Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

Victor said:
When I email or communicate with someone new they often respond once, possibly twice briefly, then not again. It's like they are merely courteous with no desire for conversation or dialogue. On forums always or they don't reply at all. Lonely does not usually mean you want to talk with a stranger, apparently. Is this typical?
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Don't write everyone off because of a couple of bad experiences. There are all kinds out there. Who knows what's typical?
 
Don't expect to hit it off with everyone. Maybe worse yet is when one party loves talking to the other but the opposite isn't working at all.

Chemistry is complicated, even at the acquaintance level. The whole thing is complicated.

But just making contact at all is hard enough for many isolated people.
 

dilettante said:
Don't expect to hit it off with everyone. Maybe worse yet is when one party loves talking to the other but the opposite isn't working at all.

Chemistry is complicated, even at the acquaintance level. The whole thing is complicated.

But just making contact at all is hard enough for many isolated people.
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Don't give up! you can be blunt and hurt feelings but you also have a great sense of humor. Overtime, you will learn to play to your audience and there won't be hurt feelings. Just take your time to digest the information before you respond. Truth is I can tell you are very smart so may have problems conversating with us everyday folks. Tough spot to be in but for me I am glad I am ordinary. I hope you embrace your intelligence and learn to control it around us so called "normals".
 
Paco Dennis said:
@MsLaroux Why were you 5 years in isolation?
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Hi, first Covid as I have an immune problem, then a husband who would not let me go, building a trauma Bond and keeping me financially chained to him. And those five years I did not live with him but he ensured my world was just for his narcissist pleasure. Now I have a great trauma therapist and am breaking the bond. Miss the money tho lol
 
dusty said:
Sometimes. Usually when that happens I start writing a story. I also take online courses. The last one was "Space and Time" through Colgate University. Makes one think.
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Both writing and taking online courses are great ways to beat the blues. Taking a walk outdoors can change one's mood also. Playing with a pet or friend is fun. Sometimes we just have to wait until whatever is weighing us down passes. It always does...so far. :)
 
Remember, you are older now and have mostly lived your life. When I was 9 yrs my dad asked me what I wanted to be and I answered with "a doctor". I followed that by becoming a nurse, then a vetrinarian tech, then a Paramedic on a rescue squad. I volunteered at the local animal shelter, rescued dogs and cats, and I had a wonderful life. I wo uld do it all again even though there were a lot of sacrifices. Now I am retired and even tho the blues come around now and aain I realize this is MY time to spoil myself and I do. I pretty much keep myself occupied and thinking about the things I also wanted to do when I was busy ---That is my gift to my self.
 
Blessed said:
I have it sometimes when I am up all night. At that time, no one to call or any place to go. That can make for a long night. Right now I am getting ready to run to the store for a couple of things. Strange but I don't want to, it is a have to. I come here a lot when I want a connection, it really helps.
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I'm new and trying to figure out how this will personally help me besides a couple of emojis
 
Ruthanne said:
Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐶 🐦 :D✌️🐸🐥🦕🐠🦢🦜🌷🌹🌈☀️🌊
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Elsie, you could invite another member to a chat via Skype or Google Meet. Or via Zoom more members at the same time.
 
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dusty said:
Remember, you are older now and have mostly lived your life. When I was 9 yrs my dad asked me what I wanted to be and I answered with "a doctor". I followed that by becoming a nurse, then a vetrinarian tech, then a Paramedic on a rescue squad. I volunteered at the local animal shelter, rescued dogs and cats, and I had a wonderful life. I wo uld do it all again even though there were a lot of sacrifices. Now I am retired and even tho the blues come around now and aain I realize this is MY time to spoil myself and I do. I pretty much keep myself occupied and thinking about the things I also wanted to do when I was busy ---That is my gift to my self.
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This was a very fulfilling life, I'm not astonished that you would do it all again.
 

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