Have you ever had the thought that you wish you were the opposite gender?

Dr.Colosso said:
My cousin, a 68 y o guy, always goes hike in the woods and makes nice pics he puts on Facebook. I once made one walk alone as a teen girl. Loads of people had called the police. There's something wrong with her! She looks at trees!
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I go hiking in the woods all the time, taking pictures, no-one has ever said I was strange for doing that...
 

There are times I thought life would have been easier for me if I'd been born female, but I never seriously wished to have been born female.

On the other hand if I had the ability to be female for a short period of time I would jump at the opportunity. I think it would be very interesting experiencing life as a woman.

I've read accounts of people who were transgender who stayed in their professions post transition and it's interesting how they characterized the difference between navigating their profession as the opposite sex. According to the women who were men earlier professional life became more difficult and visa versa for men who were women earlier.
 
officerripley said:
Life has taught me just the opposite: most people have come right out and told me what they think about me ("You're weird!")
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I've been told I'm weird to Officer. Even my son. "Mom...your brain is weird" (because of the psychic stuff he's seen me do all his life). I simply say with a smile on my face.."Thank you!" ☺️ Loved ones have even told me they are afraid of me and they are quite serious.
 
Consider my poor friend. She was born with both sets of *******ia. She didn't realize until she was well into adulthood that it wasn't normal, but in retrospect she remembers hearing a conversation between her parents where her father said "well what bathroom would she use?" They must've been trying to decide whether or not to change her gender assignment, a difficult decision for parents in that position. When my son was in the hospital 49 years ago, there was a baby born with both. I heard the nurses talking about it.

My friend had been married to a man but realized her preference is women. She is still struggling with conflicted feelings. I've been able to help her somewhat by providing information about what is now called "intersex" people who used to be called hermaphrodites. I even sent her a VHS tape almost two decades ago of a special I saw about the intersex community and struggles they faced. Most felt their parents had chosen the wrong gender surgery for them.The prevalence of such births varies according to whether or not traits not visible are considered. Here's more on babies born with visible intersex attributes:

"The prevalence of visibly atypical *******ia at birth is estimated to be between 1 in 2,000 and 1 in 4,500 births (0.02%–0.05%). However, many intersex variations are not apparent at birth and may only become evident during puberty or later in life, sometimes not until individuals seek treatment for infertility or undergo unrelated medical procedures."
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When I was little I think I would have liked to have been a boy, because squatting to pee while camping was such a hassle with weeds poking at me and trying not to get pee on my clothes or shoes. And I really wish I'd gotten paid like a man during my career.

Now that they have those little cardboard 'stand up to pee' things (and why weren't those invented a hundred thousand years ago???), I expected to enjoy being able to not have to sit to pee, but trying not to splatter is challenging and having to lift the toilet seat is a bother, so really it turns out that I'm fine with sitting to pee (unless camping).

I hate dresses and hosiery and high heels, so I used to think it would be better to be a man, but I've come to think wearing a suit and tie would barely be any better.

I don't think I feel like either sex, I just feel like I'm me. So I don't really understand people who 'feel' like they are a man or a woman.

The social expectation that women can't fart, poop, burp, etc., is super annoying.

Some of my personality traits would be more accepted in a man I think, I don't want to be hugged and I think a boy would be able to avoid that better. I like math, snakes and bugs, but the math is the one that I feel most social pressure to be inferior at. In college when I took physics I was the only girl in the Physics Lab class and nobody wanted to be my partner; I felt very weird and out of place.

I do sometimes wonder what I'd have been like as a man, whether I'd have been embarrassingly nerdy like my father, or socially adept and business-savvy like my brother, would I not have loved horses, so many differences in how hormones and social expectations and opportunities would shape my life.
 
asp3 said:
There are times I thought life would have been easier for me if I'd been born female, but I never seriously wished to have been born female.

On the other hand if I had the ability to be female for a short period of time I would jump at the opportunity. I think it would be very interesting experiencing life as a woman.

I've read accounts of people who were transgender who stayed in their professions post transition and it's interesting how they characterized the difference between navigating their profession as the opposite sex. According to the women who were men earlier professional life became more difficult and visa versa for men who were women earlier.
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I think it's natural to wonder what it's like to be the opposite of what you are..in life generally.. whether it's being the opposite sex,..or simply being outgoing if you're shy, or pretty if you're thought to be unnatractive..or tall if you're small and so on...

I think generally women get to be more masculine these days if they want than men do being feminine

Women can swear. wear trousers... go without make-up... do all sorts of male jobs, yet put on a dress another day and become totally feminine without people questioning their sexuality...whereas men, even if they are very hetero... can't get away with wearing a dress or a skirt whenever they feel like it... or paint their nails, or wear make-up, without their sexuality being questioned
 
Nope, I like being a woman. I think there are some joys of life that are intrinsic to women, and they are very difficult if you are a man. And as Holly says, women have a lot more latitude in how we act, dress, talk, and behave in general. That has probably changed and improved in the last century or so; I think women were much more constrained in the old days.

Being a woman doesn't mean you have to be a "girly girl." You don't have to love dresses, makeup, feminine coffee klatches, etc. Little girls no longer have to have dolls as their main (or only) play objects. If a girl wants to be a car mechanic or an astronaut, she can now, without a lot of pearl clutching. I don't think boys have the same latitude to be, say, a ballet dancer.

And although men and their children may adore each other, I don't think paternity gives the same gut-level satisfaction that motherhood does at its best. Although I guess some people might debate with that. I do know that my children and grandchildren have brought me an enormous amount of joy, at a very basic level.

I also think that women in general are sturdier emotionally. From what I've seen in the senior population, women seem to adjust to the loss of their spouses with a lot more strength than men do. Maybe it's because statistically, women live longer, and probably most men expect to go first. It's more of a shock when they don't. I don't know if this is basic or a cultural thing. But I've seen a lot of men struggling emotionally when their wives predecease them, especially if it happens suddenly.

And thank heavens, women in many marriages (relationships?) are no longer stuck doing all the housework. With younger people, things are much more shared than they used to be.
 
hollydolly said:
I think it's natural to wonder what it's like to be the opposite of what you are..in life generally.. whether it's being the opposite sex,..or simply being outgoing if you're shy, or pretty if you're thought to be unnatractive..or tall if you're small and so on...

I think generally women get to be more masculine these days if they want than men do being feminine

Women can swear. wear trousers... go without make-up... do all sorts of male jobs, yet put on a dress another day and become totally feminine without people questioning their sexuality...whereas men, even if they are very hetero... can't get away with wearing a dress or a skirt whenever they feel like it... or paint their nails, or wear make-up, without their sexuality being questioned
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Unless they're Scotsmen, in which case they can put on a skirt if they want. :ROFLMAO:
 
Sunny said:
Nope, I like being a woman. I think there are some joys of life that are intrinsic to women, and they are very difficult if you are a man. And as Holly says, women have a lot more latitude in how we act, dress, talk, and behave in general. That has probably changed and improved in the last century or so; I think women were much more constrained in the old days.

Being a woman doesn't mean you have to be a "girly girl." You don't have to love dresses, makeup, feminine coffee klatches, etc. Little girls no longer have to have dolls as their main (or only) play objects. If a girl wants to be a car mechanic or an astronaut, she can now, without a lot of pearl clutching. I don't think boys have the same latitude to be, say, a ballet dancer.

And although men and their children may adore each other, I don't think paternity gives the same gut-level satisfaction that motherhood does at its best. Although I guess some people might debate with that. I do know that my children and grandchildren have brought me an enormous amount of joy, at a very basic level.

I also think that women in general are sturdier emotionally. From what I've seen in the senior population, women seem to adjust to the loss of their spouses with a lot more strength than men do. Maybe it's because statistically, women live longer, and probably most men expect to go first. It's more of a shock when they don't. I don't know if this is basic or a cultural thing. But I've seen a lot of men struggling emotionally when their wives predecease them, especially if it happens suddenly.

And thank heavens, women in many marriages (relationships?) are no longer stuck doing all the housework. With younger people, things are much more shared than they used to be.
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I remember when I was younger being told that once couples are in their 70s, if the wife goes first then the man usually follows within a matter of months, as they don't seem to be able to cope once their life partner is gone. As you say, women tend to be stronger emotionally than men in that regard, and often outlast their spouses by years, if not decades.
 
When I was a kid, I had nothing but boys to play with, so, of course, I was a tomboy. Now, even though I played outdoors with these boys, once inside, I played with my doll house and dolls. Ergo, I never wanted to be a boy, but at one time enjoyed playing their games. Once I hit puberty, that all changed of course.
 

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