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DailyArtsyCrafter said:
I opened my profile and shared what I don't mind members knowing. I saw a post on this site a while back where someone complained that some members don't want to share their exact location. There are various reasons for that and some reasons are very important. When I read someone's profile, I have to be satisfied with what they've chosen to share, or not share. If I'm disappointed by what may not be there I just move on. It's ok.
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I would never share my exact location... either in profile or in chat.....

I was a moderator on another forum before this, where people did share their locations.. and one guy discovered his wife was having an affair, and he'd got it into his head that she was having this affair with another poster on the forum.. who lived about 20 miles from them.. and the first guy went around to the second guys house to beat him up... ..and these were grown adults.. not kids.. not even under 50... seriously
 
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MarciKS said:
I don't like just anyone viewing it. Plus I never put personal info in that would fix it so others can invade my privacy.
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I guess I'm one of those "not just anyone's" because I'm blocked from opening your profile. 😆 I'm not really getting (this is replying to the original post, not your reply, Marci) what the issue is with locking profiles. When bots or creeps post on my profile, I always have an option to delete.
 
hollydolly said:
I would never share my exact location... either in profile or in chat.....

I was a moderator on another forum before this, where people did share their locations.. and one guy discovered his wife was having an affair, and he'd got it into his head that she was having this affair with another poster on the forum.. who lived about 20 miles from them.. and the first guy went around to the second guys house to beat him up... ..and these were grown adults.. not kids.. not even under 50... seriously
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When I just divorced and immediately jumped into the next relationship, it was not a big success and sometimes I vented about it on a forum, but he just found out what my profile was and read it all back. Why did you say this or that? Oh my goodness.

Thank God I wasn't cheating. His ex cheated on him. He wanted to kill her. Got the police on his back. I was like Rataplan, the dog of Lucky Luke, who walked up to a criminal in prison, thinking: What a lovely man. I had no clue. I felt sorry for him. I may have prevented a murder with my stupidity.
 
I've posted some pretty personal information on this forum, but I don't choose to reveal my exact location. I'm in the Mid-Atlantic region of the United States, which is close enough. It's entirely up to me what I choose to share or withhold for whatever reason. If members want to block their profiles, that's fine with me.
 
Years ago on another forum I had someone track me to within 20 miles of my house. All he knew was the state. I did not disclose personal information on that forum or any forum since my hubs traveled for work and I was alone much of the time. He gleaned just enough information from my posts that he was able to get that close.

And I'm telling you, none of my posts included anything truly personal.
 
CallMeKate said:
I guess I'm one of those "not just anyone's" because I'm blocked from opening your profile. 😆 I'm not really getting (this is replying to the original post, not your reply, Marci) what the issue is with locking profiles. When bots or creeps post on my profile, I always have an option to delete.
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Sorry. Been trying to get everyone followed that i chat with regularly. Not trying to be offensive.

And not everyone likes that kind of stuff. I don't understand why people can't just make the choice of what they're comfortable with without being ridiculed over it.

If others want to post their real pics and all their private info and look at stuff on their profile posts that's their prerogative. I'm not gonna hassle them about it.

It's not something I'm comfortable with after being cyberstalked before. It's not like I have top secret stuff on there. I like to choose who sees it. And most of the time if people ask I tell them stuff.

So what's the big deal anyway? Am I supposed to tell everyone my real name and post my pic and address so someone can show up on my doorstep? It could happen.

Anyway, you guys do whatever you want. But I don't enjoy having people chide me for my own choices.
 
robin416 said:
Years ago on another forum I had someone track me to within 20 miles of my house. All he knew was the state. I did not disclose personal information on that forum or any forum since my hubs traveled for work and I was alone much of the time. He gleaned just enough information from my posts that he was able to get that close.

And I'm telling you, none of my posts included anything truly personal.
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There was a guy on a christian forum. A girl said she thought she looked bad and posted pics. Of course she looked great and everyone said: girl you look so fabulous.

Then that guy said to her in a pm: Watch out because only with this pic I can find out where you live. Look how I can see that. This is your address. She freaked out, contacted the mods, told everyone and everyone called him a creep and he got banned.

Then he made a creep profile to scare them and I made one to scare him. I met him later on another small forum and he told me the story. It was a nice guy, totally harmless. He had just tried to warn her and was mad at them for banning him and the witch hunt. But apparently you can find out a lot of info from a pic.
 
hollydolly said:
you know I've been here over 12 years and never had a BOT posted on my profile.... scammers have ''followed me'' and then they're quickly removed ... but other than that in all that time, I've never had any Bots post on my profile
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It didn't happen to me either before I blocked it, but I saw some bots and/or new members under 50 who just lasted a short time posting to the profile pages of some of our long-term members, so I decided to take the precaution. I also blocked PMs temporarily awhile back after getting some off color things I did not want.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
It didn't happen to me either before I blocked it, but I saw some bots and/or new members under 50 who just lasted a short time posting to the profile pages of some of our long-term members, so I decided to take the precaution. I also blocked PMs temporarily awhile back after getting some off color things I did not want.
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I understand that.. the problems I've had in my PM's have been almost entirely caused by established members :cautious:
 
Messy said:
There was a guy on a christian forum. A girl said she thought she looked bad and posted pics. Of course she looked great and everyone said: girl you look so fabulous.

Then that guy said to her in a pm: Watch out because only with this pic I can find out where you live. Look how I can see that. This is your address. She freaked out, contacted the mods, told everyone and everyone called him a creep and he got banned.

Then he made a creep profile to scare them and I made one to scare him. I met him later on another small forum and he told me the story. It was a nice guy, totally harmless. He had just tried to warn her and was mad at them for banning him and the witch hunt. But apparently you can find out a lot of info from a pic.
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the only time you could find information from a photograph is if you've posted photos all over the internet with your address... or job...
 
StarSong said:
I believe my profile is open to members who want to view it.

@Aunt Bea, often times members will post about events and places that are geographically specific including weather, fluctuating prices, housing markets, rental costs, and more.

For instance, if someone says their rent for a 1 bedroom has gone up to $1500/month, without geographic context that number means nothing to others. Is it a great deal or are they being fleeced? Depends whether the person lives in a small town in Nebraska or Iowa or Calgary, or just outside San Francisco, in Parisian suburbs, or even the Australian outback.

Ditto food prices, distance to visit family, public transportation, etc.
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that's the reason I feel people should have some limited info on their profile at least. I mean if they don't chat and just use the forum to play games or to read.. then there's no issue but if as you say they talk about current affairs then we can't really understand if we don't know for example roughly where they live
 
hollydolly said:
the only time you could find information from a photograph is if you've posted photos all over the internet with your address... or job...
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Or a house or a car number. Can't remember how he did it.
Looked it up.
'She sent me a photo with embedded exif data in it, showing the geo location of where it was taken. I pm'd her and told her about it, and I said I would help her remove it when I knew how ( I didn't know how at the time but do now ).

She asked me if I had looked it up. I admitted I did - it's a simple click on my program. Now even though I thought to help her protect herself online - she assumed (and said so) that I used the program for nefarious reasons and told a bunch of people I had stalked her.'
 
Because of the war in Ukraine, I learned photos can be geolocated. Don't ask me how since I never explored it.

At the time this guy got so close to me I had satellite internet so all he could get was a general area. I don't know about now with my broadband internet.
 
DailyArtsyCrafter said:
I opened my profile and shared what I don't mind members knowing. I saw a post on this site a while back where someone complained that some members don't want to share their exact location. There are various reasons for that and some reasons are very important. When I read someone's profile, I have to be satisfied with what they've chosen to share, or not share. If I'm disappointed by what may not be there I just move on. It's ok.
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I don't think anyone has an expectation or desire to know other SFer's exact locations. Having a rough idea does help us to know each other better though.

For instance, your avatar shows you live in Florida and @KSav's shows she lives in the (US) northern plains, so if one of you posts that your high temperature for today will be 60°, others will think, how nice for KSav to be enjoying such lovely spring weather — or gee it's surprisingly chilly for a March day in @DailyArtsyCrafter's area.
 
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