shootings have become a daily occurrence, forest fires, floods, hurricanes, tornados, pandemics, inflation soaring, radical animosity, political animosity might be having a huge impact on our mental health but how could it not. It affects us ALL.
We are ALL in this together.

Maybe we could all try and be kinder towards each other or at least try to be somewhat tolerant. I know , without a doubt, that I can do better.
 
First, if you hover your mouse over an emoji a little popup will give you a description. For example, the blue checkmark says "Like", the red heart says, "Love". That's what the emoji means and it's enough for me but maybe not for everyone.

Second, this thread and the previous ones about blocking, the meaning of emojis and offense have made me wonder, what if this wasn't a forum but was instead independent senior living? Obviously the topic wouldn't be emojis but something would cause offense and replace the emojis in the conversation.

How would being in-person change the dynamic of these conversations when offense reared its head? I would be fascinated to hear any responses to my question.
 
Myrtle said:
First, if you hover your mouse over an emoji a little popup will give you a description. For example, the blue checkmark says "Like", the red heart says, "Love". That's what the emoji means and it's enough for me but maybe not for everyone.

Second, this thread and the previous ones about blocking, the meaning of emojis and offense have made me wonder, what if this wasn't a forum but was instead independent senior living? Obviously the topic wouldn't be emojis but something would cause offense and replace the emojis in the conversation.

How would being in-person change the dynamic of these conversations when offense reared its head? I would be fascinated to hear any responses to my question.
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I'd probably STILL be laughing and shaking my head......
 
Myrtle said:
My post was not intended to scare anyone and I didn't use any emojis. I just talked about them. If you prefer I will remove the post.
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Oh goodness. I sincerely hope you’re kidding 🤷‍♀️
Of course I don’t want or need you to remove your post. Lol. Awww!
And of course you didn’t scare me. I can do that completely on my own. There was no blame placed on you or anyone for that matter.

Is this a ‘politically correct’ thing?
Maybe?
I don’t know.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Oh goodness. I sincerely hope you’re kidding 🤷‍♀️
Of course I don’t want or need you to remove your post. Lol. Awww!
And of course you didn’t scare me. I can do that completely on my own. There was no blame placed on you or anyone for that matter.

Is this a ‘politically correct’ thing?
Maybe?
I don’t know.
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I am kidding and I'm not at the same time.

Here's a point about emojis. I thought you were kidding when you said you were scared to comment, Patti. A winking emoji would have confirmed my thought. If I somehow managed to make something bad out of it after the emoji that's on me. No, not politically correct, just kind of a rude way to make an emoji example on my part but please, emote with emojis. They work for me and I think they work for a lot of others too. And yes, if my post really had upset you I would remove it out of respect.

Here's why I asked the question about in-person. It's a genuine question. I've been making plans for senior living (to happen someday) and I have a lot of doubts. I honestly do wonder how awful might it be if people in independent senior living got into a big days long discussion about offense. Humor me, please. I know it's a selfish question and is not meant to cast aspersions on anyone here..

🤗 This is for you, Patty.

🤗 This one is for OldAunt.

🤗 And here's one for everyone else.
 
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