Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

I tried dating sites for a while. I am 72 now. I just don't want to spend the money on the women. A cup of coffee is fine. We can chat and go out but not to dinner or anything expensive. So that limits me. I have a nice home an older pickup and a nice cushion in the market. But, 99% see me pull up in the old pickup and that is it. First impression is I am poor and that is it. I never understand that but it is true.
 
I've never once considered a dating site. If I'm interested, (which I'm not) in someone, I just go up to them and start talking. You can find more out about a person in a few minutes than weeks of online talking. Real appearance, body language, personality, odor, honesty and others. Why waste time?
 
garyknrd said:
I tried dating sites for a while. I am 72 now. I just don't want to spend the money on the women. A cup of coffee is fine. We can chat and go out but not to dinner or anything expensive. So that limits me. I have a nice home an older pickup and a nice cushion in the market. But, 99% see me pull up in the old pickup and that is it. First impression is I am poor and that is it. I never understand that but it is true.
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Same here, hotdog cart or food truck. $5 to $10 is high as I go
 
Tried a dating service in the mid 80’s. As I remember, a bunch met in a group, but there was no date as a result. Just a weird awkward meeting resulting in $40 or so less in my back pocket. I know of younger folks now that have met someone that they married. My niece is one. My second oldest son is dating a lady for over a year now that he met online.
 
Michael Z said:
Tried a dating service in the mid 80’s. As I remember, a bunch met in a group, but there was no date as a result. Just a weird awkward meeting resulting in $40 or so less in my back pocket. I know of younger folks now that have met someone that they married. My niece is one. My second oldest son is dating a lady for over a year now that he met online.
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I've been seeing a man I met on a dating site for almost four years. You never know...
 
My daughter while at Oxford was freshly out of a relationship with a Serbian basketball star, mooning over him for six months when her room mates printed off a list of men from a dating site. Her concerned room mate pretty much forced her out of her mooning over said basketball star by asking her to "choose from one of these 35 names on this list; we are going to get you a date". The first name she picked: she has been married to him for 24 years and six children. It was a great match. My daughter said she studied the names and selected her husband due to his sur name: it was Dutch; she said "Northern European ancestry attracted me".

Before he met her he sent her a video tape of himself, his friends. He was an American pilot, stationed in Kuwait. They married six months later.
 
Michael Z said:
Tried a dating service in the mid 80’s. As I remember, a bunch met in a group, but there was no date as a result. Just a weird awkward meeting resulting in $40 or so less in my back pocket. I know of younger folks now that have met someone that they married. My niece is one. My second oldest son is dating a lady for over a year now that he met online.
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yep the young seem to meet people that way these days..unlike us oldies who met people at dance halls, and pubs and all sorts of places..now the young just swipe left or right on their phones... sad !
 
I had to quit my dating site.
hollydolly said:
yep the young seem to meet people that way these days..unlike us oldies who met people at dance halls, and pubs and all sorts of places..now the young just swipe left or right on their phones... sad !
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My mother told me to never get involved with ‘dance hall girls’. :)

Just find a group of seniors that does things together, perhaps through a senior center or a MeetUp group. Keep it simple, walking groups, lunch groups, movie groups, nothing complicated. A big part of finding a good partner is a numbers game. The more people you meet and get to know the more potential partners enter your life.

I figure only 10% of the available single women are interested in me. And a smaller amount would want to test drive me for 6 months or a year to see how I fit into their plans. So, it’s time consuming and at times frustrating. Such is life.
 
hollydolly said:
Thanks folks... I'm not altogether stupid.. I hope.. I do realise that caution is the watchword.. first meetings away from home in the daytime, and just for a short time, for a coffee and chat.. also don't give out any personal details

I've seen some of these guys on the dating sites.. and some of them would scare me off just looking at them or reading their Bio...

I did a little test ad a few months ago..... I wanted to get a feel for the reactions of various people on those sites.. .. I put a small ad on with Basic details, but my profile photo was just the back of me.. facing away from the camera... there was several genuine enquires.. but I was stunned by the 4 guys who were extremely abusive.. !

Immediately I thought, that those guys would be ones to stay well clear of.. but the innocent women who met up with them wouldn't have any clue about that dark side of those men..

I haven't replied to any of those ads.. it was just a test... and I may not go with that dating site when or if I put a real ad on..... anyway,

... but it just goes to show just how easy it is to be fooled into meeting a psycho..
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IMO its better to get to know someone from the inside out (converse over internet without pictures).
 
Met my DH of 10-12 years, now online. We were SAME age within 90 days: 58.
This is funny:

About only a year of dating after we met, I asked him one day:

"SO, what did you REALLY think of me when you FIRST saw me in person?"
I watched his face...hoping he would tell the truth - and he DID!
He said, "Well, you looked older than I thought you would look."
Then HE said: "SO what did YOU really think of ME when we first met?".
I said: "You were a little more 'Pillsbury Dough Boy' and older looking...than I'd expected' from your pictures...".

I can't do a damn thing about my wrinkles! LOL.
He married me about month later.

The photo I had put online was ONLY about 18 MONTHS old!
The photo HE had put online was FIFTEEN YEARS old!! LOLOL
He has lost 15 pounds since we married.
Am a GREAT cook, but I refuse to feed a man if he is fat!
 

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