My attitude has been kind of off kilter lately,

hawkdon

hawkdon

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with my physical well being...today I nearly fell at the front door, it
seems that entry has it out for me....I am just a bit depressed I guess,
am tired of the pain, aches, rash, lungs, I mean what the hell why so
many things at once?! I seem to be getting more clumsy every day
with my hands, and walking....get tired of cooking, clean up all alone...
ah well hell, this too shall pass I guess....enuff from me already!!:oops:(y)
 

Are you eating properly ?
Eating an anti inflammatory diet can help lots.
A big mistake many make when they get older is to purchase canned protein shakes.

Unfortunately these shakes are filled with sugar and dairy which cause inflammation.

You are best off drinking something like this which is vegan. Mix it with water, almond milk, cashew milk or coconut milk.

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I hear you @hawkdon. I don't have a lot of aches and pains, but I've been falling a bunch, seems like at least once every day. My footing isn't what it used to be. Or is it my balance? I dunno. If I start falling at work, I'll quit before I get hurt.

About the cooking...DD rarely cooks so I usually only eat something I can nuke or some cereal and fruit. I never did like cooking for just myself.

Feel free to rant or rave or complain or whatever. That's what we're here for... Gramma ā¤ļø hawky!
 

PeppermintPatty said:
Are you eating properly ?
Eating an anti inflammatory diet can help lots.
A big mistake many make when they get older is to purchase canned protein shakes.

Unfortunately these shakes are filled with sugar and dairy which cause inflammation.

You are best off drinking something like this which is vegan. Mix it with water, almond milk, cashew milk or coconut milk.

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pEppermint, I definitly do NOT eat correctly....candy, cookies, tv dinners can of soup....that's how I roll...eggs with either sausage or bacon, cereal once a week....top chef LOLOL....
 
Just be sure to get checked out. There seems to be no end to the health, strength, vision, and neurological issues that may impact our ability to get around safely in our daily lives as we age.
 
Jules said:
Hawkdon, do you think itā€™s time to move to an apartment where there are others very close to you. @katlupe and @Marie5656 live in places that have independence and social contacts.
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Meals are made for you. They make sure you are eating well. You get nurse practitioners caring for you and a doctor on call when and if you need it. Lots of social interaction
I completely agree. My parents improved greatly when they went in for assisted living.
Daily activities to do with others. Itā€™s a good idea. Thereā€™s even housekeeping and they do your laundry.
 
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hawkdon said:
with my physical well being...today I nearly fell at the front door, it
seems that entry has it out for me....I am just a bit depressed I guess,
am tired of the pain, aches, rash, lungs, I mean what the hell why so
many things at once?! I seem to be getting more clumsy every day
with my hands, and walking....get tired of cooking, clean up all alone...
ah well hell, this too shall pass I guess....enuff from me already!!:oops:(y)
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:) Maybe you need a break, hawkdon --it's Sunday, day of rest. Maybe a gourmet restaurant meal to go, followed up with a good book or a movie. Maybe find something on YouTube or SeniorForums to laugh at. Be well.
 
hawkdon said:
with my physical well being...today I nearly fell at the front door, it
seems that entry has it out for me....I am just a bit depressed I guess,
am tired of the pain, aches, rash, lungs, I mean what the hell why so
many things at once?! I seem to be getting more clumsy every day
with my hands, and walking....get tired of cooking, clean up all alone...
ah well hell, this too shall pass I guess....enuff from me already!!:oops:(y)
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I nearly posted the same thing today. And yesterday.

And, no, I'm not eating well, either. Anymore, I don't care about eating well. I care more about seeing to it my cat eats well.

I don't care about much at all. Naturally, I care about my kids and grandkids, but they are all grown, and they are doing well.
 
most humans of course lack companionship ; a tap on the shoulder ; a light chin-wag from time to time and a shared meal - just the simple things in life but sometimes they just don't seem to come that easy? shared communial living seems the best solution to loneliness/
 
gruntlabor said:
:) Maybe you need a break, hawkdon --it's Sunday, day of rest. Maybe a gourmet restaurant meal to go, followed up with a good book or a movie. Maybe find something on YouTube or SeniorForums to laugh at. Be well.
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I have been watching a lot of Utube LOL...as for going out I can't, stopped driving about 4 yrs ago, it was time...I AM tempted to order chinese in tonite LOL...thanks....
 
hawkdon said:
Well when my wife passed I cheked out those sorta senior places....and I cannot get inthem due to my
income,,,,,just a tad to high for some, way to damn
low for the rest....so here I stay LOL.....I am just in
a depression time and need to get over it......
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There are some senior apartments, though, while not providing your meals or transportation, would provide social contact and some do have activities.
 
Man I know about being alone I think I was losing the plot big time coming here may have been my solution. I wouldn't have made a move if I hadn't lost a large part of my income, I was down to microwave dinners they weren't bad but they didn't equal home cooking. If nothing else contact the state dept of Aging and apply for home health assistance they'll keep your house clean and provide some company but there is a waiting list and with the labor shortage it may take a while so I'd get on it. Keeping busy helped me more than anything, make your bed it's surprising what a little thing like that does for your head.
 
Well don't ya think that with a forum as large and well known as this one that we would be able to organize some realtime connections with each other for the lost and lonely? - I'll leave my address at the front desk - Ta
 
hawkdon said:
Well when my wife passed I cheked out those sorta senior places....and I cannot get in them due to my income,,,,,just a tad to high for some, way to damn low for the rest....so here I stay LOL.....I am just in a depression time and need to get over it......
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What mobility aids do you use? I have several walking sticks and a wheelie walker. I find the stick is good if I am walking on uneven ground and the walker is great if I am likely to become fatigued by walking.

I do get a bit wobbly on my feet from time to time and have had a couple of bad falls where I toppled backwards and landed on hard surfaces, cracking the back of my skull, which fortunately seem to be too thick to break. Looking back this happened when I was rather stressed and it seems that I was having something known as a silent migraine.

ā€œMigraine aura without headacheā€ā€”previously known as ā€œacephalgic migraineā€ and sometimes called ā€œsilent migraineā€ā€”is when someone has a migraine aura without any head pain. Despite a lack of head pain, migraine aura without headache is still disabling for those who live with it.
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Now that I am aware of this condition I try to keep my stress levels under control and am very careful where I place my feet. I wear a falls alarm most of the time now.

My balance seems to have improved since I have become the custodian of five pet hens. My zookeeper duties include keeping their coop clean and daily clean up of the backyard because they have free range and love to dig in the gardens. I find sweeping, rather than using the hose or the blower, to be excellent exercise that improves balance. It is also quite calming for the mind.

My suggestion is to focus on the positives in your life - spend time with good friends, listen to music more and find a project that absorbs your mind and brings you pleasure. Go for walks in pleasant surroundings and drink in beauty wherever you find it. Quite recently I was treated to the ballet Carmen at the Sydney Opera House by my daughter and my son's ex wife. After the performance was over I was on quite a high and I looked out over the harbour and stood there for several minutes gazing at the beauty before me. Seek out such moments because they are food for the mind and the soul.

Last but not least, when I feel overwhelmed, I lay my troubles down at God's feet and ask for help. I find that after my surrender, things begin to look up, and I find myself in a better place. The shortest prayer in the history of the human race is "Help me, God", and in my experience, it never falls on deaf ears, although the response may be a bit different to what we had in mind.

ā€œWhich of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (Matthew 7:9-11)

Sorry if my response seems a bit off topic but I urge you to take some time to think about what I have written. It won't hurt you and it could just be of some help.
 
Warrigal said:
What mobility aids do you use? I have several walking sticks and a wheelie walker. I find the stick is good if I am walking on uneven ground and the walker is great if I am likely to become fatigued by walking.

I do get a bit wobbly on my feet from time to time and have had a couple of bad falls where I toppled backwards and landed on hard surfaces, cracking the back of my skull, which fortunately seem to be too thick to break. Looking back this happened when I was rather stressed and it seems that I was having something known as a silent migraine.



Now that I am aware of this condition I try to keep my stress levels under control and am very careful where I place my feet. I wear a falls alarm most of the time now.

My balance seems to have improved since I have become the custodian of five pet hens. My zookeeper duties include keeping their coop clean and daily clean up of the backyard because they have free range and love to dig in the gardens. I find sweeping, rather than using the hose or the blower, to be excellent exercise that improves balance. It is also quite calming for the mind.

My suggestion is to focus on the positives in your life - spend time with good friends, listen to music more and find a project that absorbs your mind and brings you pleasure. Go for walks in pleasant surroundings and drink in beauty wherever you find it. Quite recently I was treated to the ballet Carmen at the Sydney Opera House by my daughter and my son's ex wife. After the performance was over I was on quite a high and I looked out over the harbour and stood there for several minutes gazing at the beauty before me. Seek out such moments because they are food for the mind and the soul.

Last but not least, when I feel overwhelmed, I lay my troubles down at God's feet and ask for help. I find that after my surrender, things begin to look up, and I find myself in a better place. The shortest prayer in the history of the human race is "Help me, God", and in my experience, it never falls on deaf ears, although the response may be a bit different to what we had in mind.

ā€œWhich of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (Matthew 7:9-11)

Sorry if my response seems a bit off topic but I urge you to take some time to think about what I have written. It won't hurt you and it could just be of some help.
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Thanks for this warrigal....the business of mobility is a big issue for me, I cannot stand on my feet for more than about 15 mins, so cannot get outside at all anymore....I do use a cane but that does not really help much, I'm debating getting a wheel walker with seat for in the house here....but boy this is'
a small house for one I think...I do use mental stuff to keep me out of deep depresseion....mostly stuff I learned in alcoholics anonymouse, this year marks 42 yrs sober, so I
am certainly thankful for that...I seem to be lacking in motivation lately, and got to get that attitude back!!! take care....
 
TheOtherRick said:
Man I know about being alone I think I was losing the plot big time coming here may have been my solution. I wouldn't have made a move if I hadn't lost a large part of my income, I was down to microwave dinners they weren't bad but they didn't equal home cooking. If nothing else contact the state dept of Aging and apply for home health assistance they'll keep your house clean and provide some company but there is a waiting list and with the labor shortage it may take a while so I'd get on it. Keeping busy helped me more than anything, make your bed it's surprising what a little thing like that does for your head.
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I wasnā€™t sure they had that in the states. Here in Canada you can apply for assisted living. They help make sure you shower , do some light house keeping , help you take your medicine, do some light cooking and talk to you. They stay from 1 to 3 hours and you donā€™t pay a thing. In Canada itā€™s called VON.
Phone social services also and ask for help. There are things you can do besides eating right. This is a very good idea that I forgot about

Try and eat better though. It really does help.
 
hawkdon said:
Thanks for this warrigal....the business of mobility is a big issue for me, I cannot stand on my feet for more than about 15 mins, so cannot get outside at all anymore....I do use a cane but that does not really help much, I'm debating getting a wheel walker with seat for in the house here....but boy this is'
a small house for one I think...I do use mental stuff to keep me out of deep depresseion....mostly stuff I learned in alcoholics anonymouse, this year marks 42 yrs sober, so I
am certainly thankful for that...I seem to be lacking in motivation lately, and got to get that attitude back!!! take care....
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Oh! You REALLY do need help.
Congratulations on your sobriety.
Thatā€™s really good.
 
Congratulations on 42 years sober!
Pain and mobility issues can weigh on you and so it's not unheard of to be blue sometimes. If it gets where it is more and more common then you should reach out. Hopefully, it just hits you here and there and you are able to cope most of the time. šŸµ
 

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