To Anyone Having Christmas By Themselves This Year

TeePee

TeePee

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I hope you have a nice Christmas even if you're by yourself. Remember...Christmas isn't about the gifts you don't get; it's appreciating the gifts you do have up to and including reasonably good health, food on the table, a roof on your head, and a warm safe place to live. Anything else is icing on the cake. We miss our loved ones who won't be spending the day with us, but they are still in our hearts and memories so we're not alone.
 

TeePee said:
I hope you have a nice Christmas even if you're by yourself. Remember...Christmas isn't about the gifts you don't get; it's appreciating the gifts you do have up to and including reasonably good health, food on the table, a roof on your head, and a warm safe place to live. Anything else is icing on the cake. We miss our loved ones who won't be spending the day with us, but they are still in our hearts and memories so we're not alone.
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I'm on my own. The pity is that I love Christmas , and everything that goes with it... the lights the music, the christmas shopping in the city.. the whole razzamataz..

Since my husband has been gone Christmas is not the same at all anymore and I miss it ... but now I'm used to it... and I just kind of look on it like another day really..

My daughter calls as she did already today, and my friends call , or text.. as they've already done today .. ... and my neighours came around with food.. and I have all my friends here on the forum to keep me company, so I think of myself as still being luckier than thousands of other people..
 
MACKTEXAS said:
Thanks for your thoughtful comments. I'm alone this Christmas, but it is by choice, and I'm fine with it. I share your thoughts of "appreciating the gifts you do have up to and including reasonably good health, food on the table, a roof on your head, and a warm safe place to live. "
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This ^^^^^ pretty much says it all for me🤠🤠

I give Thanks every day for what I have, including my mental and physical health 🙏😂🙏
 
hollydolly said:
I'm on my own. The pity is that I love Christmas , and everything that goes with it... the lights the music, the christmas shopping in the city.. the whole razzamataz..

Since my husband has been gone Christmas is not the same at all anymore and I miss it ... but now I'm used to it... and I just kind of look on it like another day really..

My daughter calls as she did already today, and my friends call , or text.. as they've already done today .. ... and my neighours came around with food.. and I have all my friends here on the forum to keep me company, so I think of myself as still being luckier than thousands of other people..
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I looked at Christmas lights the other day. I did enjoy them, but you're right, it's not the same. It's just our new norm. I have a couple of close friends I still buy small gifts for but really not much family left to buy for. It's a double edged sword. You have a lot of people who enjoy your comments on SF so you're a blessing to a lot of people. Being able to be a blessing is a nice gift.
 
All alone here but for the three, four legged wise men in fur coats! They keep me busy all day, putting in orders for various snacks. They do not wait patiently for dinner. Always in the kitchen checking on my progress.....then back to the den to steal the remote

Little do they know I am not cooking much. I have no appetite on this new medicine and the tummy is not happy causing pain when I eat. Today, I will be having various pills and potions to calm the digestive system yet again.

For the most part I enjoy the quiet, should I get misty eyed or have a good cry these is no one that will be bothered.
 
MarciKS said:
It's a difficult time of year for me. I usually get depressed at the start of December and I'm not myself again til January.
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I start at Thanksgiving; it used to be really bad. I would sit in a chair and sip whiskey all day and cry. Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms. It became easier after a few years. Now, it's not like that. It has just become another day for me; however, I do enjoy seeing and hearing others with their celebrations.
 
GoodEnuff said:
I start at Thanksgiving; it used to be really bad. I would sit in a chair and sip whiskey all day and cry. Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms. It became easier after a few years. Now, it's not like that. It has just become another day for me; however, I do enjoy seeing and hearing others with their celebrations.
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Well my situation is a little different. It is really hard for me to manage December every year. If I could I would stay home for the entire month and talk to no one.
 
hollydolly said:
Since my husband has been gone Christmas is not the same at all anymore and I miss it ... but now I'm used to it... and I just kind of look on it like another day really..
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It's the same here since my wife has been gone. Right or wrong, I do better if I spend Christmas Day as any other day. I washed some clothes this morning and went through some business papers. I did cook a Christmas-like lunch, of a sort - but only because I had a frozen Cornish hen in the freezer and needed to use it soon.

You did get an early celebration with your daughter, so that's a Christmas memory, regardless of the date. On Monday, I went out to eat with a married couple I know, as we do each Christmas, so I'm good.
 
Generally Christmas music just makes me cry and so do the movies and stuff. I haven't actually celebrated Christmas since I had my miscarriage many years ago. But today I'm gonna attempt some Christmas movies and try to be in the spirit a bit. If the black and whites don't work out I might look for a comedy version.

We'll see how it goes. If I end up a mess then I will go find other things to do and just not ever attempt to celebrate it again.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
It's the same here since my wife has been gone. Right or wrong, I do better if I spend Christmas Day as any other day. I washed some clothes this morning and went through some business papers. I did cook a Christmas-like lunch, of a sort - but only because I had a frozen Cornish hen in the freezer and needed to use it soon.

You did get an early celebration with your daughter, so that's a Christmas memory, regardless of the date. On Monday, I went out to eat with a married couple I know, as we do each Christmas, so I'm good.
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exactly and that happens every year whether it's a week before christmas or 2 days before as it was this year, so I'm fine with that now...

..and like you today I just treated it like any other day. I got calls and texts, and of course my neighours constant trips here with food .. but those aside, I cleared out 2 more drawers today and filled another donation bag... I aso fixed the fence in the garden where it had come loose and was banging against the concrete post.

It's like my birthday now..I just act like it's another day ..and really I have to remind myself that it IS actually a special day .

It's 7.35pm here now , and it will all be over again in a little while..
 
Being alone is fine for me, being forgotten stings a bit.

Still, I would rather enjoy a quiet day alone than an uncomfortable day surrounded by people ‘making an effort’ to include me in their holiday celebrations.

Today, I did my walk as usual, did a bit of cooking, connected with a few people on Facebook, took a nap, and it’s almost time to turn the page on Christmas 2025.

Merry Christmas to all…😉🤭😂

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Not everyone dislikes being alone, Christmas or otherwise. The idea of Christmas, family get togethers, big dinners, gift giving, has become oversaturated due to commercialism of Christmas. Christmas has become a marketers dream. My heart goes out to anyone affected by this vast commercialism and unrealistic concepts of Christmas. I totally agree with @Teepee’s comment that we should appreciate the gifts we do have on a daily basis. I wish everyone good health and much happiness.
 
MarciKS said:
I don't mind being alone. I just don't like the feelings that come with the holiday itself. But that's based on the stuff I've been through. When you have no one that loves you or cares about you it just makes it tough to manage.
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It does make it tough when you feel nobody cares about you. It's a gut wrenching feeling. I've felt that way before. I guess it made me feel like I didn't deserve to be loved. I've since learned to love myself (most of the time) and that has helped me get through the holidays. Thank goodness todays almost over with and tomorrow starts a new one. I hope tomorrow you are feeling more up.
 
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