This may be selfish but you gotta know what you gotta know.

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C50 said:
Even the most handsome man or beautiful woman can look ugly if they have a terrible personality or other undesirable traits. If you believe looks will carry a relationship you're wrong, and if you think your looks are good enough to overcome all else you're wrong again.
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Too right! I dated three different “homecoming princesses.” Two had quite an ugly side once you got to know them. The third was nice enough, but her personality a “blank.” Live and learn.
 

EmptyCup said:
Too right! I dated three different “homecoming princesses.” Two had quite an ugly side once you got to know them. The third was nice enough, but her personality a “blank.” Live and learn.
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Me too .only a man... I am not usually one overly attracted to any so called conventionally handsome men... but this one guy was gorgeous, I mean the whole 9... model looks, great body, fab personality...... and he chased me.. ok, so I take the bait... took one date to learn ..not for me... Talk about brain dead.. if his head had 2 brain cells.. they both would have been lonely...:D
 
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hollydolly said:
In all seriousness, you're a good looking man.... but marriages and relationships, I'm surprised you're not aware, don't depend on someone's looks....
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You made my day Holly. Back in my early teens, I had a very good friend who was blessed with physical attraction, he often had the ladies asking him to dance. When we met, the lady who was to become my wife, that friend was quite smitten but she prefered me. "Educated," she said. Here we are 57 years married. Must have been a good education!
 
horseless carriage said:
You made my day Holly. Back in my early teens, I had a very good friend who was blessed with physical attraction, he often had the ladies asking him to dance. When we met, the lady who was to become my wife, that friend was quite smitten but she prefered me. "Educated," she said. Here we are 57 years married. Must have been a good education!
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exactly and mrs HC was right... (y)
 
Is it because you failed to return the toilet seat to the down and locked position? I've heard that's a big no-no among the female population.

It wouldn't have anything to do with you going out with the next while you were still married to the current one?

Personally, I ask myself a different question, " Why has she stuck with me?" I don't know to that answer either.
 
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friar said:
So my avatar is pretty much me and at my age I don't understand why all my wives left me.
Am I that ugly or are other men just better looking?. I truly don't understand why I find myself alone.
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Hiya Friar, methinks you're definitely on 'the pull' - but what the hec, god loves a trier.
So I'll play the game while I'm waiting for my salmon to defrost for butties :cool:

Perhaps:

Or maybe:


(ETA...... I get the impression that you can take a joke, apologies if I'm way off beam)
 
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friar said:
So my avatar is pretty much me and at my age I don't understand why all my wives left me.
Am I that ugly or are other men just better looking?. I truly don't understand why I find myself alone.
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friar said:
You folks are funny but really, what is it about me that makes women level up instead of stay? It has to be looks or average equipement . financially I have always been average and demeanor pretty much go along to get along. I am at a loss to understand it all. this time though with my wife of 25 years leaving me I am done. she is taking the dog too. so ya. I am in the market for a new dog. lol . a woman not so much
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friar said:
so are there any chat rooms you could recommend for me to vent?
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I only have more questions than answers. At the moment, unless you steer this thread in a different direction, it seems the main reason you started it is simply to vent. Was there any real intention behind starting this discussion -- to invite us to help you understand why your wives keep leaving you?

You have shared what seems to be your confusion about the situation, along with some humour around it. But it’s not clear that you are open to deeper self-reflection.

I wonder if you might be in the latter stages of processing the breakup? If so, I would hope that you have already done some reflection and perhaps have some possible answers to your own questions.

When I read your words again, it seems this is a mix of wanting to vent and seeking some thoughtful insight or support from us. But for that to happen, from a room full of seniors, we need a significantly greater level of openness and honesty from you.

I normally go into a meeting with the words, "What is the purpose, and what are we trying to achieve?". It kind of helps everyone to set out their own thoughts -- helps with establishing some kind of goal.

We don't have to be that formal, but honestly, I’m left wondering: what do you truly want from us? What are you trying to achieve -- the purpose of this thread? Do you know what it is that you want from us? Do we have to tease it out of you?

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Actually, I have just thought of something. Do you consider yourself spontaneous, perhaps unpredictable at times? Easy or difficult for a woman to figure you out? Do you keep women guessing just by your natural demeanor, or is there nothing left for the women in your life to figure out? I asked because I picked up on this, and you give us little else to go on, "I have always been average and demeanor pretty much go along to get along".

No one is flawless in any relationship, on either side. But what do you think the common denominator might be, you or all the women?
 
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friar said:
You folks are funny but really, what is it about me that makes women level up instead of stay? It has to be looks or average equipement . financially I have always been average and demeanor pretty much go along to get along. I am at a loss to understand it all. this time though with my wife of 25 years leaving me I am done. she is taking the dog too. so ya. I am in the market for a new dog. lol . a woman not so much
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There is no way to answer this question without knowing you. Looks are the least reliable indicator of a good man.
You know you. Look inside. What do you honestly think? And if you think it's not you, it probably isn't.
We don't know your wife either. You do. Was she fair to you? Was she a bad person?
Twenty-five years is a long time. There was something there, not a fling. What went wrong?
You tell us what's going on with you.
 
I've posted this quote before, but it's as appropriate here as it was the first time, so posting it again:

"Things are not always what they seem; the first appearance deceives many; the intelligence of a few perceives what has been carefully hidden.”― Phaedrus
 
dilettante said:
Women are hypergamous by nature, and they are always on the lookout for "a better deal." This is a big part of why they gush over celebrities, foreign royalty, politicians... and it doesn't have to be about looks as much as money and power and potential aggrandizement by association.

If your looks and assets are as high as you seem to think, then your standards for women are probably higher. Women who consider themselves "high value" have even higher standards than you and they're probably far more fickle and prone to hypergamy.

There is a reason why celebrity marriages and associations tend to be more fragile than others.

Of course you could just be poor relationship material. I can't say.
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None of the women I know are like that.
 
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