Have Any Folks Here Started the Dying Process?

[Sassycakes]

I say a prayer every night that I die before my husband. I don't want to live one day without him.

 

[davey]

how will your husband feel and manage without you - have you considered?

 

[oscash]

There is a wonderful book called "On Death and Dying"., by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. It explores how the imminent death affects the patient, the Professionals who serve the patient and the patient - finally.

Some couple of years back I was in hospital with no thoughts of dying and no reason to think I was when my heart just stopped. A few years ago that would have been the end and a very short dying stage, now we are kicked back to life again with shock resuscitation. I remember well feeling fine at the time and was only disappointed to find that there was nothing on the other side, the 15 waiting virgins are a myth. So back to the earthy daily grind and hauling myself up ladders and worrying about bills and the grass growing. Still, when the time does come, I will miss not seeing the family fighting for my assets.

 

[oscash]

Some couple of years back I was in hospital with no thoughts of dying and no reason to think I was when my heart just stopped. A few years ago that would have been the end and a very short dying stage, now we are kicked back to life again with shock resuscitation. I remember well feeling fine at the time and was only disappointed to find that there was nothing on the other side, the 15 waiting virgins are a myth. So back to the earthy daily grind and hauling myself up ladders and worrying about bills and the grass growing. Still, when the time does come, I will miss not seeing the family fighting for my assets.

Unless you are a Muslim, there won't be 15 Virgins waiting for you.

 

[davey]

just finished watching the last half of "Fatima" about the three Portuguese children who could see and speak to the Virgin Mary - very old now but of course in a way mystical and timeless

 

[oscash]

Our school - in the 50's, had to go to the local theatre to watch that movie., "The Miracle of Fatima" and had to answer the questions on an exam paper later in the week.

 

[davey]

how did you do then?

 

[Teacher Terry]

Everyone is different. Some people wait for their loved ones to leave the room and then they die and others hold on until their loved ones arrive. Each of our souls knows what we need.

 

[Avon]

I say a prayer every night that I die before my husband. I don't want to live one day without him.

If my wife dies, I go with her. I find suicide very attractive, having lived a life of value, and find todays so called living the utter pits.

 

[Capt Lightning]

We're too busy living to think about dying. We know that we'll all go sometime, but while we're here, it's lets enjoy our time as best we can.

 

[davey]

If my wife dies, I go with her. I find suicide very attractive, having lived a life of value, and find todays so called living the utter pits.

wot about our last beer together??

 

[Chris21E]

At the independent senior complex, a gentleman was upset his wife in hospice did not want him to visit.

I do understand, dying is such a solitary thing, being born is a shock, and dying is expected but a surprise when it starts

I remember starting It, and did not feel that bad, had a sense of leaving and was not upset or hurting. They brought me back and that hurt. All I wish for is not to feel this bad. Overthinking is the issue. I wish Peace to everyone.

 

[mrstime]

It will end when I die. The hose is such an irritant because I have to keep it out of DH's way. He can't walk very well , falls too often and I do not want the hose to be the reason he takes a fall. So whatever I do I have to be making sure that damned hose is out of his way.

The other day DH told me our neighbor's oxygen hose is so neat and straight. Of course it is, she is a widow and lives alone.

 

[Georgiagranny]

@Mitch86 Your obsession with dying?

 

[davey]

By the way, my pain is fully controlled. At approximately 8 AM every day I take 3 glasses of juice with 2 Senna Plus tablets, 1,000 mg of Tylenol, and 81 mg of aspirin, at approximately 2 PM I take 2 glasses of juice with 1,000 mg of Tylenol, at 6 PM I take 2 glasses of juice with 2 Senna Plus tablets and my vitamins and at 10 PM I take 1 glass of juice with 1,000 mg of Tylenol and 200 mg of Gabapentin.

The Tylenol and Gabapentin control my pain totally and I only needed a prescription for the Gabapentin written my Geriatrician. The Senna Plus tablets insures a good bowel movement every 3 days for me. Taking 8 glasses of juice daily insures adequate fluids in my system. The 81 mg of Aspirin daily prevents heart attacks and so far that is working fine.

My Geriatrician told me on 4/21/2023 that I would die in one year approximately.

Finally, I keep enjoying myself every day by playing chess at Chess.com and Civilization VI at Steam.com which uses up most of my waking hours. I also have decided many years ago to ACCEPT EVERYTHING that happens to me without anxiety, worry or fear.

did you request this information specifically? - having worked in the illhealth professions myself - each group of professionals would have different views on 'telling the patient when they would die" ! - others might comment that your doctor is only guessing and doesn't really know or is using that old game changing - the law of probabilities that sometimes is incorrect. And then finally there is the question of ethics - " should any health professional be able to predict the death of their patient" - whole heap of imponderables there to tease out?

 

[Avon]

wot about our last beer together??

The answer is in my will, it is a dead giveaway.

 

[davey]

oh you mean we're goin together ??- that's neat mate - how did ya wangle that one? - wot was that you said only if your better half goes before us|? - fair does!!