Weddings! Big, small, yours, others, love, hate.

Della

Della

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The news today says Kylie Jenner wore white to a wedding. Lock her up!

I hate big weddings with all their rules and expenses. I've always had a dread of them and was so afraid of being the center of attention as The Bride that I eloped the first time. To my surprise and regret, it broke my mothers heart. Evidently she had plans -- which she never had mentioned to me.

My second marriage was "immediate families." It made things a little lopsided since my immediate family was four people and my husband's was 20, but we had it and got it over with, although my father-in-law always called it, "that Buddhist wedding" it was so lacking.

How was your wedding? Do you love them?
 

My wedding was nice, simple, small, just immediate family and close friends, but pretty. We got married in an outdoor chapel in Southern California in the late 1980's. I wore a pretty, lacy, beige dress, flowers in my hair and carried a bouquet.

We had a small reception at a local restaurant where family gave us gifts of money. Other wedding gifts were at my in-laws' house, waiting. After the reception, my new husband and I headed out for our honeymoon at Disneyland! We had such a great time over those four days. I still have fond memories. :) ❤️



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We had a small church wedding followed by an informal reception at the home of my wife's parents. I have good memories of it, and how special my wife looked that day, coming down the aisle.

It was a bad time financially for both of us, and we couldn't afford a honeymoon, but we both managed to get a week off work, and my parents loaned us their lake house for that week. [They were not present, of course.;)]

Every day is firmly engraved in my mind. If I could re-live any week in my life, that's the one I'd choose.
 
Della said:
although my father-in-law always called it, "that Buddhist wedding" it was so lacking.
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What an excellent description! I’m going to try to remember that for future use.

I dislike weddings, always have. Even as a young girl I never dreamed about what I wanted for a wedding.
my own wedding consisted of having a Notary Public sign the license.
My husband and I have been together 49 years so I guess that was an effective enough ceremony.
 
To me, anymore the wedding prep and ceremony seem to be the most important part of the marriage.. I find that sad.

The mentality is If you don’t get the biggest diamond ring, and a designer dress, why bother!


My husband and I eloped the first time. … we had a 2nd re-do in one of those Las Vegas chapels years later just for the experience.
We made it to almost 50 yrs., just short a few months.
 
Our wedding 63 years ago. The small church was filled mostly with my brides family & friends. I was in the Navy & we were married in Puerto Rico. The expense for my family to fly there stay at a hotel & rent a car was to much.

My best friend was my best man & several of my squadron shipmates were there.

The reception was held at my wifes uncles restaurant. Actually the restaurant & parking lot. Prior to the wedding day over 100 brown baggers <---- slang for married bought all the booze <--- booze like Don Q rum @ 80 cents for a fifth. Cases of 24 bottles of Corona beer $1.25. Way more than needed to provide drinks for the crowd that was invided to our reception. It was a big event but cost wise my tux rental was about it.
 
I detest weddings. It's a gathering of relatives, who hate each other, for watching two "lovers" pledge undying love-when we all know this thing's got 6 months at best. And then we'll be back for their next eternal love marriage. And while the loving couple is in marital bliss, they do accept CASH, VISA and PayPal, and are registered at Tiffany's for your easy gift giving experience.
 
How 'bout right after your vows, when you, (bride), alongside groom/husband are being congratulated by many outside church, your 'husband' pulls your wedding ring & engagement ring off your finger, walks off to excitedly show his buddies how the two rings hook together........and you're left with mouth gaping in shock. o_O
 
Since I hate being the centre of attention, I hated my first wedding reception. Although it was an informal afternoon event for relatives, it was too much of “you have to have this, do that”. We had been married a few days earlier.

Second was just our children, my mother in our home by a marriage commissioner.

I’m watching my granddaughter plan her wedding and the costs of the whole production. Yikes.
 
We had a small church wedding followed by a small reception at my new in-laws home. We had very little money.
Sometimes, I feel like I never got married because my papers to come to America came only a few days before our wedding. I barely met the priest that married us. He kept on calling me Suzanna through the whole ceremony, which of course made us laugh!
 
I was close to calling off our wedding. I dearly wanted to marry, but I wanted it to be our wedding, not a party for a bunch of freeloaders. I refrained from making any sarcastic comments at the wedding but I swore that if our children wanted to marry, it was their wedding, they arrange it and have the wedding they want.

However, things ended well and we have been married 51 years - but I've never looked at our wedding photographs.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
We had a small church wedding followed by an informal reception at the home of my wife's parents. I have good memories of it, and how special my wife looked that day, coming down the aisle.

It was a bad time financially for both of us, and we couldn't afford a honeymoon, but we both managed to get a week off work, and my parents loaned us their lake house for that week. [They were not present, of course.;)]

Every day is firmly engraved in my mind. If I could re-live any week in my life, that's the one I'd choose.
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That's the best wedding story I've ever heard. That's what it should be about, the love between the bride and groom and the good wishes of the families. No ten thousand dollar gown required.
 
As a young child, I and friends, would walk to the local bridal gown store and choose our wedding gowns from the window display that changed almost weekly. Several years later a relative got married with a huge wedding. As she walked down the aisle, I thought, "everyone is looking at her" I'll never do that.

And I didn't. First marriage was in city hall, and the family went to a local steakhouse.
Second marriage (I was a very young widow) was city hall again, dinner with the kids and then a long weekend away with the kids......it was really a fun time.
 
My first wedding at age 18 was a small affair getting married by a judge and then my parents taking out about 10 of us for a really nice dinner.

When I got married the second time, my husband to be had never been married. We got married in church and invited 30 people. My parents took all of us out to a very nice restaurant for dinner and then invited everyone over for cocktails, cake, and hors d’oeuvres at their house. It really ended up being a lot of fun.

The third time I got married at age 50 I wanted to elope, but my husband wanted to have a wedding. We got married at a wedding chapel and then had rented a hall next-door to host the guests. I wanted a small wedding of about 20 people as I was going to be cooking much of the food and buying some of it.

Being my husband’s second wedding and my third I wanted a very small affair and unbeknown to me until a few weeks before the wedding He kept inviting people and we ended up with 60 people coming. I was not happy because it was a ton of work for me. I finally told him if he invited one more person, he could marry himself.🤣

in addition I had already invited 15 people over for dinner at my house the evening after the wedding because I wanted my closest friends to meet my mom and sister who were coming from the Midwest. So that weekend, I was totally exhausted to say the least.
 
My daughter's first wedding was a big affair that I barely got finished paying for before the divorce.

Her second wedding? Well, she called me at work on a Friday and said "We went out on our lunch hour yesterday and got married at City Hall."

I said, "Oh....well, do you guys want to go out for dinner tonight and celebrate?" We went out to dinner at a fancy steakhouse and it actually cost more than  my whole wedding did back in 1969. It was a lot easier, though, than either of those weddings. And this one seems to have lasted (26 years).
 
I worked with a nurse, who mortgaged her paid off home to give her daughter a monster of a wedding. We're talking many tens of thousands $$$$$. Turns out the daughter wasn't the sex hubby preferred or was aroused by. Within a month, the marriage was annulled. The nurse had to work till she was 68 to pay off the loan.
I just can't see spending that kind of money for 1 day's activities.

(BTW. The couple spent a year going to religious premarital classes. They agreed to have no premarital sex. Apparently, hubby had no problem keeping his promise.)
 

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