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Good morning to all. Saw DS's family on Saturday, and other son & DIL yesterday for an impromptu lunch at their place with them and her parents. (The four parents get along famously - we'd have been friends even if not related by our kids' marriage.) A lovely day. As was Saturday.

DGS (age 12) with the ear infection has not been improving - it anything it's getting worse. DD snagged an emergency appt. with their pediatrician in a couple of hours. He saw two docs last week for this. Hoping the third time will be the charm.
 

The furnace is coming on every morning again. We’d had a heat wave for a few days.

StarSong said:
DGS (age 12) with the ear infection has not been improving - it anything it's getting worse. DD snagged an emergency appt. with their pediatrician in a couple of hours. He saw two docs last week for this. Hoping the third time will be the charm.
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Wishing the best for the poor kid; earaches are so painful.
 
hollydolly said:
The GF works.. she work with him at the studios... while he was still living here and while I thought my marriage was still fine.. he and her were having s..ex in the dressing rooms.. he is one of the bosses at the studios.. she's a 20 something freelancer...
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Sounds classy :sneaky:

Freelancer? Doing a bit of overtime by the sound of it :cool:

hollydolly said:
My hands have been more painful this last few days than they have ever been since I was first Diagnosed with the OA. I've not been able to lift anything remotely heavy, especially the tea kettle...so it's very risky trying to make tea and lifting the boiling kettle.. in case I drop it.. because I just can't grip it..

I realise it may be the stress that's causing this... but it's just so painful...
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Have a look at the Breville Hotcup Water Dispensers on Amazon. My mum has one and you can set them to pour just the right amount for the cup size. You don't have to lift it at all. Mum has a lightweight plastic measuring jug to fill up the water tank. You can get different styles and sizes and they look smart too. You can buy them in the shops as well as on Amazon. John Lewis stocks the one mum has.
 

hollydolly said:
I have surfaced...it's past 6.30pm... my head is pounding.. I really can't tell you what was said at the moment.. ... but I can tell you the first thing the legal rep said to me was ''I am furious at their ( his lawyers) total disregard for our request of information that is imperative within law''...


...so we've now sent a third request for tt info.. without which we've made it clear they will get no copies of anything from here..until they get him to supply the info we need..


Secondly, you may all be horrified to know that there is in law, no cut off age for someone to go to work.. IOW.. it doesn't matter if I'm over 65 or over 95 he can still ask for proof that I am searching for work... and or proof that I have a condition which would prevent me from working
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..of course you can imagine what was said between the 2 of us about that matter.. but as she said it was written badly there was no call for his lawyers to be as abrupt and rude in the way they addressed it in their mail to me.. she said

.. and thirdly..he sent his main Credit card statements for the last 12 months ..( he didn't give up all the rest to be viewed so that's another problem that has to be addressed.).. and I have to tell you, My husband has never spent money like he's spending now.. I was absolutely shocked... day after day..money after money... holidays, hotels, Airbnb's... ..and wait for it... Aesthetics clinics in London.. and let's put it a little politely shall we?... ready.... ?... as well as a certain clinic ..... and when I looked to see what it was it's a provider of all that's needed for men who can't perform..to be able to perform.. 🎭

So it looks like he's keeping the 20 sumthin' w hore in the style she has become accustomed ...paying for everything including her car insurance.. .. and going against everything he's ever said in the past about Botox & fillers ( never would even consider it).. it looks like he's doing everything to make himself appear younger.. even to the point where he's got a large regular Standing order payment to a company for Probiotic drinks.. ...very expensive.. not your ordinary supermarket probiotics for him...

I don't care that I'm putting on here.. really I 've got past caring... there's thousands of pounds been spent just the last 12 months.. and that's just from one account.. he even pays HER car insurance... ..yet he wants me to have nothing.... and I wasn't the one who did wrong...I could understand it all if I had been the cheater ...


So there.. we now wait for the missing document to arrive so my lawyer can view that... and then we go from there... .. my lawyer in the meantime says.. it's ''smoke & Puff''.. so not to worry too much at the moment


That's as much as I can tell you guys.. and I'm only putting here because so many of you have been massive supporters...
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He left and entered a different world. Down the rabbit hole so to speak.
Best you are left in the real world, albeit painful. It won't always be. It's not fair but I know someday you'll thank him for leaving you.
 
When I thought my wife was going to return from Florida I bought some kitchen updates: A new microwave, a steamer, a new vacuum, a steam cleaner, a high-pressure water thingy, and so on. She's a vegetarian, so cooking it difficult, and so I thought all this stuff would make her happy.

I DON'T MEAN TO SUGGEST SHE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL USE THESE THINGS.

Anyway, she never came. I bought her a ticket, but she didn't get on the plane. As such, these items have sat in a big stack of boxes unopened and unused.

Until today. I opened the steamer (and bought some broccoli) and I'll open the microwave later. It's time to use what I've paid for.

Is that a good day, or a bad one? :D
 
Two hours to go to Walmart. Two. Hours. WTH? Why? Because DGD just had to go along, too. It should have taken ten minutes to get there, 30 minutes to shop, five minutes to check out, ten minutes to get home again. There and back a total of an hour at most. This happens way too often, and way too often I say never again. Woe is me.

Yesterday we had a meal picked up from DSIL's all-time favorite BBQ place. It was delicious, and there's a lot of pulled pork left over. DD sweet talked me into making Brunswick stew. OMG I hate that stuff🤢🤮, but I threw it together using half of the leftover pork and half of the leftover BBQ sauce (among all the other things, of course...onion, garlic, tomatoes, corn, Lima beans, seasonings).

Silly me. I'm cooking it in my kitchen. Don't ask me why when DD has a kitchen🤷‍♀️ Now I'm stuck with smelling that stuff all afternoon. Ew.

@hollydolly Sounds like he's beyond mid-life crisis; now he's in his second childhood!

@VaughanJB Wait. What? She went to Florida and hasn't come back? Is there a plan to come back or has she flown the coop? Anyway, yeah. Go ahead and use the things you bought and paid for. Why not?
 
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@VaughanJB Wait. What? She went to Florida and hasn't come back? Is there a plan to come back or has she flown the coop? Anyway, yeah. Go ahead and use the things you bought and paid for. Why not?
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I don't want to hijack the thread with my nonsense. We spoke, and she said she wanted to come back. I bought a ticket. I got a call from her mother saying she hadn't go on the plane, which indeed was the fact. Ticket went to waste, and things have not changed. I, perhaps foolishly, thought I was going to make things better once she was here, so replaced/bought some appliances. It's probably the folly of man struggling to make things "right", whatever that is. The boxes have been there for a few weeks. Just stacked up.

I think we can surmise, I've no idea what I'm doing. I've no idea if she will return, and I won't pressure her to do so. I'm trying to be understanding, and caring. It's taking its toll, but that's for me to deal with. I shall continue to de-box. :)
 
VaughanJB said:
I don't want to hijack the thread with my nonsense.
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You're not hijacking anything. We all talk about whatever strikes us at the moment. Sometimes stream-of-consciousness, sometimes it's venting, sometimes we get philosophical, sometimes we blather on about nothing much. You go right ahead and post whatever you feel like posting!

If you have a cat, be sure to leave the open boxes📦 lying around🐱
 
VaughanJB said:
I don't want to hijack the thread with my nonsense. We spoke, and she said she wanted to come back. I bought a ticket. I got a call from her mother saying she hadn't go on the plane, which indeed was the fact. Ticket went to waste, and things have not changed. I, perhaps foolishly, thought I was going to make things better once she was here, so replaced/bought some appliances. It's probably the folly of man struggling to make things "right", whatever that is. The boxes have been there for a few weeks. Just stacked up.

I think we can surmise, I've no idea what I'm doing. I've no idea if she will return, and I won't pressure her to do so. I'm trying to be understanding, and caring. It's taking its toll, but that's for me to deal with. I shall continue to de-box. :)
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Wow, that's a tough one. I hope she changes her mind.
 
hollydolly said:
Thanks for that Trish, I'll have a look at those later... My hands aren't so painful today thank God... but I still struggled to lift the kettle this morning.

I've got a John lewis near me so I could also go there if need be...(y)

I was in the meeting with the lawyer for much longer than she normally allocates because there was so much to discuss and even then.. we couldn't cover everything.. but it meant fortunately I could go out afterwards and get the shopping. I drove into North London to get M&S and Tesco Superstore.. and stocked up with a ton of groceries... ..then when I got back, my job for today was to go through his statements ( officially ) and see what he spent and where and to see if there was anything out of the ordinary, which is what I was told to do by the lawyer..

I really wish I hadn't had that t do because I would rather never have known what he was spending on..it's gonna haunt me.😟.. we're talking about a man who aside from High end vehicles and anything that goes with that..and his expensive watches wouldn't spend a penny to pee if he could pee in the road for free.. I've been married to him almost 24 years..I've known him since I was 30 years old.. which is nearly 40 years.. he has never ever spent money like this..it's very strange
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I had a problem with my arm a while back and, if it had been a permanent thing, I would have bought one.

Okay, so, reading what you have posted, this sounds promising and your solicitor's support is very helpful.

Your ex's spending, the holidays and the attempts to bridge the enormous age gap, it must be exhausting!
 
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VaughanJB said:
I don't want to hijack the thread with my nonsense. We spoke, and she said she wanted to come back. I bought a ticket. I got a call from her mother saying she hadn't go on the plane, which indeed was the fact. Ticket went to waste, and things have not changed. I, perhaps foolishly, thought I was going to make things better once she was here, so replaced/bought some appliances. It's probably the folly of man struggling to make things "right", whatever that is. The boxes have been there for a few weeks. Just stacked up.

I think we can surmise, I've no idea what I'm doing. I've no idea if she will return, and I won't pressure her to do so. I'm trying to be understanding, and caring. It's taking its toll, but that's for me to deal with. I shall continue to de-box. :)
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It's difficult when relationships get rocky, especially when love is still alive. I hope your marriage is salvable and that you and your wife will be able to fix whatever it is that is broken.
 
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Trish said:
I had a problem with my arm a while back and, if it had been a permanent thing, I would have bought one.

Okay, so, reading what you have posted, this sounds promising and your solicitor's support is very helpful.

Your husband's spending is interesting. All I can think is, how long will he be able to keep it up? (no pun intended! 🫢). I mean all the spending, the holidays and the attempts to bridge the enormous age gap, it must be exhausting!
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yes it must be...sorry...I'm not going to comment any further..on this thread..
 
hollydolly said:
it's just hard for me to even think that he would, altho' I'm sure you're right... but as well as all the expense on high end furnishings for his home.. he's spending money like no tomorrow. If it had been the first year he was with her I would have realised that he was showing off... all the trappings etc... the hotels the holidays, all the rest... but it's now 3 years..
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@hollydolly
Reading between the lines, it really does appear that he is desperately trying to hold onto his relationship. Botox and a clinic for male impotence points to big problems.
 
Happiness is just walking around in our garden.

Our Silk Oak Tree is now in full bloom .........................At the bottom of the flowers new Pomegranates are growing
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For years we had a hawk pair nesting in a tree. The fledglings have left the nest but are still screaming for
food nearby. Surprisingly, we have plenty of smaller birds in our garden despite the large predators. It's
amusing to watch how the much smaller but very agile Mockingbirds are harassing the hawks. I even have
seen how a mockingbird picked the tail of a cat, causing the cat to flip over. When I have in summer my
window open, I can listen for hours to the wondrous singing of Mockingbirds. They are my favorite birds.
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A crayfish in our little creek................................................One inch long Mexican Mosquito Fish in our pond
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40 years ago, our pond was 3 feet deep. We bough a two inch long Koi fish for $2. After many years, it had
grown to 2 feet long worth quite a bit of money by that time. But we didn't count on our Doberman dog's
fishing ability. He caught the Koi fish, ate half of it, and left the remaining half at the door for me to eat. How
considerate, LOL. --- Years later 3 of our dogs had driven a harmless snake into the pond and created a
commotion that caused me to come running in my night pajamas. --- And over the years, we had many odd
birds fishing in the pond. The water attracts many birds and also insects, like dragonflies.

I am a nature enthusiast, and nature makes me feel happy.
 

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