Close to forty for me Sassycakes, and I feel bad for you that there's such a change in your hubby's behavior, could it be just boredom? I know a lot of women go back to work after their husband retires, just to get out of the house and away from him. Luckily my husband isn't so bad, but we both have our 'advice' on how we should do petty little things around the house. I would never be interested in more than one husband, nor would I want to share one who's married to other women besides me.