Having a case of "can't get started-itis"

Nathan

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Getting over my sickness(sore throat, bronchitis), getting past a grief triggering date(daughter's birthday) I'm feeling like I should be doing something constructive, but it's like trudging thru waist deep quicksand trying to muster forward momentum. Instead, I'm sitting at my computer.... :rolleyes:

I'm on my 3rd cup of coffee, but the urge to do some "shoulds" is fading. I'm going to stop typing on the computer now, and practice Taichi / Yoga for a least a half hour.
 

It's okay to take some extra time, sometimes. We don't recover in a set time frame.
And, we don't always have the bounce-back, that we might have had more often, at times when we were younger.

Or, trying a transition type of action, such as the one you thought of for yourself (we might all have different ones we could turn to)
or, another action that isn't yet a full restart, but could shift our focus enough to support our next step;
Or, as was said above, being here and writing a post, could also be one.
 
Self-acceptance of where we're at, often helps relieve the stress, and lessen negative thoughts, (about what wer're not doing)
gradually allowing us to move out of it.

At some point, set yourself a very small and realistically doable goal, to set yourself up for success.?
 
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Kaila said:
Self-acceptance of where we're at, often helps relieve the stress, and negative thoughts, (about what wer're not doing)
gradually allowing us to move out of it.

At some point, set yourself a very small and realistically doable goal, to set yourself up for success.?
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🏋️‍♂️🤸‍♂️🧘‍♂️ OK, did 50 minutes of Taichi, practiced some forms and flows that I haven't done lately, worked on some newer material that I haven't developed muscle memory with yet. Got a nice uplift, mentally & physically, went on to do some mini chores I've been putting off(clean smoker,hoe & rake weeds in front pen). Did some cooking prep work- put chicken breasts in oven, will be for lunch and to make Chicken Yakisoba for dinner.

Break-time now! :cool:
 
Nathan said:
Getting over my sickness(sore throat, bronchitis), getting past a grief triggering date(daughter's birthday) I'm feeling like I should be doing something constructive, but it's like trudging thru waist deep quicksand trying to muster forward momentum. Instead, I'm sitting at my computer.... :rolleyes:

I'm on my 3rd cup of coffee, but the urge to do some "shoulds" is fading. I'm going to stop typing on the computer now, and practice Taichi / Yoga for a least a half hour.
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You know it's ok to go through your emotions and rest your body. Sometimes it's what we need to do. Part of a healing process. Sometimes it calls for getting up and getting active. Other times we need to rest and work through the grief. So don't be too hard on yourself if you have the need to work through emotions you haven't yet dealt with.
 
Yes, I'm like this but too much of the time. I can't relax my mind enough to sit and work on a project I want to. Even to rent a couple of movies off Comcast I want to rent. I think something will come up and I won't be able to watch them.
 
What has helped me through out my life is journaling. Writing out my feelings on bad and good things that have happened to me. After it all written down, I can deal with it and move on to those things I need to do. But sometimes I have a long list of things to do and instead I just stay on the computer and plan on doing them tomorrow. If I do one thing each day, that is good enough.
 
When I'm feeling stuck over getting started on a project, I break it down into the smallest parts. So today, my 'job' might be just finding those curtains and pulling them out of the box. Tomorrow might be putting the first hooks onto the wall. The next day might be finding the curtain rod and fitting it....
 
Debrah N. said:
When I'm feeling stuck over getting started on a project, I break it down into the smallest parts. So today, my 'job' might be just finding those curtains and pulling them out of the box. Tomorrow might be putting the first hooks onto the wall. The next day might be finding the curtain rod and fitting it....
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I think this is a great strategy. I do the same.
 
Today I had a "don't feel like going to the gym" day...so I didn't. Now I feel like a slob, but that's just me, being judgey...about myself.

I actually didn't do anything constructive, although I did eat lunch. I did answer the call from my neighbor, who had a computer problem. Got that fixed, but I couldn't fix his Jacuzzi. shrugs.gif
 
Some days I feel like my starter.....won't. The ignition is locked. The battery in the keyfob is dead. I'm out of gas and low on oil. My tires are flat. My timing chain is running late. And the drive train has no drive.

Besides that, my give-a-damn's busted.

This usually happens after a long weekend with the grands. It takes a few days and then I'm back on the road again.
 
Lack of Motivation is something we all suffer with from time to time. I just force myself to get my work done. Once I get into it, I generally will get motivated.

Yesterday, we had a 14 y/o young man knifed and killed. It has really taken the starch out of me. I have no desire to do anything and I have things that need done.
 
I find myself struggling with not-sure-itis this morning myself. I need to assess my priorities I suppose, or call the pharmacy to see if the Doc got that prescription sent out.
 
Nathan said:
Today I had a "don't feel like going to the gym" day...so I didn't. Now I feel like a slob, but that's just me, being judgey...about myself.

I actually didn't do anything constructive, although I did eat lunch. I did answer the call from my neighbor, who had a computer problem. Got that fixed, but I couldn't fix his Jacuzzi. View attachment 317907
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Haha...you ate lunch. That is always a good thing.
 
Drink your water and don't look at the whole picture...compartmentalize your life.
I know. Easier said than done but baby steps is better than nothing.

I know because I'm the Queen of "can't-get-started-itis"
 
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Lack of Motivation is something we all suffer with from time to time. I just force myself to get my work done. Once I get into it, I generally will get motivated.

Yesterday, we had a 14 y/o young man knifed and killed. It has really taken the starch out of me. I have no desire to do anything and I have things that need done.
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You were retired...did you hire back on?
 
Join the club dear friend! I've had Can't Get Started-itis for quite some time now. :rolleyes: Then I get mad at myself because when I get back to doing things, there's so much to do that I get overwhelmed. Opting to listen to energetic music instead of watching T.V. and sitting at the computer helps. I always say "If there ain't no music, it don't get done". Sometimes I literally have to force myself to do chores. Making a game of it also helps, like playing Beat the Clock to see how long it takes me to do a chore efficiently. And having S.A.D. does not help, even though it's a mild case.
 

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