Taking oneself too seriously

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TennVet

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I'm a people watcher. When my wife and I are out and about that's how I spend my wait time, that's short for she isn't ready to go yet. I see too many people willing to push a point, treat staff rudely, or just making a show of complaining about the most minor things. Think of folks waiting in line as an example. I reason to myself that these are cases of people taking themselves too seriously. What do you think?
 

I think many of these cases are frustrated women who traditionally have had no power or say in things. So our strategy has been to backbite and complain incessantly. Sometimes it works.

But usually it doesn't help so my philosophy is that I am first a person, and then a woman. I refuse to bitch and whine. If I don't like something or someone, I am free to go elsewhere. No offence meant to you girls that think otherwise.
 
I always take myself seriously, life is a joke.
 

RadishRose said:
If you look for poor behavior you will find it.

I haven't noticed any worse behavior than I have in the past. I see a LOT more kind behaviors than not, honestly.
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I basically agree with that. But, occasionally, something on the order of what TennVet mentions does show up on the scene. Could be someone taking themself too seriously... sometimes I think cocaine, or a little too much alcohol, has let some 'inner nastiness' loose.
 
I think your outings sound quite lively @TennVet I seldom see such goings on.

To be fair, as an observer, you won't necessarily know whether the person complaining is justified to do so or not. I think most people tend to be polite until they feel they are not being taken seriously and then they get frustrated. I think that's my answer to your question as to whether people take themselves too seriously; some do, some don't but, most people want to be taken seriously.
 
Something like that. I only know it because I have been accused of not taking myself or life in general too seriously. When I would try to find the humor in any situation, it would infuriate my Ex. She warned me when we first met she tended toward being pretentious (I should have listened!) Can’t change who I am and don’t want to.
 
True story. Several years ago I drove to a local convenience store one morning before work. The parking lot was small and tight and always crowded. I parked too close to a guy sitting in his car and he got out and started yelling at me for parking too close to HIS car and began cursing me and female drivers in general. He just stood in the parking lot doing this and many customers saw him because the place does great business in the morning. No one got involved. No one stood up for me. I went into the store and did my business and left. I felt horrible all day after this male supremacist tore into me. I was so humiliated.
I got over it but avoided anyplace where male supremacists congregate and instead gave my business to places where fathers shopping with their sons instruct the boys to hold the door for a woman just because it's the civil thing to do. I was more comfortable but my world had been made smaller because of this incident and I became less happy and free. It's deeply impacted my life.

So yes, I do agree some people take themselves way too seriously. But we don't have to listen.
 
chic said:
True story. Several years ago I drove to a local convenience store one morning before work. The parking lot was small and tight and always crowded. I parked too close to a guy sitting in his car and he got out and started yelling at me for parking too close to HIS car and began cursing me and female drivers in general. He just stood in the parking lot doing this and many customers saw him because the place does great business in the morning. No one got involved. No one stood up for me. I went into the store and did my business and left. I felt horrible all day after this male supremacist tore into me. I was so humiliated.
I got over it but avoided anyplace where male supremacists congregate and instead gave my business to places where fathers shopping with their sons instruct the boys to hold the door for a woman just because it's the civil thing to do. I was more comfortable but my world had been made smaller because of this incident and I became less happy and free. It's deeply impacted my life.

So yes, I do agree some people take themselves way too seriously. But we don't have to listen.
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I'm so sorry he did this to you, Chic. A nice gal like you. :(
 
I agree with Trish about the frustration of not being taken seriously. Coming from a major metro area where I worked most of my life in supervisory positions to a rural area where the men are prettiy sure the little woman doesn't know what she is talking about has been very frustrating for me.
 
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chic said:
True story. Several years ago I drove to a local convenience store one morning before work. The parking lot was small and tight and always crowded. I parked too close to a guy sitting in his car and he got out and started yelling at me for parking too close to HIS car and began cursing me and female drivers in general. He just stood in the parking lot doing this and many customers saw him because the place does great business in the morning. No one got involved. No one stood up for me. I went into the store and did my business and left. I felt horrible all day after this male supremacist tore into me. I was so humiliated.
I got over it but avoided anyplace where male supremacists congregate and instead gave my business to places where fathers shopping with their sons instruct the boys to hold the door for a woman just because it's the civil thing to do. I was more comfortable but my world had been made smaller because of this incident and I became less happy and free. It's deeply impacted my life.

So yes, I do agree some people take themselves way too seriously. But we don't have to listen.
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It's obvious that he was the jerk, not you. Too bad one of the onlookers didn't point that out. It's a shame that these things tend to stick with us so long.
 
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