Envy and jealousy. What are some triggers?

[Ted01]

I got over envy and jealousy when I was 24. I even know the exact day I learned how stupid, futile, and destructive they are.

There's a story in there... one of resilience and strength too.

 

[RadishRose]

"Comparison is the thief of joy,"
- Theodore Roosevelt

I think constant comparison and bragging are sure signs of envy/jealousy....which is caused by low self esteem.

 

[Sunkist]

I once read a description of the difference between jealousy and envy —

Jealousy- you have a new red wagon. I want a new red wagon and I hate your guts because you have one and I don’t want you to have a red wagon.

Envy - you have a new red wagon. I wish I had a new red wagon and I am so happy for you that you are able to have one.

I don’t know how well this analogy holds up. I’ve never had a problem with jealousy. There have been times I’ve envied someone.

That's similar to what I read on a forum many years ago.

 

[Sunkist]

That's similar to what I read on a forum many years ago.

And:

My viewpoint is this topic explains the Reiner tragedy..

I haven't paid much attention to celebrities since I was a kid, but from what I've read:

a) Rob R. and his wife did not wreck themselves or their lives with drugs;

b) had accomplishments and recognition that they earned and deserved;

In contrast, their son could not say either of those things about himself.
So the logical conclusion is he was so enraged at his parents over these two issues that he cold-bloodedly murdered them.

 

[TeePee]

i agree this is mostly a younger person's problems but sadly not all grow out of it

That's true.

 

[Murrmurr]

There's a story in there... one of resilience and strength too.

Only my pride was hurt.

But seriously, yeah it's a story of betrayal and divorce and a big fat mess. When you get down to it, we just married too young. Our eyes weren't open yet, know what I mean?