Do men have more needs than women?

Murrmurr said:
I think this only proves that women's most urgent desires, or their top priorities, are different than men's.

Men are happiest when they can count on a good meal, some good nukie, and a good sleep. Preferably, on a regular basis.
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Absolutely correct. As a woman I need to be listened to and understood, appreciated and supported. Then I will see to those needs in my man!
 
Rose65 said:
Listening to Radio 4, I cannot remember the programme, but they discussed the saying that men think about 'you know what' every 6 seconds. To test this, a survey was conducted at a university where girls and boys were given a clicker and told to click it every time they had ANY need or urge - food, drink, sleep and so on.

The results were interesting. It was found that boys clicked twice as much as the girls. Which indicates that they have twice as many needs of every kind than girls.

It's only one survey, but I think this rings true. Maybe us women have fewer requirements in life so we spend quite a lot of time ensuring our men are happy! More seriously it would be interesting to research if addictions like gambling, drinking etc are predominantly a male or female thing? Maybe women do not need constant stimulation compared to men.
Only as a general question of course.
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Men never really grow up. There's an adolescent part of our nature where we want to be cared for and have things done for us. As for "you know what", I don't know about every 6 seconds, but I'm pretty sure that particular thought is a constant. Whether one could perform given the chance is a whole other thing.

Of course, I have a very traditional view on relationships. Most people here will have, I think. Marriage is a partnership, but that doesn't mean they share every task. I mean, if it were up to me which furniture to buy, we'd end up with a bunch of Ikea. :D

I'm also no good at picking colors for decorating, or anything like that. But then putting together the home was always a lady thing for me. I could live in a box if it had a shower. ;)
 
Rose65 said:
Listening to Radio 4, I cannot remember the programme, but they discussed the saying that men think about 'you know what' every 6 seconds. To test this, a survey was conducted at a university where girls and boys were given a clicker and told to click it every time they had ANY need or urge - food, drink, sleep and so on.

The results were interesting. It was found that boys clicked twice as much as the girls. Which indicates that they have twice as many needs of every kind than girls.

It's only one survey, but I think this rings true. Maybe us women have fewer requirements in life so we spend quite a lot of time ensuring our men are happy! More seriously it would be interesting to research if addictions like gambling, drinking etc are predominantly a male or female thing? Maybe women do not need constant stimulation compared to men.
Only as a general question of course.
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When you believe stuff like this you end up stereotyping a whole bunch of people and plopping them into one peg hole. People are so varied that this comparing isnā€™t fair for anyone. Stereotyping is generalizing. We are far too varied for that.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
When you believe stuff like this you end up stereotyping a whole bunch of people and plopping them into one peg hole. People are so varied that this comparing isnā€™t fair for anyone. Stereotyping is generalizing. We are far too varied for that.
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It's not meant to be serious, only conjecture about an idea. The survey merely indicates something I always suspected anyway, that men do need and like a lot of looking after.
 
Rose65 said:
It's not meant to be serious, only conjecture about an idea. The survey merely indicates something I always suspected anyway, that men do need and like a lot of looking after.
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Some men do. Especially men from a culture or generation where women did most of the looking after. Women did all the cooking, cleaning and taking care of children . Some men learn to adapt and some men donā€™t. Some men refuse to learn or adapt and become confirmed bachelors. Bachelors who live off take out etc. It can actually be quite sad. Some men really need a women in their life. Some women really need a man in their life too. It can go both ways.
 
I try not to get cranky about stuff like this. It isn't a science and in any case I don't think people here are trying to proselytize their current impressions of the situation.

If a Flat Earther starts a-preachin' I might say I disagree but beyond that I just don't engage. If I slip and I do so then I hope I'll have the sense to cool off, defuse my faux pas, and move on.
 
Rose65 said:
Absolutely correct. As a woman I need to be listened to and understood, appreciated and supported. Then I will see to those needs in my man!
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Despite popular belief (it seems), the average man sees that as a fair exchange.

Timing is extremely important, though. No man wants to be water-boarded with the issues and details of his spouse's day soon as he gets home from work or during dinner. Not during dinner, please! (more men get ulcers than women)

He's come home from a minimum of 8 hours of labor that may have included having to listen to other people's gripes, sometimes other people's criticism of his work.

He needs at least 2 hours to put those 8 behind him.

And after retirement, he may need 2 whole years to put a 20-30-yr career behind him.

That should go both ways, of course, if the spouse also works.
 
Murrmurr said:
Despite popular belief (it seems), the average man sees that as a fair exchange.

Timing is extremely important, though. No man wants to be water-boarded with the issues and details of his spouse's day soon as he gets home from work or during dinner. Not during dinner, please! (more men get ulcers than women)

He's come home from a minimum of 8 hours of labor that may have included having to listen to other people's gripes, sometimes other people's criticism of his work.

He needs at least 2 hours to put those 8 behind him.

And after retirement, he may need 2 whole years to put a 20-30-yr career behind him.

That should go both ways, of course, if the spouse also works.
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That is interesting. So men don't want to discuss much during dinner. That is a useful to keep in mind. It makes sense actually because I see a meal as a great opportunity to talk whereas my husband talks very little as he eats. I think he pretends to listen mostly, which annoys me. It is true in our case that I feel better for talking things through, he likes to talk very little and not involve himself in other people's affairs as he puts it.
 
Rose65 said:
That is interesting. So men don't want to discuss much during dinner. That is a useful to keep in mind. It makes sense actually because I see a meal as a great opportunity to talk whereas my husband talks very little as he eats. I think he pretends to listen mostly, which annoys me. It is true in our case that I feel better for talking things through, he likes to talk very little and not involve himself in other people's affairs as he puts it.
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Dinner time for a working man is literally his homecoming. He sits with his family around him - the people he worked for that day; before him is the meal he waited all day to enjoy, and every bite erases an issue he faced at work; it's the taste of freedom.

Probly sounds extreme, but I'm not joking.
 
Murrmurr said:
Dinner time for a working man is literally his homecoming. He sits with his family around him - the people he worked for that day; before him is the meal he waited all day to enjoy, and every bite erases an issue he faced at work; it's the taste of freedom.

Probly sounds extreme, but I'm not joking.
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Very understandable. Whether man or woman, the workplace can be very stressful and time to relax and recharge is vital.
 
This is 25 minutes long, and some might find parts of it infuriating because it casts aside a lot of today's prevailing narrative.


Psychologists are getting pretty frustrated trying to avoid being canceled over their perceptions regarding human relations. Some knuckle under to keep their livelihoods, others are clinging by the skin of their teeth trying to remain in the profession.
 
Flarbalard said:
Who pops more bubble wrap men or women? Maybe men aren't thinking about anything, anything at all, except fidgeting with their clickers.
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Women? C'mon, I can't think this much like a man. Can I? I cannot resist bubble wrap. It must be popped. It's fun. Buy me a roll of it for Christmas. I will pop it until my arthritic fingers go on strike.
 
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