Familial "Half-wittedness"

Second marriages can and do cause allot of dysfunction in families, many thought they could or would have a Brady bunch type mixed family, but they don't take into account interfering ex's who are quite often jealous of the new relationship...
As was my case even though my hubby was divorced for three years prior to me meeting him....I was still accused of putting an end to the hope of him and his ex of MAYBE getting back together one day ..:shrug::rolleyes: Their marriage ended because SHE moved out to be with another man..she was having an affair with while still with her ex ( my hubby) .But I was branded the BAD person ..I could never understand that ??
 

Kadee, many people embrace denial as a way of life. It is often much easier than being accountable or simply facing hard facts. If you are a realist, it never will make sense to you. Be glad you live in the real world as opposed to being a reality shapeshifter. They are prisoners of their own gravity, and rarely, if ever, happy.
 
Shalimar said:
Kadee, many people embrace denial as a way of life. It is often much easier than being accountable or simply facing hard facts. If you are a realist, it never will make sense to you. Be glad you live in the real world as opposed to being a reality shapeshifter. They are prisoners of their own gravity, and rarely, if ever, happy.
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Yes his ex is not happy ..her marriage to the man she was having an affair with, ended soon after I met hubby in 1986 .. She latter became involved with a drug addict, for about 7 years ,,who passed away a couple of years ago ....She phoned us to speak to my hubby to inform him she was on her own ...:mad::mad:she still phones our home number every now and then and gives a huge sigh and hangs up ...or says Is R ... There no please or thank you .......(hubby never answers phone if I'm home)
 
Shalimar said:
Kadee, how stressful that must be for you.
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Oh I just laugh ..think she's the one who is costing her money for the phone call ,However I believe hubby encourages her to keep calling by talking to her ..The excuse used to be the kids (2) but they are now in their 40's latest is her relatives passing away ..
 
My late husband was alienated from his family for years because they didn't approve of our marriage. The last time he saw his mother for five years was when she told him that she would rather be standing over his coffin and that she'd rather see him dead and buried than to marry me. The reason? He had spent his entire life preparing for the priesthood. At the end of the four years of college/lower seminary, he decided he didn't want to enter the priesthood and went into the service instead. A year and a half later, I meet him. They hadn't given up the hope that when he got out of the service he would "come to his senses" and go back into the seminary. Instead, he married a....gasp.... Protestant. For at least the first three years, his mother referred to me as "The Whore of Babylon". After five years, we all became civil to each other but that was it until his parents died. Then his ten brothers and sisters welcomed me and we became family. And what's the worst part? His father was cast out of his Protestant family when he married and converted to Catholicism and then proceeds to do the same thing to his son. We don't learn, do we?
 
Fur, your story is heart breaking. Husband and I are estranged from 5 of our 7 grandkids (yet another breakdown of my family). It is unfair, painful and messy. I know I can't possibly feel your pain but can understand your feelings.
 

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