Gray divorce???? Did it happen to you?

EmptyCup said:
I know couples like this. Example: I was at lunch one day with a co-worker who’s father had recently died and he was stunned how his mother wasn’t really mourning as much as planning cruises, trips etc. I remember he said, “it’s like a zoo animal just set free of its cage!”. Then the other co-worker with us said, yeah, her in-laws, same thing happened.
Click to expand...
The same thing happened with my mom when my dad passed away.
 

Almost 3 years ago during the pandemic I found out my husband was cheating again. I immediately divorced him. He didn’t want the divorce. Splitting everything has made me less financially secure but it was worth it.

No way would I stay married to someone I wasn’t living with. You never know what they will do which could lead to financial ruin. He lost his health insurance because he was on mine.
 
Everything has a life span.....even marriage. The truth is eventually all marriages will end, either by death of a spouse, divorce, or separation. If you love your spouse or partner, cherish every moment. Some of us have mastered the art of compromise while others have grown to despise it. The day after a wedding, a marriage becomes a work in progress. People change. Some couples grow beautifully together, others grow horribly apart. The stigma of living alone has changed. Many seniors cherish the opportunity. For some, it's a rebirth. They worship new found possibilities. Alone and lonely are not bound together. We all love fresh vegetables and fruit. A fresh start can also taste delicious!
 
We are not the same person we were when we were younger. The experiences of life can change us and our personalities. Even most of the cells in our body have been replaced many times. The things about our mate that we used to like may not be there anymore. Minor annoyances can turn into major ones, and divorce doesn’t carry the stigma it once did. Is it surprising that many long time marriages end in it?
 
Grampa Don said:
We are not the same person we were when we were younger. The experiences of life can change us and our personalities. Even most of the cells in our body have been replaced many times. The things about our mate that we used to like may not be there anymore. Minor annoyances can turn into major ones, and divorce doesn’t carry the stigma it once did. Is it surprising that many long time marriages end in it?
Click to expand...
You just trade them in for a new model Gramp, like this guy.

https://www.google.com/search?q=ber...8hf0HHY0CBzcQ_h16BAhbEAE#imgrc=7birLPOOoB8UBM
 
I once worked with a married lady who had a separate bedroom from her husband. Apparently if he wanted a "cuddle" he would knock on her door and hope she would reply "come in" rather than "get lost"! When she retired, everyone joined her and her husband in the pub for a farewell drink and someone put this on the juke box - fortunately she had a sense of humour and even got up and danced to it.

 
 
Trish said:
Do you not worry that, if you are still married, you could be liable for his debts and also funeral expenses should he pass away without leaving adequate funds?
Click to expand...
I sought legal advice on that very question. I was told that even if the credit application is solely in the other spouses name, if your name is anywhere on the application, they can go after you. It’s got something to do with Arizona community property laws. Of course, the nuances of it will vary by state, so it’s definitely something worth checking out. In my case I was already motivated to get a divorce, but then I was REALLY motivated, given that information! Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer, not even close! This was advice that is applicable to Arizona. I don’t know about any other jurisdictions.
 
hollydolly said:
yup going through one right now as we speak 🫣
Click to expand...

Sorry to hear that, Holly.

Answer to this is no. I must face reality, there isn't anyone that would want this old carcass hanging around. I mean, if I was truly "on the market", it would be a long lonely torture of watching people passing me by. :D

I have to be honest, I have eccentricities. I'm sitting here in my living room, I'm playing Brian Eno's My Squelchy Life on Vinyl, completely aware that as a call for romance, it's a non-starter. Hell, I don't even know what romance would look like at this time of life. It's mostly me and my dog. :D
 
Last edited:
My kids are Boomers, I am the invisible generation that preceded them. I used to kid my wife telling her that since females have a longer life expectancy, statistically she was obligated to outlast me. We had been married 63 years when the grim reaper took her. I sure miss the old girl.
 
 
hollydolly said:
Well.. as Chris De Burgh once wrote in a song.. ''if I think you are beautiful, Someone else is going to feel it too''


I'm sure if Sassy finds her husband attractive other women will as well...
Click to expand...
Not only do I think he is attractive he also has a heart of gold and always puts everyone else's needs first.
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top