Beautiful and Handsome People

Mike

Mike

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The Good, the Bad and the Ugly, another way
of looking at it.

How do you see people, do you compare them
with your friends and family?

I have known some terrifying looking people, I
was concerned about, who turned out to be OK.

I have a friend, I met in 2002, when I went to work
at the Bank of America, he was already there as an
engineer, when I joined the team, I thought then
that he might be a thug, or maybe a gangster, but
when I got to know him, he is a "Pussy Cat".

That example brings me to the question, when you
know people like friends and family, do accept them
more readily, than you do strangers, are you biased
toward those that you know than strangers?

I think that we are, I certainly am, as I have experienced
similar feelings, throughout my working life, too.

Mike.
 

I've seen really physically beautiful people fall apart right before my eyes when they open their mouths, and not-so-beautiful people grow to be much more attractive as I get to know their true essence.

I learned a long time ago not to judge a book by its cover. More than likely, physical attractiveness will get you in the door with most people, but if you're ugly on the inside, it won't keep you there. The content of someone's character is much more important than their outward appearance. :)
 

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Bella said:
I've seen really physically beautiful people fall apart right before my eyes when they open their mouths, and not-so-beautiful people grow to be much more attractive as I get to know their true essence.

I learned a long time ago not to judge a book by its cover. More than likely, physical attractiveness will get you in the door with most people, but if you're ugly on the inside, it won't keep you there. The content of someone's character is much more important than their outward appearance. :)
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Wise words!
 
When I started work at the newspaper, there was a woman who worked in my department who was, frankly, scary looking.

She had eyes that bulged out, which I learned later was caused by a thyroid problem. She was tall, very skinny and gaunt looking and had wild grey hair. She could have played the Witch in Hansel and Gretel, easily.

I hadn't really exchanged any words with her and one day, after being there for a couple of weeks, I walked past her desk and she hissed, "Hussy!" at me. I was floored. What had I done? I acted like I hadn't heard and later that day, decided to confide in one of the older women (I was 25) and ask why "Sue" had done that.

The other woman laughed and said, "Oh, when you get to know Sue, you'll realize that was a compliment. It just means you looked particularly young and slim and attractive."

So I decided to try to get to know "Sue" and when I did, I found a delightfully funny and warm woman under the scary exterior. She was just a character with a weird sense of humor, which I came to appreciate. We became good friends and I treasured her friendship.

As they say, you can't judge a book by its cover.....
 
Right before I retired, our company was expanding and I interviewed many potential candidates for my sales force. I'll have to admit that their outward appearance mattered to me because they were representing our company. However, there were some candidates that weren't as "put together" but they were highly intelligent and prepared for the interview. They were the ones who were hired.
 
Never been in an adult life position where I had an opportunity to make choices between many people I might choose to make friends with much less in respect to physical attractiveness. At many corporate workplaces including offices and labs with hundreds of people in every building, unlike numbers of others, I kept a low profile socially, not trying to involve my counterculture lifestyle with whatever theirs was.

That also kept me isolated from any aggressive internal politics allowing me to work stably employed many years at each company. Instead region wise, met enthusiasts with similar outdoor pursuits without needing to be close personal friends. Same thing, attending Meetup dot com activities today, none of which has to do with a particular set of cultural persons, much less meat market dating groups where physical attractiveness is the key currency.

Unless someone has a shared activity interest, nowadays, as an old guy with fun planned, I don't have a need to know strangers just for the sake of social interactions. My world became far too focused into how I wanted to spend my peon life about the natural world, decades ago. In any case sorry guys all else equal, I will always have a huge bias over making friends with single females over other persons. Am hopelessly attracted to women, especially their beautiful smiling faces, female feminine ways, voices, and form, and glad for it.
 
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