Disgustedman
Senior Member
Char my buddy, grind it up and deposit at base of trees ...
My wife and I have done the same. Cremations arranged and paid for, headstone in place. The cemetery is about 4 miles from our home and our graves are enclosed in a large family plot dating back to the early 1800's.Ideally, I'd like to be buried in a type of 'green' cemetery that I've read about that wraps a body in a fungus-imbued shroud that helps recycle the body, and buries it and plants a tree on the plot.
But I haven't arranged anything, it seems like cremation is the simplest option, after my father died my mom had him cremated and at the same time she paid for her own future cremation, and it made life so easy when she died. My parents already had cemetery plots and I think headstones too (I am bad, I have never gone to the cemetery because it is a couple hours away).
Sorry for your loss so recently.My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
My deepest condolences @DGMMy wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.
All opinions welcome
Cremation, then you can haul is ash wherever he wants to go.
This seems like something best talked over with your husband, explaining that the funds aren't there, and see if the two of you can arrive at a suitable compromise.My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.
All opinions welcomed.
Maybe he should discuss this with his children.My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.
All opinions welcomed.
Dispose of the ashes respectfully and turn the urns into something else, like a planter.More people are opting for cremation rather than burial, and that got me thinking. What do you do with an urn full of Great Aunt Lucy's ashes? Most of us have sketchy memories of grandparents, but how about 2-3 generations more down the line? Aunt Lucy won't mean too much to them, but her ashes are out in the shed. What do you do with urns of ashes from distant relatives?
Thank youMy deepest condolences @DGM![]()
So sorry for your loss.My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?