Have Any Folks Here Started the Dying Process?

I do live each day to the max since it could be my last. In event I am still getting to my PC daily and like to play chess at Chess.com and Civilization VI at Steam.com. There is no point in fearing death since EVERY person WILL experience it.

I also listen to a lot of Christian music to remind me that Christ takes us all in the end. This is one I play a lot:

 

davey said:
So mrstime; who will make the final decision about how much longer you will be using the oxygen hose that you keep dragging around ? - will it be you or a family member or your do
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It will end when I die. The hose is such an irritant because I have to keep it out of DH's way. He can't walk very well , falls too often and I do not want the hose to be the reason he takes a fall. So whatever I do I have to be making sure that damned hose is out of his way.
 
last night on the porch I sat looking at the same scenes well not exactly they're always changing ; but I then realized what is the point of asking the same questions and wondering why ; and then it struck me - perhaps as always this is supposed to be a 'learning experience' without daydreams or wildly swirling questions in my mind "what if"? And then the realizations came:

Every decision I have ever made in my life about me and others and life in general has brought me to this place in time : whether I want it or like it or not this is why I am here. To truly face reality for the first time ever perhaps? Is it heart warming? - not necessarily but there may be few other options now.

I can't change any of that past which I changed for myself but I can at least apologize to those affected and remaining? and perhaps to the spirits in pray? And I may even still continue to make wrong decisions and choices in these few remaining years.Such are the failings and falabilities of humans. And why are we sometimes so dumb? - We always have 'free will' it's even in the Bible!

We have risen and fallen by our own hands usually and so only need to thank ; or praise ; blame and learn for ouselves again?

Lesson 1 - be wiser with your decision making - always make them with love and consideration for others and our limited universe. [there may not be any further lessons ?]

I think my boab tree has become a sorta 'tree of knowledge' in a way which stands neither negative or positive ; just neutral and simple says this is your tale - think wisely from now on.

 
PS: there is another exercise you could carry out but it is often painful and will not bring about any changes for current states of your life? some might wanna call it :

THE DECISION MAKING---RESULTS MATRIX FROM [ PICK YOUR OWN AGE - I WOULD SUGGEST 16 YRS] 16 YRS TO NOW SHOWING ALL SIGNIFICANT DECISIONS AND THE RESULTS AS YOU CAN RECALL

retrospectively - would you change any and why and what might have been the significant result - this can be a painful process beware?
 
welcome @gruntlabor - you've started at the best end and can wave us all on our way! - but heh do share a bit more - how you really feel about it all - but until then I will continue:

I have a dear friend who I have known for 60 odd summat years - we trained together; partied together ; worked together ; married separately for some reason ; then brought our kids up together and socialized a bit more and a bit more. Finally I returned to UK and visited him and he returned the favor and came to OZ to visit. I would ring him every 2/3mths and we would chat for 30mins - always have a laugh and he would tell me how bad UK was becoming and how he wished he got out years ago! - I spoke to him approx 3 wks ago and now he is dead and I will attend his funeral by zoom feature next week. I am in mourning of course - but life goes on - if there is anyone on this planet able to give me a bit of advise and encouragement for the future it would be him......................I'll keep you all posted. ✝️✝️✝️
 
davey said:
some of us cannot afford to purchase it?
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Maybe your library would have it. I tried googling and there seem to be some free PDF downloads of it, but I wouldn't feel comfortably myself downloading unless I knew the site had good security.

I found something on YouTube about it, but I haven't watched it (yet):

 
HoneyNut said:
Maybe your library would have it. I tried googling and there seem to be some free PDF downloads of it, but I wouldn't feel comfortably myself downloading unless I knew the site had good security.

I found something on YouTube about it, but I haven't watched it (yet):

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Thank you for the video. I watched it and then one about our brains and my head is full of ideas. Like is reality much more than our senses perceive and is birth and death really our beginning and end? Or is there more?
 
Old Salt said:
When my wife was dying the doctors actually advised us to leave the ICU. Their opinion: The dying clung too much to the last bit of life when loved ones were around! We couldn't get ourselves to leave, though!
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When my darling mother was in the last stages of dying, my sister kept saying, "Don't leave us ". I told her we have to give her permission to leave and that everything was under control at home. Immediately Mother slowly drifted away, she had a peaceful departure.
 
yes seen a lot of that - had a mate with various ailments on his way out - his whole family turned up one night and just sat and stood around his hospital bed as he laid with labored breathing. The well experienced nurse came in and said I've made a nice pot of tea if you'll all come out for a moment and drink it with me.Which they did - they needed a break and a cuppa. 20 mins later they walked back in his room and he had gone. The nurse explained "it often happens like that they just need permission from you all to say goodbye and leave you" ??
 
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My husband did the same thing, I was at the hospital, he was in ICU. I spent the morning with him, he was awake and alert, fine. Around noon, I excused myself, the nurse was in the room checking his vitals, making sure he was good.

I went downstairs to grab a bite to eat, it could not have been 10 minutes, I heard them call a code to his room. I got right back up there, they were working on him but he had gone. They said they have seen it often, they wait for there love ones to be away and then take their leave so as not to have us in the room. I still can not let this go, I should have been there, holding his hand but I could not get back in the room. There were so many in there trying to help him. I still feel my voice, my touch, should have been the last thing before he left.
 
Blessed said:
My husband did the same thing, I was at the hospital, he was in ICU. I spent the morning with him, he was awake and alert, fine. Around noon, I excused myself, the nurse was in the room checking his vitals, making sure he was good.

I went downstairs to grab a bite to eat, it could not have been 10 minutes, I heard them call a code to his room. I got right back up there, they were working on him but he had gone. They said they have seen it often, they wait for there love ones to be away and then take their leave so as not to have us in the room. I still can not let this go, I should have been there, holding his hand but I could not get back in the room. There were so many in there trying to help him. I still feel my voice, my touch, should have been the last thing before he left.
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but that is the problem your voice and touch were preventing him from 'taking his leave' and unfortunately he needed to do so. You were seemingly holding him back?
 
davey said:
but that is the problem your voice and touch were preventing him from 'taking his leave' and unfortunately he needed to do so. You were seemingly holding him back?
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Davey, you don't get it, I had been taking care of him and everything else for the 5 years since his diagnosis. I saw him suffer, I did all the hard things to make sure he was taken care of. Yes, I did not want him to go but if it had to happen I deserved those last minutes to tell him how much I loved him, it was okay, his son and I would do our best to make him proud. The loss and the pain is still unbearable twelve years later. We knew this would happen, it was inevitable so I do not why it happened this way. I wish I could explain it better so you could understand.
 
I worked in hospitals and saw this over and over again - yes I understand you wanting those last minutes to say goodbye I love you but for some strange phenomena that is the very thing that prevents your loved one passing on - perhaps your life force was subconsciously holding him back - we have to let them go alone - I can't explain it any better either - it is a mistery as is the father - son - and holy ghost to some people?
 
At 61 I am most likely a little young to have seriously started the dying process.
Though we can go at any moment, without notice.
So I have started the process of my last will and testament, including a residual bequest to the Smith Family.
No one else to leave my estate to, might as well do some good with my assets after I am gone.
 
Some couple of years back I was in hospital with no thoughts of dying and no reason to think I was when my heart just stopped. A few years ago that would have been the end and a very short dying stage, now we are kicked back to life again with shock resuscitation. I remember well feeling fine at the time and was only disappointed to find that there was nothing on the other side, the 15 waiting virgins are a myth. So back to the earthy daily grind and hauling myself up ladders and worrying about bills and the grass growing. Still, when the time does come, I will miss not seeing the family fighting for my assets.
 
davey said:
some of us cannot afford to purchase it? - maybe a few examples could be explored from the good book? or maybe I'll just die anyway?
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Yeah it isn’t about how to achieve mortality, that comes naturally. But I thought it gives a useful view of the path ahead with ideas of hazards to avoid (falling and broken ribs from extraordinary measures being taken to revive) and what the various varieties and levels of assistance can be like to live with. Funny but reading this led to my staying out of trees and off tall ladders which I used to climb regularly to prune my garden.
 
By the way, my pain is fully controlled. At approximately 8 AM every day I take 3 glasses of juice with 2 Senna Plus tablets, 1,000 mg of Tylenol, and 81 mg of aspirin, at approximately 2 PM I take 2 glasses of juice with 1,000 mg of Tylenol, at 6 PM I take 2 glasses of juice with 2 Senna Plus tablets and my vitamins and at 10 PM I take 1 glass of juice with 1,000 mg of Tylenol and 200 mg of Gabapentin.

The Tylenol and Gabapentin control my pain totally and I only needed a prescription for the Gabapentin written my Geriatrician. The Senna Plus tablets insures a good bowel movement every 3 days for me. Taking 8 glasses of juice daily insures adequate fluids in my system. The 81 mg of Aspirin daily prevents heart attacks and so far that is working fine.

My Geriatrician told me on 4/21/2023 that I would die in one year approximately.

Finally, I keep enjoying myself every day by playing chess at Chess.com and Civilization VI at Steam.com which uses up most of my waking hours. I also have decided many years ago to ACCEPT EVERYTHING that happens to me without anxiety, worry or fear.
 
Mr. Ed said:
Started my dying process at birth. Waiting for time to kick in.
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I didn't know what was meant by dying process so I Googled the definition.

a progressive and nonreversible loss of vital functions that results in the end of life. The transition from health to death can be swift or extended, predictable or unpredictable, depending on the specific life-threatening condition, the vigor of the patient, and the treatment available.

dying process - APA Dictionary of Psychology

https://dictionary.apa.org/dying-process



I'm with Mr. Ed. Luckily the health part hasn't been all that bad. Not so sure anymore with the deranged people on killing sprees that won't beat out the health issues.
 
davey said:
welcome @gruntlabor - you've started at the best end and can wave us all on our way! - but heh do share a bit more - how you really feel about it all - but until then I will continue:
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:) Thank you, Davey. I try not to think about it --bad luck maybe. But some of us will welcome death, and some of us will
"Rage, rage against the dying of the light". --Dylan Thomas

** Two hunters, three game wardens, a farmer, and a cow. **
 

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