Worrying: Do You Relate?🥺😗🙃🥲😐🥴😏

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

Caregiver
Location
Midwest
Do you relate to worrying in any way? Or what are your thoughts on it?

I worry about my brother every day. He has MS and doesn't even want to talk about it much. He's told me he doesn't want to attribute everything to it and just knows he has to take a medicine 💊 to stay ok. I can accept that but worry he may be getting worse even though I have no grounds for that.

So, how do you relate to worrying?
 

I'm a worry wart. I lay in bed at night and worry. About my family, about my friends, about the state of the country. Is that a new weird noise my car is making? What the heck is wrong with my washer? How much higher is the next property insurance going to be? Why is the light over the sink flickering? Am I ever going to lose some weight? How much longer is my liver going to last? Why does my hip hurt so much? How are my sister's medical tests going to turn out? Why did we pay all that money for pest service and there are still ants in the garage?

WHERE THE HELL IS THAT $#@&%!* AIR CONDITIONING REPAIRMAN???

Sweating and worrying are a lethal combination.
 
I feel like that is tatooed on my forehead. I have worried so long for the people I loved that it drove me to madness. My husband, mother and mother in law have now passed but it was beyond hard when they were sick.

Now I worry about my son, his wife and my grandson. I try to keep it under control. When they lived with me, I was good, I knew where they were, what was happening, that they ate well and taken care of when they did not feel well. Now, they have a home of their own, I am not privy to what is going on daily, I should not but I do worry.

I still have a little panic attack every time I hear an ambulance. I know they are not coming to my house but it was frequent during the time I was taking care of loved ones. That sound still makes me panic, I worry about who is in trouble, who is suffering. I still have to make sure they are not turning on my street. There are only 12 homes on my street, and we have lost so many in just a little area. We are always aware if a neighbor is ill, so if an ambulance turns here it is frightening for all of us.
 

jujube said:
I'm a worry wart. I lay in bed at night and worry. About my family, about my friends, about the state of the country. Is that a new weird noise my car is making? What the heck is wrong with my washer? How much higher is the next property insurance going to be? Why is the light over the sink flickering? Am I ever going to lose some weight? How much longer is my liver going to last? Why does my hip hurt so much? How are my sister's medical tests going to turn out? Why did we pay all that money for pest service and there are still ants in the garage?

WHERE THE HELL IS THAT $#@&%!* AIR CONDITIONING REPAIRMAN???

Sweating and worrying are a lethal combination.
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I am so sorry you are suffering so much. Did you inform them you were older, that the heat is dangerous for you. Sometimes that will bump you to the top of the list here in Texas. I just can't do the heat, if it was me I would have to go to a hotel. They would not be happy to see me and my 3 dogs at check in. I have a couple of pet friendly places nearby, I feel lucky to have that option should I need it.

We are suffering a heat wave right now. The power companies are asking us to watch and or curtail how much we are using. There have been cooling stations opened all over the area. So many don't have AC or the money to pay high bills. They provide them a place to go and keep cool during the day. This is also a haven for the homeless. Too many die from the heat, there is no reason they should, that is why we have these locations to everyone that needs it.
 
jujube said:
I'm a worry wart. I lay in bed at night and worry. About my family, about my friends, about the state of the country. Is that a new weird noise my car is making? What the heck is wrong with my washer? How much higher is the next property insurance going to be? Why is the light over the sink flickering? Am I ever going to lose some weight? How much longer is my liver going to last? Why does my hip hurt so much? How are my sister's medical tests going to turn out? Why did we pay all that money for pest service and there are still ants in the garage?

WHERE THE HELL IS THAT $#@&%!* AIR CONDITIONING REPAIRMAN???

Sweating and worrying are a lethal combination.
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You are not alone. I worry about many things same as you and a lot of the same things. We know it doesn't help us to worry but we still do it. I have to take something to sleep often because of worrying. If I don't take something I lay there and think the worst things are going to happen. Truth is that both bad and good things are going to happen regardless of how much I worry.
 
Blessed said:
I feel like that is tatooed on my forehead. I have worried so long for the people I loved that it drove me to madness. My husband, mother and mother in law have now passed but it was beyond hard when they were sick.

Now I worry about my son, his wife and my grandson. I try to keep it under control. When they lived with me, I was good, I knew where they were, what was happening, that they ate well and taken care of when they did not feel well. Now, they have a home of their own, I am not privy to what is going on daily, I should not but I do worry.

I still have a little panic attack every time I hear an ambulance. I know they are not coming to my house but it was frequent during the time I was taking care of loved ones. That sound still makes me panic, I worry about who is in trouble, who is suffering. I still have to make sure they are not turning on my street. There are only 12 homes on my street, and we have lost so many in just a little area. We are always aware if a neighbor is ill, so if an ambulance turns here it is frightening for all of us.
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Oh wow can I relate. I hope things will improve for you. So many of us worry like crazy. It's obvious you are a good, kind soul and I hope you know that. You try your best and that's all all of us can do. 🤗 Hug.
 
I worry a lot more since my husband died. Responsibilities that we shared now fall solely on me. He was very handy and could fix a lot of things, now I do what I can. Hiring people is expensive and trying to hire someone for any job is frustrating, even for big jobs because they're so busy. It's almost impossible to find anyone willing to do smaller jobs. If you find someone who's willing to do it they rake you over the coals and overcharge you to make it worth their while. I'm just trying to keep everything together the best I can. Sometimes I feel chucking it all and running away to join the circus. 🎪 🏃‍♀️

Is It Too Late to Run Away and Join the Circus? : An Guide to Your ...
 
Bella said:
I worry a lot more since my husband died. Responsibilities that we shared now fall solely on me. He was very handy and could fix a lot of things, now I do what I can. Hiring people is expensive and trying to hire someone for any job is frustrating, even for big jobs because they're so busy. It's almost impossible to find anyone willing to do smaller jobs. If you find someone who's willing to do it they rake you over the coals and overcharge you to make it worth their while. I'm just trying to keep everything together the best I can. Sometimes I feel chucking it all and running away to join the circus. 🎪 🏃‍♀️

Is It Too Late to Run Away and Join the Circus? : An Guide to Your ...
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I have been walking in your shoes for a long time. I understand how hard it is, sometimes if it is not urgent I just throw in the towel and wait until I have the strength to do it. It is never easy to have strangers in your home.
 
Bella said:
I worry a lot more since my husband died. Responsibilities that we shared now fall solely on me. He was very handy and could fix a lot of things, now I do what I can. Hiring people is expensive and trying to hire someone for any job is frustrating, even for big jobs because they're so busy. It's almost impossible to find anyone willing to do smaller jobs. If you find someone who's willing to do it they rake you over the coals and overcharge you to make it worth their while. I'm just trying to keep everything together the best I can. Sometimes I feel chucking it all and running away to join the circus. 🎪 🏃‍♀️
Is It Too Late to Run Away and Join the Circus? : An Guide to Your ...
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Do you have a senior center in your area? They may be able to provide you with good responsible people to help you get things done. I know it's very hard dealing with this stuff. I wish you peace and best of luck 🤞
 
Ruthanne said:
Do you have a senior center in your area? They may be able to provide you with good responsible people to help you get things done. I know it's very hard dealing with this stuff. I wish you peace and best of luck 🤞
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Thanks for the suggestion, Ruthie. :) There's one senior center in my area, and it's full of very old people. They provide recreational and social activities and entertainment for seniors but don't offer any outside services. I've also contacted the Area Agency on Aging and they don't offer the types of services I need either. :rolleyes:
 
Bella said:
Thanks for the suggestion, Ruthie. :) There's one senior center in my area, and it's full of very old people. They provide recreational and social activities and entertainment for seniors but don't offer any outside services. I've also contacted the Area Agency on Aging and they don't offer the types of services I need either. :rolleyes:
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I'm sorry to hear that. I hope maybe you can get some recommendations from someone who knows who's good to help.
 
Ruthanne said:
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope maybe you can get some recommendations from someone who knows who's good to help.
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I can get people, but they're so busy that it's frustrating waiting for them to come to give an estimate and to do the job. I have had as many as five people come out to give estimates. You have to because the prices vary wildly for the same job. For example, I had a large oak tree fall down after a storm and hit my house. The first guy I called wanted $4,000 to cut it up and remove it. :oops: Onward, until I found a guy who would do the job for $1,000. By the time I got all the estimates, it was three months before the tree was removed.
 
Bella said:
I had a large oak tree fall down after a storm and hit my house. The first guy I called wanted $4,000 to cut it up and remove it. :oops: Onward, until I found a guy who would do the job for $1,000. By the time I got all the estimates, it was three months before the tree was removed.
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Give me a call next time, I need the firewood!
 
Bella said:
I can get people, but they're so busy that it's frustrating waiting for them to come to give an estimate and to do the job. I have had as many as five people come out to give estimates. You have to because the prices vary wildly for the same job. For example, I had a large oak tree fall down after a storm and hit my house. The first guy I called wanted $4,000 to cut it up and remove it. :oops: Onward, until I found a guy who would do the job for $1,000. By the time I got all the estimates, it was three months before the tree was removed.
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OMG! But what about your house?! Was it damaged? Trees scare me.
 
Remy said:
OMG! But what about your house?! Was it damaged? Trees scare me.
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The tree fell in the middle of the night and woke me up! 😲 My house was damaged, but not nearly as badly as it could've been, thank God. I had some damage to the roof and the ceilings in two of my rooms, and the back gutter was smashed. What really pissed me off is that I just had both the roof and gutters replaced before the tree fell. 🤨
 
Oh, thank heavens I'm not the only one who worries. When it's time to go to bed I have a ritual before I retire. I make sure all the gas knobs are in the off position. I check all the windows are locked, check the front and back doors are bolted. Didn't leave the porch light on and check the garage door is locked. When you live alone, we get a little paranoid.
 
Bella said:
The tree fell in the middle of the night and woke me up! 😲 My house was damaged, but not nearly as badly as it could've been, thank God. I had some damage to the roof and the ceilings in two of my rooms, and the back gutter was smashed. What really pissed me off is that I just had both the roof and gutters replaced before the tree fell. 🤨
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OMG, that's terrible. I hope insurance covered it all.
 
oscash said:
Oh, thank heavens I'm not the only one who worries. When it's time to go to bed I have a ritual before I retire. I make sure all the gas knobs are in the off position. I check all the windows are locked, check the front and back doors are bolted. Didn't leave the porch light on and check the garage door is locked. When you live alone, we get a little paranoid.
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I do much the same. Even if I didn't use the stove all day, it gets checked. Check the doors, even if I checked them. I don't do this 10 times but I may do it a couple of times. I'm also paranoid about clean water for the cats.
 
I can’t honestly say I am a worrier, but, I remember too well…I replay instances in my life over and over no matter how hard I try to occupy my mind with more pleasant thoughts…I often think I should see a therapist to just air it all out the resentment, the I should have,etc….rather than have had it all cooped up inside and never having shared…my children are fine..friends are doing well..no worries just this morbid replaying!
 
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