This being a SENIOR board

I have a list of people to be notified that I keep with my Will. I'll make sure SF is on it along with my login info. But Jim's idea is good too.
 
AZ Jim said:
It was just a thought....No biggie.
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It's a good thought Jim because people do make connections and worry when someone is MIA.

When I left Sydney for a week last month I let the mods know in case anyone raised the question.
For a more serious/unexpected event I carry a small notebook which contains all my online usernames and passwords and hubby knows that I would like him to log on and tell people what has happened.

On my first forum an elderly long time member fell and broke both of her arms? collarbones? and could not use the computer. She was also very bruised. Her daughter logged on for her and gave us updates of her recovery. I thought it was a good idea and everyone was able to send messages to her. Eventually she was able to resume posting for herself.

My little notebook also contains a lot of information that will be useful if I have a sudden medical emergency and I am hospitalised. I was present when an elderly woman had a severe stroke and we found one of these little books in her handbag. It allowed us to contact her daughter quickly and to give important information about her medications and medical history to the hospital. I've decided to add a bit of non essential info as well.
 
Jim it may help members who want the world to know they are going into hospital or going on holidays but that is the end until and if they return.

But in an emergency trip to the hospital or falling off the perch it will not be possible to advise and there will not be any advantage.

Maybe in reverse some people may wish to advise the world that they have been in hospital and been on holidays on return in a post.

This is the most important part of my message......The owner of another forum currently is in hospital and people are wanting to ring or go and see the owner and the assistant to the owner is having to keep them from invading the owners privacy and letting him rest and recoup.Imagine what you would feel like if members of the forum kept coming to see you when you are just an unknown person on the forum. Could get out of control.
 
I think the answers looking at all of us !!!!!!!!!! If we didnt want to know each other we wouldnt join a forum such as this one in the first place,
Now some people like to talk alot (nothing wrong with that) and some people like to listern and say little (nothing wrong with that)
But to be part or should i say taking part in our own comphy was is whats important and even the ones that are not "shall we say in the front line still in the their hearts like to feel they're part of this group of old farts just being old (and nothing wrong with that).
:):)
 
Maybe a Senior Forums Alert Necklace should be offered so that if we become incapacitated we could just push a button and relieve any anxiety here for the moment...:eek:nthego:
 
I am off on my travels/holidays/vacation again on Thursday, a month in Russia with Lisa then a month together in Indonesia, back in the UK in August, I will continue posting though whenever possible. :sunglass:
 
SifuPhil said:
I understand the rationale behind Jim's idea but my philosophical leanings don't allow me to fully embrace it. If I don't post for a while then either I've "retired" from the board, I'm out of reach of a computer or I'm hospitalized or dead - in none of these cases could anyone change my circumstances, just offer condolences (that I wouldn't see) which, while fuzzy-wuzzy, wouldn't help.

I also wonder what the good is of knowing if someone is deceased - it isn't as if you're going to attend the funeral. Isn't this more just a nod toward our innate curiosity?
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I agree totally with what Phil says.Although,It's nice to think that people may care, there is nothing anyone can do and the poster won't see it anyway.
 
oakapple said:
I agree totally with what Phil says.Although,It's nice to think that people may care, there is nothing anyone can do and the poster won't see it anyway.
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I partly agree oakapple, but isn't it also in human nature to care what has happened to someone you have got to know, whether on a forum or in the physical world.
We create attachments to people and I have sometimes found myself looking up a film star, an actor or a singer, to see if they are still alive. I discovered recently that Rod McKuen died earlier this year unknown to me, and felt a sadness that he was no longer here. I met him a couple of times in the UK when he did tours back in the '70s. Its difficult to put into words, but its something along the lines of the poem

No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
 
I was on another forum for a long time.. Members there became very close. On occasion, a member would die and of course it was a shock to everyone... and brought sadness.. So the forum created an "In Memory of" section where people could go and post memories of that person, or just post about feelings and sadness. It was almost like having a wake. Everyone knows wakes are meant for the living, not for the deceased. They are a way of finding closure.

People on forums can become very close.. and when someone dies it's like losing an IRL friend.. after all, we ARE real people behind our screen names. Perhaps a special section dedicated to those who have died would be an idea.. Maybe it's a morbid thing, but just a thought.

Of couse it still doesn't solve the problem of finding out if someone is dead... or ill, or simply on vacation.
 
I was on a very large forum that has since closed and that also had an "in memory" section. I was on there long enough to know at least 25 people that have died....more than have died in my real life. Some I sent cards to the family and one was so well loved and appreciated that 4 of us chipped in and sent a wreath to his funeral.
 
To me, a “friend” or a “friendship” is a very special thing, and I don’t use the terms lightly (although I think most people do). A friend is someone I’ve met in person, spent quite a bit of time with, and shared thoughts, feelings, and experiences with. Most people I consider friends are people I’ve know for years (usually a lot of years). Usually we’ve been to each other’s homes, I’ve also met their spouse/SO, and sometimes their children or other relatives. Sure, there are different degrees of friendship and different types of friendships, but (again, for me) we have to have met in person.

When I was working I used to hear people refer to co-workers as friends, but I was always reluctant to label someone a friend (or consider myself their friend) simply because we got along, worked well together, and sometimes ate lunch together. And I’ve lost count of the people who allowed their so-called friendship to affect their jobs, and it resulted in problems.

As far as online, I think there is a difference between being friendly, interacting pleasantly, having fun, and exchanging opinions vs being “friends”. Sure, the term “friend” is used in forums and other places like Facebook, but I just can’t feel close to people I haven’t met in person and spent time with. I can (and have) felt an attachment of some sort, but that’s not friendship, imo. Also, people are often quick to defriend/drop an online “friend” when the truth is they were never really “friends” at all (except maybe in the mind of one of them). :shrug:

While I realize that might not be the way others see it, it is the way I feel and, as the saying goes, it works for me.
 

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