Why do children have to die?

Gaer

Gaer

"Angel whisperer"
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Hope these words do not offend. I know there will be some who are disturbed by these words,
and I'm sorry about that but I'm giving a talk about this in about a week and I want
you to look at death from a higher perspective, if you will. Thanks.


When the soul remembers Heaven and longs to return, the cries are heard in the multiverse.
Not all children can adapt to this life on earth.
A many loved child may still yearn in his soul for the arms of the Lord.
Earth is a mighty world to enter and to adjust.

All souls must lift to the heavens at the time set by God.
The lifetime is planned for each soul.
If the life is taken; the Father in Heaven knows the reason.

The love from the parents may be deep and true but the child wants to feel the blissfulness
of the Heavens and longs to return.

Souls may need only to come to earth to know it's not necessary for their growth to God.
Souls may come to earth to experience being in a human body.
They have memories of heaven and beg for their soul to return.
Angels lift the souls of those not needed on the earth.

They may be needed in another place.
All things happen for a reason.
The forces of God are not to be judged, but it is good to question to understand.
A child lifted to God is so pure, the growth needed to fulfill on earth has been accomplished.
If you could see and feel the love and wonders the child feels now,
you would be in joy at the lifting.
It's imperative you know not to hold blame or remorse.
The child is much happier there but will remember every second of his life on earth.
Look at the death of the body as the soul soaring into blissfulness.
 

What I know from having 2 good friends that have lost children is that the grief is unimaginable and they are never the same. The only thing that keeps them from taking their own lives is that they have another child.

It’s a lifetime of pain which I hope I never have to experience. I hope your talk helps grieving parents.
 
I lost a daughter when she was very young. She sends me signals, every day. I recognize them and I talk to her for a minute. I thank her that she still loves her mom, me; so much so that she still bothers to show up.
 

Pepper said:
I lost a daughter when she was very young. She sends me signals, every day. I recognize them and I talk to her for a minute. I thank her that she still loves her mom, me; so much so that she still bothers to show up.
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I KNOW Pepper! I read that in a thread a long time ago, and I cried reading it!
I'm so in awe of your strength to go on with courage! This broke my heart to read it.
So glad you are AWARE of her presence for she loves you so!
 
Teacher Terry said:
What I know from having 2 good friends that have lost children is that the grief is unimaginable and they are never the same. The only thing that keeps them from taking their own lives is that they have another child.

It’s a lifetime of pain which I hope I never have to experience. I hope your talk helps grieving parents.
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Yes, This has to be the worst thing that can happen to a parent.
Pain unimaginable! They are needed more in the heavenly plane and are in such blissfulness.
Thank you for writing that, Terry.
They will be with their child again in the heavens and the comprehension of this actuality is the
want of nothing but to feel this love and this bliss.
 
Teacher Terry said:
What I know from having 2 good friends that have lost children is that the grief is unimaginable and they are never the same. The only thing that keeps them from taking their own lives is that they have another child.

It’s a lifetime of pain which I hope I never have to experience. I hope your talk helps grieving parents.
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This is exactly right... it's how I felt when I lost my son... and it's how my sister felt when she lost her daughter... it's how my ex husband felt when his eldest son committed suicide...

None of them were longing to go back to Heaven, just in the same way that none of us when we were children longed to go to Heaven...
 
hollydolly said:
This is exactly right... it's how I felt when I lost my son... and it's how my sister felt when she lost her daughter... it's how my ex husband felt when his eldest son committed suicide...

None of them were longing to go back to Heaven, just in the same way that none of us when we were children longed to go to Heaven...
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The physical body does not cry for heaven. I am speaking of the soul. The wants of the soul are understood by heavenly entities.
Desires of the soul are given. I understand you don't agree and that's fine.
 
hollydolly said:
This is exactly right... it's how I felt when I lost my son... and it's how my sister felt when she lost her daughter... it's how my ex husband felt when his eldest son committed suicide...

None of them were longing to go back to Heaven, just in the same way that none of us when we were children longed to go to Heaven...
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I am so sorry Holly that you experienced this pain. Sending hugs.
 
I know way too many people who have lost their children and grandchildren, including my son and his GF (who eventually became my DIL). Their first child was stillborn. Her twin lost two children, one unexpectedly after weight loss surgery and one, a 6 month old boy who never was able to go home from the hospital. I had a friend who lost 4 of her 5 children and a cousin who lost 3 of her 5 children. In both cases, their children were adults. In one horrible accident, a cousin by marriage, who lived in Connecticut, lost her son and two young grandchildren after their van plunged into a river in Texas. She and another passenger were in the van.

I've asked myself so many times why do our children have to die, especially the little ones and especially those that suffered at the hands of people who committed heinous acts against them! It seems unnatural that they would go before us. Even though she was not my biological child, my DIL was truly a daughter to me since shortly after I came to know her...37 years ago. They say we shouldn't question God, but I do struggle to understand. I've read and been told of the reason why young souls choose not to stay here @Gaer, still learning of children's deaths is heartbreaking, every time.

I often pray for those of us who have lost children and grandchildren. I see from this thread that I know even more who have suffered that terrible loss...right here on S.F.
@Pepper @hollydolly @squatting dog @Nathan I'm so very sorry for your losses!
 
Good post, Gaer.

All things related to mortality are not sufficiently discussed in American culture. i can't speak on other western cultures but suspect at least some of them may be as reluctant to face death head on as most Americans are. Just look how much we prefer euphemisms--passed on, 'lost' to saying died, dead.

Years ago i belonged to an online group that discussed the Afterlife, ADCs and the like. There were many there who questioned their faith (whatever it had been) after their children died. They came looking mostly for affirmation that there is an afterlife, that deceased loved ones can communicate with the living and that they will be able to 'meet again'.

One of the hardest things was explaining to them ADCs are rarely as unmistakable as they are in the movies and that it helps if the living one learns to pay attention to 'small signs', things meaningful to the deceased and mourner alike. That time is 'different' so the communication may not be immediate.

It was kind of odd to me, that when they most needed the comfort of their faith, they got angry with God and began to seek comfort with people they'd labeled unflatteringly previously. Meanwhile i left organized religion years ago after my NDE, when for me the issue of 'afterlife' was settled--it became knowledge not faith. While i would grieve mightily if any of my children or my grandson predeceased me, i would take comfort in what know.

Like @OneEyedDiva i empathize with all whose children have died an untimely death. i keep them in my 'prayers'.
And while i do feel that many souls who came back for one reason and accomplish it early, die young by their soul's choice, i don't believe this is necessarily true of children murdered in wars, mass shootings or serial killers.
i grieve for those children as well.
 
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Some of this sounds too much like my mother.. Oh,that's just God's way, what's for you will not go by you etc.. but she could never try to explain or justify her position and she was not interested in trying to understand mine.
I do not believe in (at least the Christian version) of God or the 'soul'. Life, to me, is a whole series of random and unpredictable events. Some are good, some are bad. Like the bumper sticker says "$hit happens".

I cannot imagine the pain and suffering some parents must feel if they lose a child or a loved one, but I simply cannot accept the concept of heaven. When I shuffle off this mortal coil, I just want to go back to being stardust.
 
I listen to Jesus music for hours each day on my Amazon Echo devices. However, when I really think it through, I realize there is no Heaven, no Jesus and no "god." There is just existence for a short period of time and then there is no existence at all.

If Heaven really existed, it would contain trillions of humans from the infinite number of galaxies in the universe.
 
The real question is why do parents have to outlive their kids. My grandmother outlived 3 out of 4 of her children and then outlived her husband.

She developed Alzheimers in her last years. Didn't know who I was.

My sister-in-law lost her adopted daughter who was 21 at the time of her death in an auto accident.

I fail to see any real fun in life. I'm like Woody Allen who said:

“Life is full of misery, loneliness, and suffering – and it’s all over much too soon.”

“What if everything is an illusion and nothing exists? In that case, I definitely overpaid for my carpet.”
 
Losing a child is heartbreaking, I have 2 nieces on my husband's side of the family who lost a child. My daughter was a nurse at CHOP (Children's Hospital of Philadelphia)and she saw Children dying and it broke her heart. The parents were allowed to stay at a place called the Ronald McDonald house. I remember a Mom and Dad stayed there while their child was in the Hospital. One couple had stayed there soo long that they had to leave. My daughter felt so bad that she paid for a hotel that they could stay in for a month.No child should die.
 
Hm. I'm going to stand alone, and as the original post states: "Hope these words do not offend. I know there will be some who are disturbed by these words, and I'm sorry about that".

Nothing, and I mean nothing, comes from children dying. The death of a child is proof of the non-existence of a God. If there was a God, many child deaths would not happen. The death of a child is tragic, and nothing make it right. As a non-believer, there is no soul, no afterlife, no heaven and no hell. There's just nothing. As such, what can come of death? Nothing. Just sadness.

Honestly and sincerely, I find the first post out and out offensive. But that's okay.
 
Happy Heart said:
If religion comforts and helps people then I'm all for it, but at the end of the day we just a part of earth's life cycle.
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Religion, in this context, is fine - I agree with you. But understand that having a religious belief means they're judging you too. I don't happen to believe in the supernatural, but I do think such a belief forgives a million sins.
 
Mitch86 said:
Take your grief to Jesus. He always listens and many times things change for the better.
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You make a HUGE assumption there, my friend. NOT every American is a Christian, and MANY Americans don't believe in ANY God, at all. How about this for a fact, the largest growing organised religion in the USA are the Muslims. You need to look around and learn that you are close to a minority religion, in the USA. JImB.
 
jimintoronto said:
You make a HUGE assumption there, my friend. NOT every American is a Christian, and MANY Americans don't believe in ANY God, at all. How about this for a fact, the largest growing organised religions in the USA are the Muslims. You need to look around and learn that you are close to a minority religion, in the USA. JImB.
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Please site your data source as it is in conflict with Pew, https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/religious-landscape-study/
 

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