Reasons why Marriages Fall Apart

oldman said:
You may be right, but then again, who knows for sure?
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I know. Being from California and knowing may Californians I can say that your generalization is incorrect. I know many accommodating Californians and often find that they are the majority of the ones I know and meet. Most I know don't want things done a certain way and are able to deal with it when things don't happen the way they want to.

I can agree that all of the people you've met from California might be that way but I highly doubt.
 

asp3 said:
I know. Being from California and knowing may Californians I can say that your generalization is incorrect.
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Does anyone really care? :rolleyes: I can say "men always forget anniversaries" and it doesn't mean I think all men on the planet do that. There are so many important things going on in the world that actually matter. Sometimes lightening up is a good choice, yes?
 
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CallMeKate said:
No one cares. :rolleyes: I can say "men always forget anniversaries" and it doesn't mean I think all men on the planet do that. There are so many important things going on that actually matter. Sometimes lightening up is a good choice, yes?
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Women are nasty gold diggers who ruin your life and steal your house.
Doesn't work does it?
 

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officerripley said:
Those that feel insulted do.
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I guess so, yes... but I've heard all my life about how "dumb" blondes are and it never once insulted me being a towhead.
I've heard things about what people think of Americans. No insult because it's just silliness thinking it meant all Americans.
I know British people have heard the same... I doubt they take it literally. 🤷‍♀️
Christians, Jews, overweight people... there are always sweeping comments that come out but aren't literal.
 
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CallMeKate said:
I guess so, yes... but I've heard all my life about how "dumb" blondes are and it never one insulted me being a towhead.
I've heard things about what people think of Americans. No insult because it's not all Americans.
I know British people have heard the same... I doubt they take it literally. 🤷‍♀️
Christians, Jews, overweight people... there are always sweeping comments that come out but aren't literal.
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It may get too much. Normally I think people making depricating jokes about us Dutch are fun, but there was one guy going on and on and if one made a joke back he had to be superior. Eeww. I don't watch it anymore. Not funny. And the comments. Dutch are autistic because they don't lie. Yeah sorry then I get like the standard response: Don't like it here? Go back to your own country lol.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
There are countless reasons why marriages fail. At the top of the list are infidelity, lack of commitment, different goals, boredom with each other, finances, and above all, abuse.

From enduring marriages I've seen, there was true commitment, along with the ability to compromise. Unfortunately, one partner often gives more than the other, but even those marriages can make it through (ours did). I don't see anything positive about a toxic marriage like the one described in the OP surviving.
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Disability in one partner is often the reason that the other partner (the able-bodied) gives more. But if the disabled partner gives true love then there is a balance.

True commitment along with the ability to compromise works for my wife and me. The circumstances (relatives, financial situation, environment) were always difficult for us, but we made it for almost three decades now.

And in fact there are countless reasons for failure. One simple reason is that one partner wants children, the other not. I know a woman of my kinsfolk, who married in her 20s. But after some time she and her husband had a different opinion on children. She didn't want children (she was a model and didn't want to ruin her figure with childbirth and breastfeeding), but he wanted kids. Thus they divorced some years after a glamorous wedding.
 
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George1959 said:
And in fact there are countless reasons for failure. One simple reason is that one partner wants children, the other not. I know a woman of my kinsfolk, who married in her 20s. But after some time she and her husband had a different opinion on children. She didn't want children (she was a model and didn't want to ruin her figure with childbirth and breastfeeding), but he wanted kids. Thus they divorced some years after a glamorous wedding.
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While I was single, I was in 2 relationships that got serious enough for me to decide to propose. They both knew I'd had a vasectomy - it's one of the first things I'd mention during the getting-to-know-you phase of dating.

Both women turned me down. It was obvious they loved my kids, but they wanted children of their own. I had to accept that, of course, but both relationships ended there. I have to say that's reasonable, but it tore me up bad, especially the 2nd time. She was so perfect, and we'd lived together for nearly 3 years. I loved her, my kids loved her, she loved us. She loved my parents. And my grandparents!

Took me a long time to get over that break-up.

She married and had 2 daughters, and she's got a handful of grandkids.
And that's nice :cry:

Seriously, I'm happy for her...finally. 😜
 
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