Some Forums an Sites are Really Mean

I've been under the impression that people who say things purposely to start arguments or upset others are trolls... things that the poster knows will cause controversy... "trolling around" for contention. People I don't like I have other names for. ☺️
Maybe I'm becoming senile but as a kid, I seem to recall that "trolls" were bad creatures that lived under bridges. A fairy tale, maybe? Anyone recall?
 

That applies especially to women I have had as friends. Invariably if they were alone, they would be subtly jealous of my marriage. They seemed to love it if I ever mentioned we had had a row.

I prefer women friends for friends but I find it is important to make clear my marriage is fine and I’m not looking for that sort of friend.
 

That applies especially to women I have had as friends. Invariably if they were alone, they would be subtly jealous of my marriage. They seemed to love it if I ever mentioned we had had a row.
I do acknowledge that if I were going to pin a stereotype on women, it would be jealousy of not only other women, but of men too.

But I also have to blame our greater society for that. Women still, in spite of feminism and supposedly laws against sexism and ageism (and domestic violence, rape, sexual harassment ), have to work much harder than a man to be taken seriously. At anything.

Have you ever noticed that when a woman finally is taken seriously, in the background, she has a visible or invisible Male Backer, like a male coach in her corner of the ring? He doesn't have to be physically present, but he's a father or coach figure. Someone who has been a male protector to her and not a molester.

If she's in politics, she often brings him out in rallies and photos to give her legitimacy. There's nothing wrong with that, families help one another in campaigns all the time, what is WRONG is that we, as a society, we seem to need that CUE of a Male Backer to give a female's voice legitimacy.

Don't always imagine that Male Backers are always family members or fathers. The women I know who have "made it" found male endorsements through male mentors and male bosses. Not always from fathers. It stinks that society is this way. But I did not make this soup - I can only see what is in it.
 
Some people on sites are mean. It’s not the site itself. There’s mean people on every site.
These are the same people who are mean everywhere. They're just more subtle about it in real life because they'd get smacked down if they tried to pull that on someone in person..... But either way, they're mean people.
 
These are the same people who are mean everywhere. They're just more subtle about it in real life because they'd get smacked down if they tried to pull that on someone in person..... But either way, they're mean people.
I’m not supporting meanness by any means, but i think we should at least define meanness. What’s considered mean?
Needless criticism? Aggressive communication?
 
I’m not supporting meanness by any means, but i think we should at least define meanness. What’s considered mean?
Needless criticism? Aggressive communication?
I'd say name calling for sure. Also the 'you are wrong, I am right' Once on that vegan forum I got a response: "nothing you say matters" while this b. word was berating me all over about how her opinion was right. I don't know if that's a troll but it's what I call 'the internet know it all.' The moderator shut the thread down and I swear I didn't see this user name again unless she came back under another one.
 
I'd say name calling for sure. Also the 'you are wrong, I am right' Once on that vegan forum I got a response: "nothing you say matters" while this b. word was berating me all over about how her opinion was right. I don't know if that's a troll but it's what I call 'the internet know it all.' The moderator shut the thread down and I swear I didn't see this user name again unless she came back under another one.
what's worse is when you're attacked verbally for an opinion.. when you're in the right, and your attacker is in the wrong or is just being abusive. and the thread or post is removed.. and you get a virtual slapped wrist from the moderating team... despite the fact you were the victim.. I've seen that happen many times..
 
I've been attacked in this forum, for my supposed political opinions (which I haven't voice here). I just consider the source.
I think we can safely conclude that we’ve all been attacked at some point by some member or other on this site. Some people don’t forgive or forget. Where there’s people , there’s drama. It’s almost impossible to escape from it.
 
I think we can safely conclude that we’ve all been attacked at some point by some member or other on this site. Some people don’t forgive or forget. Where there’s people , there’s drama. It’s almost impossible to escape from it.
Are you really saying that it's all okay and one should just "forgive and forget"? In essence, saying that one must excuse toxic behavior because "it happens" and that not doing so is some kind of personal fault? Wow.
 
Are you really saying that it's all okay and one should just "forgive and forget"? In essence, saying that one must excuse toxic behavior because "it happens" and that not doing so is some kind of personal fault? Wow.
No! Where do you see me claiming any such thing. People aren’t perfect. We make mistakes . Should we forever be punished?
You merely made sides where they don’t actually exist.
 
No! Where do you see me claiming any such thing. People aren’t perfect. We make mistakes . Should we forever be punished?
You merely made sides where they don’t actually exist.
I didn't make sides, let alone those that "don't actually exist". I said I was attacked and considered the source, and that I don't feel I or anyone should have to tolerate toxicity just because of ... some reason. Geez.
 
I didn't make sides, let alone those that "don't actually exist". I said I was attacked and considered the source, and that I don't feel I or anyone should have to tolerate toxicity just because of ... some reason. Geez.
Ok. So there are toxic members and non toxic members. What do you suggest? Two senior forums. One for the toxic members and one for the non toxic ones. 🤷‍♀️
If matrix were to ban all members whoever said anything to upset another member, there’d be next to zero members and all those members left would be scared to say anything for fear of getting banned.
 
Ok. So there are toxic members and non toxic members. What do you suggest? Two senior forums. One for the toxic members and one for the non toxic ones. 🤷‍♀️
If matrix were to ban all members whoever said anything to upset another member, there’d be next to zero members and all those members left would be scared to say anything for fear of getting banned.
I didn't ask for Matrix to ban anyone. On the personal side, that's what the Ignore button is for.

You know, all I did was comment that I'd been attacked by someone here, and it turned into all this. Geez.
 
I guess I have a more grown-up way of looking at it. Either have fun with it, or move on. It’s the internet and you don't HAVE to do anything about it. They aren't in your home or in your face.
Exactly what I was thinking. Either move on or don’t. What other choices are there. 🤷‍♀️
 
In reading all these comments, it blows my mind to learn that there are so many forums out there? I've only been on 3. The first one was full of cliques and if you did not donate money, you could not enter any of the rooms. Well, I did and even though I could go into a room of my choice, I was totally ignored since I was a Yank. Someone led me to another forum, where I met a person who brought me here.

Strangely enough, I've been getting email on occasion from other forums who know me, but I haven't a clue as to who they are.

I have a group on Facebook that I tried allowing chat on. Well, some of the people shocked me with their rudeness, that I shut the chat down faster than a speeding bullet.
 
I didn't ask for Matrix to ban anyone. On the personal side, that's what the Ignore button is for.

You know, all I did was comment that I'd been attacked by someone here, and it turned into all this. Geez.
I haven’t turned it into anything. You said you got attacked for your political views. You also said you never wrote any political views.

I don’t follow politics at all so I’m never in any of those aggressive discussions. Sorry you are feeling picked on. I wasn’t there so don’t know what happened nor am I trying to make it my business.

I’m not sure what type of response you were expecting.
 


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