I am really struggling

Jules said:
One step at a time.

For the migraines, have you tried Botox? It has negative connotations because it’s a toxin and now for its use for vanity. Ignore this. It’s worth researching.

As others have said, treat yourself. Get that new car if you can afford it. Have a hair cut. Etc. etc. it’s the little things that help. Be kind to yourself.
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Yes, I did five or six years of botox. Treated every three months, 32 shots all over my head, neck and shoulders. It helped some but it does not make you pain free. It becomes a different kind of pain. I also tried every preventative and infusions, none helped.
 
Sorry to read this @Blessed x There's a lot of good advice here for you to think about.

Think of the short, gloomy winter days when people tend not to go out, especially people who are retired, maybe have health issues. Winter can be a dark, isolating, lonely time. If you are asleep all day and only active during the night, you are existing in the same darkness.

Natural light is very important and without it, you are probably lacking in Vitamin D which is essential, not only for our bones but also to aid sleep, mood and productivity.

Sometimes, life can be overwhelming. I think it is natural to retreat but, there comes a time when, the only way to deal with life, is to take small steps. See if you can try and adjust your sleeping habits so you can get more light (you might benefit from a course of Vitamin D tablets). Of course, this alone won't solve everything but, it's a small step in hopefully making yourself stronger so you can start to tackle the issues you are facing.
 
The only thing I can say is to agree with those who suggested - One Day at a Time.

If I look too far ahead or think of everything I need to get done, etc. -- it is OVERWHELMING for sure!

I always thought my "golden years" would be a breeze - but not so much. I worry about the future, and I don't take care of myself as well as I should.

I believe I understand what you are going through, but have little advice - since I'm just figuring it out as I go along.

I am fortunate to have a loving partner and two sons that love me and keep in touch.

Feel free to reach out if you just need to vent, anytime!!! Even with loved ones, there are days I get so tired of feeling poorly I wonder why I keep - keeping on!
 
Oh, Blessed, we've been here quite a while in this forum and I know you've been struggling for some time. If there was something I could do or say to take the pain away, I would do so in a heartbeat. You are a very special person and I'm sending my best. Thank you for sharing your innermost thoughts. We are all truly here for you. 🫂
 
The senior years can indeed be difficult because everyone is dealing with their friends and family dying, which is really depressing and their own physical problems. The three people that I have been closest to all died within the last six months.

I think you should buy yourself a new car and remodel your house to suit you. Spend your money on the things that you personally will enjoy.

I don’t know how far from you that your son lives but if he’s local how about if you start taking him and his wife and child out for dinner one night a week and paying for everybody. That would lighten everybody’s load and give the four of you time to catch up and enjoy each other.

My oldest son and his wife are local so I take them out for lunch one day a week. sometimes my daughter-in-law can’t go, but then my son and I still go. It’s really nice to see them every week. Take care, Terry
 
This will sound awful but it is good to know that I am not the only one who feels like others have stated here. People talk about and post pictures of going out and having such a nice time with family and/or friends. I have no family or friends here (or at least none with whom I wish to spend ANY time); it's just me. My idea of fun is going to the grocery store and the only people I talk with are the clerks or people I hire to do work around the house. That's it.

Every year, I become more reclusive and yes, bitter or cynical. As Paco Dennis said, sometimes it's just get through one hour, this day. Not always that way but far too often.

I live for my dogs, one friend, and one sister, both of whom live hundreds of miles away. Maybe I should get more dogs.
 
Goodness, you have a lot going on, you poor person. Just to let you know, in 2012 I had migraines and nausea plus numbness on the side of my face. The numbness was not every day. I had to force myself to eat because of the nausea. I basically lived on soups, crackers and Ensure. I lost 7 pounds in 2 months. I was put on medical leave by my doctor and thankfully could receive unemployment insurance. I saw a my doctor, a gastroenterologist, an allergist, a psychiatrist, and finally a neurologist.

So the neurologist finally told me that I suffered from " silent migraines ". She prescribed quetiapine ( which is actually used for schizophrenia). Anyways, it worked!! Just saying there is hope for cures for migraines.
 
LoveTulips said:
Goodness, you have a lot going on, you poor person. Just to let you know, in 2012 I had migraines and nausea plus numbness on the side of my face. The numbness was not every day. I had to force myself to eat because of the nausea. I basically lived on soups, crackers and Ensure. I lost 7 pounds in 2 months. I was put on medical leave by my doctor and thankfully could receive unemployment insurance. I saw a my doctor, a gastroenterologist, an allergist, a psychiatrist, and finally a neurologist.

So the neurologist finally told me that I suffered from " silent migraines ". She prescribed quetiapine ( which is actually used for schizophrenia). Anyways, it worked!! Just saying there is hope for cures for migraines.
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@CaliS just wondering why you posted a laughing emoji on the above. Believe me, it wasn't a laughing matter when I was going through it.
 
LoveTulips said:
Goodness, you have a lot going on, you poor person. Just to let you know, in 2012 I had migraines and nausea plus numbness on the side of my face. The numbness was not every day. I had to force myself to eat because of the nausea. I basically lived on soups, crackers and Ensure. I lost 7 pounds in 2 months. I was put on medical leave by my doctor and thankfully could receive unemployment insurance. I saw a my doctor, a gastroenterologist, an allergist, a psychiatrist, and finally a neurologist.

So the neurologist finally told me that I suffered from " silent migraines ". She prescribed quetiapine ( which is actually used for schizophrenia). Anyways, it worked!! Just saying there is hope for cures for migraines.
LoveTulips said:
Goodness, you have a lot going on, you poor person. Just to let you know, in 2012 I had migraines and nausea plus numbness on the side of my face. The numbness was not every day. I had to force myself to eat because of the nausea. I basically lived on soups, crackers and Ensure. I lost 7 pounds in 2 months. I was put on medical leave by my doctor and thankfully could receive unemployment insurance. I saw a my
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It is better now, thank God but after 14 years of he!!I have had to find ways to cope. As far as treatment now I have muscle relaxers, anti-nausea meds. anxiety meds, anti-inflammatories and sleeping pills. I take these as needed.

LoveTulips said:
LoveTulips said:
doctor, a gastroenterologist, an allergist, a psychiatrist, and finally a neurologist.

So the neurologist finally told me that I suffered from " silent migraines ". She prescribed quetiapine ( which is actually used for schizophrenia). Anyways, it worked!! Just saying there is hope for cures for migraines.
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Yes I have the same thing. I had to see so many doctors I now hate to go to the doctor. My face would also swell at night. The softest pillow was made of nails, even my hair hurt.
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LoveTulips said:
@CaliS just wondering why you posted a laughing emoji on the above. Believe me, it wasn't a laughing matter when I was going through it.
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She probably meant to give you a hug and pressed the laughing face instead. It happens. I once gave a laughing emoji when someone was expressing their pain and suffering for losing their dog. Someone had to tell me.
 
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