Cremation or burial ? What is your choice ?

HoneyNut said:
Ideally, I'd like to be buried in a type of 'green' cemetery that I've read about that wraps a body in a fungus-imbued shroud that helps recycle the body, and buries it and plants a tree on the plot.
But I haven't arranged anything, it seems like cremation is the simplest option, after my father died my mom had him cremated and at the same time she paid for her own future cremation, and it made life so easy when she died. My parents already had cemetery plots and I think headstones too (I am bad, I have never gone to the cemetery because it is a couple hours away).
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My wife and I have done the same. Cremations arranged and paid for, headstone in place. The cemetery is about 4 miles from our home and our graves are enclosed in a large family plot dating back to the early 1800's.
 
My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
 
DGM said:
My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
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Sorry for your loss so recently. ❤️
 
DGM said:
My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
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My deepest condolences @DGM 🙏
 
My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.

All opinions welcomed.
 
fwtxcitywoman said:
My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.

All opinions welcome
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Pinky said:
Cremation, then you can haul is ash wherever he wants to go.
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fwtxcitywoman said:
My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.

All opinions welcomed.
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This seems like something best talked over with your husband, explaining that the funds aren't there, and see if the two of you can arrive at a suitable compromise.
 
fwtxcitywoman said:
My questions is, does the surviving spouse bear some obligation to follow the wishes of his/her partner? I want to be cremated, husband wants burial in his home state. The problem here is the transport of the body is over $10k, which I will not have when the time comes. He wants burial in a national cemetery in another state. There is one in the state we live in now. Would I be a horrid person to have him buried at the national cemetery in the state we reside in? My son said to ask his children if they wish to pay the 10k for burial near them.

All opinions welcomed.
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Maybe he should discuss this with his children.
 
More people are opting for cremation rather than burial, and that got me thinking. What do you do with an urn full of Great Aunt Lucy's ashes? Most of us have sketchy memories of grandparents, but how about 2-3 generations more down the line? Aunt Lucy won't mean too much to them, but her ashes are out in the shed. What do you do with urns of ashes from distant relatives?
 
fuzzybuddy said:
More people are opting for cremation rather than burial, and that got me thinking. What do you do with an urn full of Great Aunt Lucy's ashes? Most of us have sketchy memories of grandparents, but how about 2-3 generations more down the line? Aunt Lucy won't mean too much to them, but her ashes are out in the shed. What do you do with urns of ashes from distant relatives?
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Dispose of the ashes respectfully and turn the urns into something else, like a planter.
 
When I was a teenager our neighbors had an old aunt on the shelf in a very ornate urn, they dumped the old girl into a Whitman’s sampler candy box so they could use her eternal resting place for some other purpose.

I selected one of these cheap faux marble boxes as my future home.

I doubt that anyone would want it but if they do they are welcome to it.

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I will be creameted and have not designated for my remains to go anywhere. I do not want hem to go anywhere at all. They will just dispose of them.
My youngest brother died of a drug overdose many years ago and I was never informed. The city creamated him and kept his ashes in a plasic bag along with his wallet and basic identifying papers. He had 20$ in hi wallet. I called them when I found out and they said they would send the ashes to me for 20$ but I really didn't want them due to the bad mojo he had. Later I learned he was a pedophile too. He is exactly where he belongs.
 
I've already mentioned that I will be cremated and my ashes placed in a creek or a natural spring behind my property, that way my essence will be spread over the place I loved.

I'm also considering a biodegradable urn. My thinking is that may be emotionally less painful for my kids than just dumping my ashes into the water, also they won't have to worry about ashes blowing into their eyes or mouth.lol. Seems easy enough to deposit the urn in the water and let it dissolve so my ashes simply float away.
 
My neighbour's husband came home and said he had just paid for them to be buried in his family's vault. She wasn't too happy about that as she wanted to be buried in her family's plot. He was so annoyed with her and wouldn't speak to her for a few days. She eventually gave in to him and told me she is being buried his families "filing cabinet".
 
DGM said:
My wife and I are both donating our bodies to science. My wife passed away last week and I talked with Duke Medical School about her condition. They were hesitant to take my wife because she was emaciated. But I explained she may be a good learning tool because she had a full titanium ladder/cage in her back, hardware in her neck and an artificial hip. Yes, they were interested and waived the emaciation worries. I told them "I feel like I'm talking you in to buying a used car". They picked her up at the funeral home, will use her for instruction, cremate the remains and I'll be headed to our favorite beach.
Ever read about the "special alert" at Disney World of people trying to spread ashes?
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So sorry for your loss.
 
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