Lawrence00
Senior Member
Mostly about our feelings.
My husband always said he would rather hang out with a roomful of women than a roomful of old work mates. He said they were boring as hell and women loved a gossip and so did, he. When he went to the local swimming pool and the old dears were doing their water aerobics, they always seem to buck up when they saw him. He put on the fancy dives, to which I'd add, "How many belly flops did you do",? to which he'd add, "You know how to deflate a man, don't you"? It was all in fun. We had the best marriage.Men are superficious and boring as hell, I should know, I am one. Given a choice I always preferr to hang out with the ladies.
I am not joking.
Yep, I think you covered it Patty!I don’t know what guys talk about when they are together but my husband worked with a bunch of guys for over 30 years and this is my take on it.
They talk about the tools they have
They talk about what they are doing with the tools
They talk about their wives and the ‘to do lists’ they have
They talk about each other . Yes men gossip just like women do . Perhaps not as catty but I don’t know, cause I’m not a guy.
They talk about their family and friends
They talk about what others are doing or should be doing
They talk about food… what they are eating or wish they were eating
They talk about what they would like to do once they quit
They talk about guys who aren’t pulling their weight
They talk about who is having an affair and with who
They talk about people who quit, who should quit or be fired
They talk about what they are going to do on their days off …. Who got totally drunk and drove home wasted or had to be driven home
I just asked my man and he says they mostly talk about work and sometimes sports
That’s all I know and all I want to know. I’m pretty sure they talk about women too occasionally …. and their kids etc
Trust me, some men, mine included gossip more than than the average women. I think maybe you are over generalizing women and men a bit here. Some men definitely need validation from others and do so by sharing their accomplishments and some men definitely gossip. Sure we can generalize about the differences between genders. What we should try not to do is stereotype..There are so many that aren’t average so can’t be generalized.Yep, I think you covered it Patty!
Not so sure about the gossip one though. I haven't run into that one much.
Men are thinkers, they compartmentalize and internally process, vs women need the outpouring to others for validation. Men don't need outside validation other than what they believe.
And....The conversations I hear these days are a lot about ailments.
My knee, my back, my neck.
This Dr., that Dr. This procedure, that procedure.
In the mix there's talk of hunting, fishing, politics, vehicles, tools, gardens, grandchildren.
It's one of those things you just have to do in person, in order to understand.And....
Is no-one going to explain to me what sex means?![]()
The local old farts coffee drinking klatch where I used to live would meet at McDonald's and talk about everything from the wives to farms to vehicles to sports and they gossiped worse than many women I know.My husband can spend hours at a bar with a male friend, get merry and consider it a good time. This is only occasionally now, more so in the past.
However, I have always been intrigued about what on earth they talk about. It appears to be nothing at all! Once sports have been mentioned, they lapse into long comfortable silences. My husband will return home with NO gossip, no information whatsoever. How can this be?
Compare that to us women - within 10 minutes we are into intimate, emotional and other important matters. Given a couple of hours we will cover a wide range of subjects. During which we do not stop talking. If with a close trusted friend, we will talk of very personal things indeed. I certainly feel vastly better after such get-togethers.
Does this seem accurate in general?
No! They tend to crack me up too!I dunno, men can really nail the funny story. They are surprised when I laugh out loud. Is that wrong?
And most often, it's just the "dirty Hun" in some nation's executive (or parliamentary branch) who orders guys (soldiers) to fight the guys from some other nation. Of course, there's civil-warfare too.Men talk about a lot of "Bull." That is government, weather, football, hockey, their trucks, their guns and news. They never, as far as I know, ever talk about their personal feelings. Maybe that is why they keep making wars and wasting billions of dollars of money. It's 1 dirty Hun fighting another dirty Hun! Things just don't change and that is why I have always felt that in the long run women are so much smarter than men.