I heard a coworker justify infidelity

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I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?
 

Jazzy1 said:
I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?
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Your coworker has it backwards. Justifying infidelity because you're a man is like justifying burning yourself because you're a match.
 
Victor said:
It's just talk. People will justify anything if they want to do the act enough. Yet unfaithful partners are very common in certain age groups
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Too many men think that it's in men's nature to "pollinate" flower after flower. Sorry fellas, that "nature" drives you to "pollinate" yes, but only one and to faithfully care for that one, (through marriage, of course.) Yeah, yeah, that's sooo passé . That's why there is such a mess of children who don't even know who their father is--cuz of females so willing to chance being pollinated.
 
A man or woman can have lust for another male or female and that could be “considered” infidelity. Many people have the belief that a person has to commit adultery to be accused of infidelity. I remember when Jimmy Carter ran for President and made the statement in Playboy” that he felt he committed adultery because he lusted for other women. But, the truth of the matter is that you can feel it in your heart, but it doesn’t necessarily mean a person has committed adultery.

From Google:
However, he famously caused a stir during his 1976 presidential campaign by admitting in a Playboy interview that he had "looked on many women with lust" and, by that standard, "committed adultery many times in my heart." He was referencing a passage from the Bible (Matthew 5:28) where Jesus Christ states that looking on a woman with lust has in one's heart already committed adultery.

I don’t know many men or woman hasn’t looked at a male or female and have lusted after that person.
From dictionary.com: Lust: Having intense sexual desire or appetite.
 
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I believe you teach yourself to be monogamous, in body and mind. For some reason women have always liked me so I had lots of opportunities, but when I was in a relationship and during my marriage I never messed with another woman, never. I certainly found other women attractive and appealing, but that's as far as I let it go, I didn't mentally lust after them, I didn't flirt or make sexual innuendo, I practiced self disapline.

It doesn't matter if you're male or female, we all find ourselves attracted to others, but committing infidelity is willful act of absolute disregard and disrespect toward your partner. There is no way it can be justified.
 
Both my exes said that if I found out they had cheated, they would be thrown out the door in seconds.
I have friends, who had affairs. I don't understand how you could face your wife, after an affair.
 
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Jazzy1 said:
I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?
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I put that alongside of people I'm on a another Forum with that say that they're homeless but due to other people's issues and circumstances.

They refuse to admit THEY are the problem, and their own choices, not others. Simply put, they don't want to look in the mirror, because they know who'll be looking back at them.
 
Disgustedman said:
I put that alongside of people I'm on a another Forum with that say that they're homeless but due to other people's issues and circumstances.

They refuse to admit THEY are the problem, and their own choices, not others. Simply put, they don't want to look in the mirror, because they know who'll be looking back at them.
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Truth......I was homeless before, and yes it was my fault. I owned it and worked on fixing that. However, I learned during that process that there are people who are homeless through no fault of their own...But cheating! That's just wrong with no excuse.
 
Disgustedman said:
I put that alongside of people I'm on a another Forum with that say that they're homeless but due to other people's issues and circumstances.

They refuse to admit THEY are the problem, and their own choices, not others. Simply put, they don't want to look in the mirror, because they know who'll be looking back at them.
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Well I guess it could be true, "homeless because of some other peoples' issues" in some cases, but not for being stuck there. How is it they are using a computer if they're homeless? One in a public Library?
 
Elsie said:
Too many men think that it's in men's nature to "pollinate" flower after flower. Sorry fellas, that "nature" drives you to "pollinate" yes, but only one and to faithfully care for that one, (through marriage, of course.) Yeah, yeah, that's sooo passé . That's why there is such a mess of children who don't even know who their father is--cuz of females so willing to chance being pollinated.
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It's crazy how almost all of my married friends cheat. They cheat more than all of my single friends.
 
If a person is honest with themselves, they will find that they are in fact responsible for their lives. Some events both good and bad may seem to have occurred irrelevant of the individuals' actions. But if you look deeper, you can almost always find what you could have/ should have done differently to avoid or cause a bad or even a good situation...
 
Timewise 60+ said:
If a person is honest with themselves, they will find that they are in fact responsible for their lives. Some events both good and bad may seem to have occurred irrelevant of the individuals' actions. But if you look deeper, you can almost always find what you could have/ should have done differently to avoid or cause a bad or even a good situation...
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Right. I wish I'd had hindsight concerning some of my actions, before I needed it. :rolleyes:
 
Jazzy1 said:
I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?
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What do I think?
A bit on the side..............straight down the slide.
The phrase "forsaking all others" in marriage vows signifies a commitment to monogamous fidelity and exclusive devotion to one's spouse. It means choosing to prioritise the marriage relationship above all other potential relationships.
 
He sent you are clear warning that he is not to be trusted and will double-cross you and others if it meets his needs. Believe him.

Cheaters are also good liars. Very good liars. Believe that also.

Of course, women cheat also. Plenty of them do so. I could fill a few screens with stories of women I know who have cheated on their husbands. Back when I used online dating sites, I had to add a sentence to my online dating profile that simply said “Sorry, no married women, not even if you are separated and sure your marriage is dead”.

There are plenty of great single men and women around. There is no need to cheat, lie, and ruin lives to find a partner.
 
Elsie said:
Well I guess it could be true, "homeless because of some other peoples' issues" in some cases, but not for being stuck there. How is it they are using a computer if they're homeless? One in a public Library?
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Yes, plus some homeless shelters and organizations have them.You'd be surprised who's homeless. It could be your store clerk, mechanic and teacher. Not all homeless are dirty drug addicts and alcoholics.
 

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