Wishing you a Happy Birthday when your child or spouse has passed away

[LoveTulips]

Would you wish someone a Happy Birthday if someone close had died in your family a couple of months ago? I wouldn't want anyone to wish me a Happy Birthday after my spouse died or my child died. This has happened in two private FB groups that I'm a part of. And it's not just a couple of people, a whole lot of people wishing the owners of the FB groups happy birthday.

 

[DebraMae]

Maybe something like "My thoughts are with you today" would be more appropriate. I don't know. I am always awkward with that sort of thing.

 

[Babs2u]

Maybe something like "My thoughts are with you today" would be more appropriate. I don't know. I am always awkward with that sort of thing.

That sounds good.

 

[astralcat]

I believe everyone – family, friends, understand when someone are grieving and would not purposefully wish them happiness on that day. I would simply acknowledge their birthday by telling them this must be an incredibly difficult day for them and that I am here for them and perhaps do something low key to let them know they matter and that I am thinking about them.

 

[oscash]

My sister always puts photos of my parents up on Facebook to wish them a Happy Birthday. I couldn't do that as I like to remember them the way they were when they passed, I told my boys to never put my face there.
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[Oldeagle66]

Although I might do that privately for myself. I wouldn't for someone else. That's private business.

 

[Ted01]

I try to appreciate any encouragement, well-wishing or whatever good tidings from anyone at any time...
still, there is a lot to be said for discernment towards decorum... but that seems to be a lost art more and
more these days.
But I'm not going to fault anyone, overly much, for trying to be kind.

 

[That Lady in PA]

Would you wish someone a Happy Birthday if someone close had died in your family a couple of months ago? I wouldn't want anyone to wish me a Happy Birthday after my spouse died or my child died.

I think this is one of those "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situations.

Personally...
After a couple of months, I would think it nice to be remembered on my birthday.
Much better than being ignored or forgotten!

 

[George1959]

My father died on November 13 in the last century. I have my birthday almost two weeks later. I wouldn't mind, if somebody wishes me a Happy Birthday such a short time later, but I wouldn't do it in case of other people.