How is your day Today? Chat about your plans and achievements 2025....

Sunny, breezy, a cool 63F outside my window with a large noisy weeping willow. Previous noon Monday 5/5/25 post:

How is your day Today? Chat about your plans and achievements 2025....

So now at post surgery day 6, again prone partially sitting up, typing on the small Windows 11 laptop atop a 12x24 inch piece of white fiberboard conveniently straddling between 2 pillows on my thighs and my stomach. Felt sort of GI tract yukky the last day after stopping the 2 pain meds and taking dicusate sodium, a prescribed laxative. Ate a bit of bite-sized shredded wheat with milk and sugar at 7am that has so far had a positive effect. Since the incision is atop my GI tract, due to nerve proximity, it disrupts normal GI tract functions.

Continue to gradually slowly heal with the worst obviously past. Still need to be careful as any sign of a rising infection could be dangerous. Doctors used Steri-Strips with dissolvable sutures on the still large bandaged unviewable ~5 inch long incision surface skin that seem to be gradually healing as I've read about. Definitely less stitch pain. I have a Friday morning video appointment with my KP surgeon and expect to remove the bandage then so he can evaluate it.

Will watch a bunch of YouTube science videos today. Might go outside later and see how walking a few urban blocks feels. Also given my broken old Dell laptop, have been looking online at new high end desktops/workstations with at least DisplayPort 1.4a dual outputs that would allow connection to future soon to be available 8k pc displays. Most of the graphic card interfaces are either NVIDEA or AMD based. And all target video game enthusiasts needing high refresh rates that I am not. So the advertising on models tends to be annoying with features I have no interest in. Others target high bandwidth video editing users again requiring large power supplies with heat that I am not going to need. Even 30 fps refresh rates are fine for stills.

The PC will most likely be HP or Dell with several bay slots. HP PC design teams are here in Palo Alto and I last worked across the street from AMD for the graphic cards. In 1988 this peon worked for a UNIX computer maker where I trained a dozen or so South Korean engineers with maintaining a system they bought from us for the 1988 Seoul Olympics. That was key to the start of their electronics industry. As a thank you gift, they gave me a nice Olympics ring I could just walk into the San Jose Samsung corporate building, show, and get some preferred treatment maybe to use their 8k displays.
 

Last edited:
Sunny, breezy, a cool 63F outside my window with a large noisy weeping willow. Previous noon Monday 5/5/25 post:

How is your day Today? Chat about your plans and achievements 2025....

So now at post surgery day 6, again prone partially sitting up, typing on the small Windows 11 laptop atop a 12x24 inch piece of white fiberboard conveniently straddling between 2 pillows on my thighs and my stomach. Felt sort of GI tract yukky the last day after stopping the 2 pain meds and taking dicusate sodium, a prescribed laxative. Ate a bit of bite-sized shredded wheat with milk and sugar at 7am that has so far had a positive effect. Since the incision is atop my GI tract, due to nerve proximity, it disrupts normal GI tract functions.

Continue to gradually slowly heal with the worst obviously past. Still need to be careful as any sign of a rising infection could be dangerous. Doctors used Steri-Strips with dissolvable sutures on the still large bandaged unviewable ~5 inch long incision surface skin that seem to be gradually healing as I've read about. Definitely less stitch pain. I have a Friday morning video appointment with my KP surgeon and expect to remove the bandage then so he can evaluate it.

Will watch a bunch of YouTube science videos today. Might go outside later and see how walking a few urban blocks feels. Also given my broken old Dell laptop, have been looking online at new high end desktops/workstations with at least DisplayPort 1.4a dual outputs that would allow connection to future soon to be available 8k pc displays. Most of the graphic card interfaces are either NVIDEA or AMD based. And all target video game enthusiasts needing high refresh rates that I am not. So the advertising on models tends to be annoying with features I have no interest in. Others target high bandwidth video editing users again requiring large power supplies with heat that I am not going to need. Even 30 fps refresh rates are fine for stills.

The PC will most likely be HP or Dell with several bay slots. HP PC design teams are here in Palo Alto and I last worked across the street from AMD for the graphic cards. In 1988 this peon worked for a UNIX computer maker where I trained a dozen or so South Korean engineers with maintaining a system they bought from us for the 1988 Seoul Olympics. That was key to the start of their electronics industry. As a thank you gift, they gave me a nice Olympics ring I could just walk into the San Jose Samsung corporate building, show, and get some preferred treatment maybe to use their 8k displays.
Somehow I missed your surgery. Best of luck in healing quickly and completely.
 
I hope you get a fair settlement and can put this matter to bed. It's been a long, difficult slog for you.
the settlement is all agreed by me .. he's signed it after a fight ... and the judge has now agreed that it's a fair settlement and rubber stamped it. Now I just wait for him to pay it...
 

Still on the "death watch" today for the Spousal Equivalent's brother. Very little brain activity and he had yet another heart attack and a stroke today. They are disconnecting the machines late today, so it shouldn't be long, though I've heard of people hanging on for quite a while.

We're packed and ready to go. There will be two services, one for the immediate family in their city and another one for the extended family in Virginia, where he is going to be buried in the family graveyard. We'll be attending the Virginia one as the first one is a 1300-mile two-day drive each way. They're insisting we don't do that.

His family is holding up well. They would just like to see him at peace. His wife and I had a good cry this morning on the phone.

I'm so glad we had such a great visit with them only a week-and-a-half ago. It makes letting go easier.
,
 
Yesterday had a chiropractor appt… he walked into the treatment room and, after pleasantries, said, “ok, let’s get you back to being well adjusted”. Feeling snarky, I responded, “Not sure that’s possible.” 😋

Today has been weird. This huge rain system that is supposed to drench us for a week keeps fizzling before it gets all the way to us… but I can sure tell there’s a change in the weather— aye yay yay, my sinuses are throbbing like crazy. I guess chances to barometric pressure.

Tomorrow is book club, yay!!
 
Now on a sunny blue sky with a 78F high expected later Monday May 5, 2025, I'm into my day 4 of surgery recovery. My recovery this first week continues to be slow, uneven, uncomfortable. However am out of significant mortal dangers versus last Thursday afternoon when I was wheeled on a patient transport cart into the Kaiser Permanente Hospital operating room. My 76 year old life's first major surgery experience. My immune system knocked out the foul gastroenteritis virus I obviously picked up at the hospital in less than a day so can eat more normally now.

I have a large bandaged, angled, 5 inch incision in my left groin with much as yet unviewable stitching both on my skin surface as well as below attaching gut membranes and ligaments to synthetic mesh implants. The doctor's long impressive technical report of what they performed and saw is surprisingly detailed with medical terminology I will at some time analyze to understand.

Laying or sitting still has little sensation but movement like rising from a chair and moving, I can feel small areas of stitching monofilament pain that will take time to heal and recede. Even sitting up from say a prone bed position must be done slowly, gingerly.

Fortunately, as a retired senior that prepared my residence beforehand, I don't need to return to employment, drive my car elsewhere, meet with any others, or engage in any activity outside my older two story residence. And that includes enough food to last until I drive in maybe a week. I could drive briefly now if necessary, but will not. Each day, I'll walk outside briefly to fetch my postal mail.

A major unexpected debacle has however made my recovery period very different than what I had expected and the main reason for of noting such in seniorforums dot com as it will impact my activity herein. Two years ago my old 2003 era HP Windows desktop motherboard with all my graphic software, power supply function failed in a way I would not be able to repair by merely replacing the power supply module. Now collecting dust. Was able to move Photoshop and other key software to my expensive powerful 2014 Dell XPS-15 laptop and run from there.

But prior to driving to the hospital Thursday, Windows 10 was apparently secretly trying to install one of their hidden from user awareness updates. Not having time to wait for whatever that was to complete after running Shutdown, with the power on button forced a shutdown that corrupted key boot files. The last couple days twice ran from a command prompt chkdsk /f that shows uncorrectable attributes file errors putting the drive into a stuck write protect mode. Although most of my important personal files are safe on two other external 4tb drives, the graphic apps like Photoshop are not.

Thus now need to wait till I am recovered from surgery enough to visit a PC repair service where they have special programs capable of rebuilding the corrupted file structures. If that doesn't work will run a low level format then rebuild, installing Windows and all. Or buy a new desktop.

In the mean time for web use, am using my old moto g6 Android phone and as I type, a cheap slow $220 Windows 11 pc laptop I bought last year for travel and possible situations like this. It uses a touchpad I dislike versus computer mouse and lacks many programs I had on the Dell. So yeah, am here but hobbled. Since I can't do much real computer work else anyway, will probably spend more time at this board than expected.

My Dell with a 24" 4k UHD external monitor was downstairs on a fancy multi level mobile computer cart in my living room where I could watch TV at the same time. Instead my new "headquarters" will be upstairs atop a king size floor mattress in my southwest bedroom next to a large window with good light to the west. Per doctor instructions, am drinking a lot more fluids than usual. With my adjacent bathroom, don't need to walk up and down stairs. So have lots of items on the floor next to me I can easily grab. Just made 8oz of a Trader Joe's vegetable fried rice package for lunch.
Ran your problem by DH. From him: At the risk of questioning your computer prowess, he suggests you try to boot into safe mode and recover your OS ( do not RELOAD OS at this time-that would be last ditch). If you can get the system to boot then try a windows restore. DH's Dell laptop recently had a,similar issue ( graphics driver through windows update). He was able to successfully recover the system. He is a retired computer tech.
I sometimes run computer issues I read by him. Sometimes he can help, sometimes not.

Edit: I had not seen that you will be buying a new PC. 😊
 
We are making our run to town. After supplies. Drugs and food. What else? :)

snipping_2025-05-06-09-42-28-jpg.421143
 
Around 2:30 a.m. I emptied and cleaned out the litter box so it could go into the garbage which my son took out on his way to work. Later in the day I practiced piano, boned up on my chord inversions as per instructions from my son :LOL:🎶 so I can be ready for a project he's working on. I also added tracks and recorded (on my phone) a draft arrangement for one of my new collaborator/co-host/neighbor's tracks. Later, I went to his studio and we chose instrument sounds we could potentially use to complete the song. These digital music programs have an astonishing number of instrument options! We also designed the flyer for his next broadcast. It was an interesting and surprisingly easy process.
 
thank you... yes.. it's a weird situation for me..I'm torn between being happy that it's finally ending... and very sad that he felt he had to cause me so much heartache...
I had to think about that for a minute, and yanno what? I can relate. 100%. Glad. Relieved. Sad. Happy. Miserable. Relieved again. Empty. Hopeful. Hopeless. Sorry. I was all over the place. The hardest part was acceptance. That was the divorce from Whatsisname.

It was like the seven stages of grief when somebody dies: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, an upward turn, reconstruction, and acceptance and hope.
 
Sneezing or coughing are both bad but have already figured out how to deal with coughing that I occasionally do a bit every day from ordinary sinus drainage, often early mornings. Surprisingly not mentioned on any medical websites I've looked at. What I do is, before feeling an urge to cough, press with both hand fingers deeply into my diaphragm. That disconnects the sudden downward thrust against one's lower GI tract.
Sorry you're healing process has been complicated David.

Get Well Balloons in Balloon.jpg
 
I had to think about that for a minute, and yanno what? I can relate. 100%. Glad. Relieved. Sad. Happy. Miserable. Relieved again. Empty. Hopeful. Hopeless. Sorry. I was all over the place. The hardest part was acceptance. That was the divorce from Whatsisname.

It was like the seven stages of grief when somebody dies: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, an upward turn, reconstruction, and acceptance and hope. That was all too true when DS2 and DH died.
all of this are exactly everything I've gone through in the last 4 years, first there was horrendous grief, like he'd died..........then anger at how dare he put me in the situation where not only did he cause hearbreak... but his actions caused me to have to endure things I never thought 'd have to endure.. therapy... dealing with lawyers, courts, police, court costs...
I was and still am incredulous that as the victim , I had to pay £10k... to a lawyer to to protect my interests in court.. me? ..the victim.?. having to pay £10k because he couldn't keep his pants on around a whore.... just incredible !
 
Still on the "death watch" today for the Spousal Equivalent's brother. Very little brain activity and he had yet another heart attack and a stroke today. They are disconnecting the machines late today, so it shouldn't be long, though I've heard of people hanging on for quite a while.
Well, it's over. The machines were shut off and he passed away about an hour later. Family is doing well. The Spousal Equivalent is very sad; he's the only one left, having already lost the 2nd brother and a sister. The S. E. was the oldest.

Now just the funerals and the burial.
 
David777, you seem to be having a hard time of it - a far different experience to the one I had, though admittedly, I was in my 60s. I was encouraged to get up and exercise gently and by day 6, I could walk down the garden, have a short rest and walk back again. Climbing stairs needed to be taken slowly. I was given waterproof antiseptic patches to cover the operation scar, enabling me to shower as I pleased.

The operation, using a local anaesthetic, was like a Monty Python sketch, but I couldn't laugh about it till the incision healed up.
 
Bringing more wood out on the street to advertise it as free firewood.

View attachment 421460

And the garden is full of flowers.

View attachment 421456View attachment 421457View attachment 421458View attachment 421459

According to my wife, I can't do anything right. Even if she makes a mistake, it's somehow my fault.
Well, she will be retiring from her teaching job this month at age 72, and I have hope for better times.
Bird of paradise!!! One of my favorites. :)
 
Morning everyone... D day is here.... You've all been through the last 3 years of court with me.. and 4 years of seperation so I want to all let you know.. finally it's here.

A very sad day for me, but my Divorce became final today !

I want to thank those of you who listened to me online and by Private message that your support and aadvice was as valuable as gold to me... and I can never thank you enough for that...

Now it's over... 24 years of my life.. wasted...so now I have to hold my head up.. and walk on !!!

My friend sent me an online card which made me laugh.. I can't show it because it has foul languge but it says... ''Better to have loved and Divorced than to be stuck with a C*n* forever.. :ROFLMAO:
 
Yesterday had a chiropractor appt… he walked into the treatment room and, after pleasantries, said, “ok, let’s get you back to being well adjusted”. Feeling snarky, I responded, “Not sure that’s possible.” 😋

Today has been weird. This huge rain system that is supposed to drench us for a week keeps fizzling before it gets all the way to us… but I can sure tell there’s a change in the weather— aye yay yay, my sinuses are throbbing like crazy. I guess chances to barometric pressure.

Tomorrow is book club, yay!!
Our weatherpeople have been saying rain all week and it keeps disappearing. Today looks more hopeful. Do you have an in-person book club or online? I always thought about joining one as I like to read, but never got around to it.
 
Well, it's over. The machines were shut off and he passed away about an hour later. Family is doing well. The Spousal Equivalent is very sad; he's the only one left, having already lost the 2nd brother and a sister. The S. E. was the oldest.

Now just the funerals and the burial.
So sorry jujube. 💐
 


Back
Top