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StarSong said:
My experience (second hand) with divorce is that honorable people behave honorably and dishonorable people behave dishonorably.

That HD's ex is hiding assets, trying to cheat her, and making this as difficult as possible was entirely predictable, given how he behaved shortly before the split and through until now.

Court can be a great leveler because at least in the US, perjury is something judges take very seriously so litigant are loath to lie under oath before a judge. Given that our laws were largely based on English laws, the same is probably true there.
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yes certainly perjury here is punishable by a prison sentence... I'm not sure that he would have to take an Oath..I'm really not au fait as to the court system now with regard to Divorce.. rather, that from my understanding the judge is given all the facts... and he/she makes their decision based on that. My lawyer did say we would have to be appearing in court... but just what extent that would be I don't know.. however we're at stalemate with that currently because it's up to me to take it to court.. and at the moment I can't see a way to afford that since the quote from my lawyer. To say that I was considering £10,000 approx and I 've now been quoted several times that amount...
 

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hollydolly said:
yes certainly perjury here is punishable by a prison sentence... I'm not sure that he would have to take an Oath..I'm really not au fait as to the court system now with regard to Divorce.. rather, that from my understanding the judge is given all the facts... and he/she makes their decision based on that. My lawyer did say we would have to be appearing in court... but just what extent that would be I don't know.. however we're at stalemate with that currently because it's up to me to take it to court.. and at the moment I can't see a way to afford that since the quote from my lawyer. To say that I was considering £10,000 approx and I 've now been quoted several times that amount...
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I've been to DS/DSIL's for lunch. Not going next month because RT via Uber is almost $100, and I've gotta pay for cataract surgery.

It's hot. I watered all the flowers this morning when I got home from work.

I'm worn out.

And Holly's news makes me so mad that I can't even...anything. I hope he gets warts, ugly toenail fungus and an itchy, incurable but not fatal, social disease. I also hope that when all is said and done that he suffers some serious financial reversal that leaves him destitute or at least in such reduced circumstances that he'll never recover and never again live the high life that he lives now. Once "his" money is gone, he'll be far less attractive to his current long-legged, nubile young maidens.

I've been waffling again. If I quit, there's nothing to do except sit here and wait to die. If I don't quit, it's more of the same old same old. This morning there were hardly any of the products I needed for today; therefore, even fewer for tomorrow. There are two huge pallets of products for the bakery sitting in the freezer that I can't get to. I have no idea what's on the pallets...maybe some of the things I need, maybe not.

Working alone tomorrow morning. Done at 9. Sir isn't scheduled until 11. I'm going to find someone to move the blankety-blank pallets to the bakery, go through them as much as I can and take out the things I need, then find someone to move said pallets back to the freezer. If there's something that Sir wants, he'll have to resign himself to going to the freezer, getting the pallets and unloading them.

If I thought for a hot second that I could find another job, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. Without notice.
 
Georgiagranny said:
I've been to DS/DSIL's for lunch. Not going next month because RT via Uber is almost $100, and I've gotta pay for cataract surgery.

It's hot. I watered all the flowers this morning when I got home from work.

I'm worn out.

And Holly's news makes me so mad that I can't even...anything. I hope he gets warts, ugly toenail fungus and an itchy, incurable but not fatal, social disease. I also hope that when all is said and done that he suffers some serious financial reversal that leaves him destitute or at least in such reduced circumstances that he'll never recover and never again live the high life that he lives now. Once "his" money is gone, he'll be far less attractive to his current long-legged, nubile young maidens.

I've been waffling again. If I quit, there's nothing to do except sit here and wait to die. If I don't quit, it's more of the same old same old. This morning there were hardly any of the products I needed for today; therefore, even fewer for tomorrow. There are two huge pallets of products for the bakery sitting in the freezer that I can't get to. I have no idea what's on the pallets...maybe some of the things I need, maybe not.

Working alone tomorrow morning. Done at 9. Sir isn't scheduled until 11. I'm going to find someone to move the blankety-blank pallets to the bakery, go through them as much as I can and take out the things I need, then find someone to move said pallets back to the freezer. If there's something that Sir wants, he'll have to resign himself to going to the freezer, getting the pallets and unloading them.

If I thought for a hot second that I could find another job, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. Without notice.
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Maybe you could get a job at Lowes tending the garden dept. 🌱
 
hearlady said:
But that's in the UK. Somehow it's getting your ex to pay your legal fees.
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apparently I can ask for that during the divorce case in court .. and often they will be granted but it's not a certainty..and now I'm beginning to wonder even if the court orders him to pay,..generally.. that he might keep stalling causing me to continue to take him back to court...
 
hollydolly said:
apparently I can ask for that during the divorce case in court .. and often they will be granted but it's not a certainty..and now I'm beginning to wonder even if the court orders him to pay,..generally.. that he might keep stalling causing me to continue to take him back to court...
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Oh, I would hope not but he doesn't seem to have any compassion. 😒
Seems worth looking into.
 
hearlady said:
Oh, I would hope not but he doesn't seem to have any compassion. 😒
Seems worth looking into.
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I have looked into everything that I can find.. and will continue to do that....

I have watched so many Youtube videos as well from Divorce lawyers and Mediation people.. and they make it all sound, easy enough but they never take into consideration the situation I'm in now...

..but yes I will still be getting as much info as I can .thank you
 
CinnamonSugar said:
I made a late afternoon tour of the yard and realized I needed to put the hose to water the base of my oak leaf hydrangea. It looked more like Oak Leaf Dehydration 😜
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Mine is not oak leaf but they really need a lot of water!
It is wilting in this heat if I don't keep an eye on it.
I just came in from watering everything. Even the things that can usually wait for rain.
 
My son and I continued working on a couple of tracks this evening, after which we had what he thought was going to be an “uncomfortable conversation” about me creating using a digital music program instead of my instrument. Turns out it wasn’t uncomfortable at all. We’d discussed that subject a few months ago. Tonight I told him that it should be easier for me now than back in 2009 because of our studio setup. But I also explained why I much prefer working on my instrument. We agreed that he will buy the Cuebase program for me.

At 10:15 p.m. I chased one of my upstairs neighbor's son off my patio railing. Almost every night he's out there talking with a friend or on his phone. Sometimes it's after midnight. Last night I’d finally had it and knocked on the patio glass door signaling for him to move, which he did. Guess he didn’t take the hint because he was back, but earlier tonight. I’ve interacted with this young man before and he seems like a nice boy.

Tonight I decided to speak with him about it. I found him standing on the steps across from our two buildings with his friend. Here’s how the conversation went:
Me: Are you Tony’s son? (I knew he was)
Him: Yes.
Me: Come here Baby…let me talk to you. (yes. he is a child under me and that “Baby” is a grandmotherly thing that softens ’em up).
First of all, those railings are not strong enough to be sat on or even leaned against. Secondly, it gets quiet in my house early because my son goes to bed early since he has to get up so early. You know my son, right? Tall......
Him: (after thinking a few seconds) Yes Ma’am.

Me: I can hear everything you say when you’re by my patio, so if you're talking about things you don't want people to hear, you definitely shouldn't be by the patio.
Him: Ohh..I apologize!
Me: Your dad and my son grew up here playing together. Your father has been nothing but respectful to me and I suspect you are the same way..
Him: Yes Ma’am. I am.
Me: Is there any reason you don’t sit on the benches in the courtyard? Seems like they’d be more comfortable. (There are picnic type tables with benches out there).
Him: I should have thought of that. Again, I apologize.
Me (smiling): I accept you apology. Have a nice weekend.
Him (smiling) You do the same.
 
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On the other side of our property, there was a major commotion with the birds. I heard a repetitive chirp chirp chirp. I couldn’t see through the fence or bushes. Then a crow was up in a tree looking down at this area. He was furious. We rarely have crows around here. Then a magpie was looking down and also upset. Some more birds arrived and they were upset too. Most of them left after about ten minutes and finally the chirping quit after half an hour. Wish I’d thought to record them.
 
It's the red-wing black birds that are a menace in my area. When their young are nesting you'd better stay away! They'll dive-bomb you or any cat that's nearby. They have a shrill voice that they display when they're about to land somewhere or when they're about to dive-bomb you :oops: Nasty beggers :mad:
 

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