Did your parents prepare you for marriage, life, etc.?

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This came up in a thread. Did your parents prepare you for marriage, life in general, s---e---x, etc?
The only advice I got was when I was walking out the door, and going to the prom. She said, "If you get her pregnant, don't come crying to us about it". That was my parents' total S----E----X education for me.
Did we do any better with our kids?
 

fuzzybuddy said:
This came up in a thread. Did your parents prepare you for marriage, life in general, s---e---x, etc?
The only advice I got was when I was walking out the door, and going to the prom. She said, "If you get her pregnant, don't come crying to us about it". That was my parents' total S----E----X education for me.
Did we do any better with our kids?
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nothing here either.....
 
I wasn't given any kind of preparation... but to be fair, I'm pretty sure I would have rolled my eyes :rolleyes: and sat there being *very* uncomfortable if they'd tried. I had "those talks" with my daughter, though, and it went a lot better than I thought it would... no eye rolling at all. (At least not that I saw!):sneaky:
 

fuzzybuddy said:
This came up in a thread. Did your parents prepare you for marriage, life in general, s---e---x, etc?
The only advice I got was when I was walking out the door, and going to the prom. She said, "If you get her pregnant, don't come crying to us about it". That was my parents' total S----E----X education for me.
Did we do any better with our kids?
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Ha! If leading by exampleā€¦ā€¦šŸ™„
Letā€™s not even go there. šŸ¤¬
Nooooooo!
 
Money management pretty much since I was 8 years old, I was always doing something to earn money. S-e-x no conversations at home but knew getting a girl pregnant was not going to be good for me. Now that I think about it buying condoms seemed like a natural thing to do.

Very important was finding out that the back seat of my Ford convertible was to small for comfort. Much better to use a blanket at a special spot ;)

Money was tight hence working at anything was to help. My dad was legally blind but went to work everyday. He couldn't drive so walking in all kinds of weather was what he did. My mother did everything possible to assure his comfort. So I would say marriage as a partnership was by example,
 
My Dad told me to look closely at a girlfriends Mother before I considered marriage....as she would probably be like her mother 20+ years down the road. I kept that in mind, and ended a couple of relationships due to a cranky "potential" MIL as I dated. When I finally found my "mate" 55+ years ago, her Mom was quite nice....so Dad's advice probably had some merit. I'm sure the same thing would apply to women....look closely at the potential FIL, before committing to a marriage.
 
My father always acted as if no matter what you do in life, you're on your own. That's because his parents both died in 1963 and my mother died in 1970. His only sibling, his brother, moved to Texas and never kept in contact after that.

But at the same time, my Dad would say that you can do anything you put your mind to. Oh, except be an artist for a living.

His take on women after becoming a widower, women make lousy friends.
 
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Even though I had a boyfriend from when I was 13 yrs. old my Mother thought I would never get married so my Mom never told me anything to prepare me for marriage
 
OldFeller said:
My father always acted as if no matter what you do in life, you're on your own. That's because his parents both died in 1963 and my mother died in 1970. His only sibling, his brother, moved to Texas and never kept in contact after that.

But at the same time, my Dad would say that you can do anything you put your mind to. Oh, except be an artist for a living.

His take on women after becoming a widow, women make lousy friends.
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Widower, Surely ?
 
Parents financed 4 years of college, and I lived at home. After that, being draft eligible, I decided to enlist in the Navy. My first choice would have been the Coast Guard, but I get seasick. Little did I know, Vietnam was just around the corner, so the Navy happened to be a possibly life saving choice. As for ā€œSā€, I found out for myself and declined the Birds & Bees lecture. After 5 years before the mast, my resume made finding a civilian job easy.
 
My parents and older brother answered my questions when asked... no frills, just plain language. Loved them for that.
The rest of my carnal education :LOL: came from the girls in my all girls' school!
 
Being gay, there was no way my parents could have prepared me. My mother pretended it wasn't true and my dad told me I had chosen a difficult life but he would support me in any way possible. He always did and was very welcoming to my partner up until the day he passed away (my father, that is).

They told me about the "birds and the bees" when I was in junior high, which did prepare me for 3 years with my high school girlfriend. Life just took a turn that I wasn't at all prepared for.
 
No talk. I pretty much learned as I went, but the few I dated in High School, I probably owe them an apology for being a little more handsy than I had a right to be. I do feel bad about that, but it would be a rather awkward conversation to call them up now and bring it up.
 
Don M. said:
My Dad told me to look closely at a girlfriends Mother before I considered marriage....as she would probably be like her mother 20+ years down the road. I kept that in mind, and ended a couple of relationships due to a cranky "potential" MIL as I dated. When I finally found my "mate" 55+ years ago, her Mom was quite nice....so Dad's advice probably had some merit. I'm sure the same thing would apply to women....look closely at the potential FIL, before committing to a marriage.
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Thereā€™s lots of truth in this. Looking at the way his or her parents interacted was likely an example of how your boyfriend/girlfriend would be later on.
 
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