Never So Alone As I Am, Now!

Ian McKlatchie

Ian McKlatchie

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I can honestly say that, right now, I am more alone than I have ever been/felt in my entire life! I never thought that I would ever be this alone, lonely and isolated! I am feeling so hopeless, I don't even know what to do about it! My very last phone friend dumped me around 6 weeks ago, now, and that was it...all the humans in my life ran out on that day! How can a person get this low?

How could I ever be stupid enough to let myself become this isolated and cut off from other humans, like this. No friends, no family, no visitors and agoraphobia keeping me in the house - at the present time. I didn't even think that this state could come about...how naive is that?

I know you can't help me! But, there was nowhere else that I could think of where people had been kind enough to me to see that I am being totally sincere! I've never been this far down the scale of human contact!

Thank you, if you read this far! :(
 
Im alone but Im one of the odd ones. It doesnt bother me. So I dont know if I should be giving advice.
Im usually up late and poking around on the net and watching cat videos.
Anyways. Have you considered participating in telephone friendship program for seniors living alone.


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Telephone friendship programs for seniors living alone offer consistent social connection, reducing isolation through scheduled, compassionate, and volunteer-led phone calls. Major initiatives like the Institute on Aging’s Friendship Line (800-971-0016), DOROT's Caring Calls, and AARP’s Friendly Voices provide emotional support, companionship, and check-ins for seniors seeking conversation and community connection. [1, 2, 3]
 

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Please don't beat yourself up about becoming isolated. It's awful to feel so isolated, believe me I know because I am too, but I hope you don't blame yourself too much. They say loneliness has gotten so bad amongst the population that they're calling it an epidemic. I hope you come here to vent; there are a lot of people on this site who understand. (I've found some of the advice and sympathy I've gotten here better than the therapist I tried going to.)
 
I have always been a reader. Recent situations and events have made me sad. I have broadened the kinds of books i read. Some provide humor, others advice or just places to escape if the author is gifted enough. Last week it was Remarkable Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt (still working on it and enjoying it) Today I got Keep Going by Austin Kleon. a delightful little book. I shop Abebooks which is very economical. I hope this helps you or others who are experiencing lonliness.
 
Don't blame yourself, I can see myself where you are. I have no friends but still have a husband, but if I were alone?? And you can still join groups, clubs, Senior Centres, etc. if you are physically able to do so. Or even volunteer somewhere. Mentally you may have to force yourself to go out and mingle with people for your own good. I'm glad you came here to this forum to at least get some support.
 
Agoraphobia is a huge issue for many people. Why not see if there are any online support programs that deal with the subject, there you might find others who are suffering like yourself, they would understand just what you are going through , they maybe able to give you some coping tips.
Like many I am alone but not lonely, we are all different, I hope you find some peace. I jump in and out of this forum but I find everyone very friendly and willing to help wherever they can.
 
I made the mistake of cutting everyone out of my life years ago, I even moved to another state. now they all died off and it's just me. Sometimes I go months without uttering a single word to another person with the exception of store clerks and doctors. This group helps and has helped me deal with depression and health problems. It also helps me getting my creative groove back. Try and remain positive. Some of us know how ya feel. There's a lot of cool people here and sometimes just seeing their names brightens my day.
 
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I have always been a reader. Recent situations and events have made me sad. I have broadened the kinds of books i read. Some provide humor, others advice or just places to escape if the author is gifted enough. Last week it was Remarkable Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt (still working on it and enjoying it) Today I got Keep Going by Austin Kleon. a delightful little book. I shop Abebooks which is very economical. I hope this helps you or others who are experiencing lonliness.
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I'm also an avid and amassed a decent sized collection. My absolute favorite new hobby now is finding hard to find movies and tv. If it's ever been made, I can get it. Binge watching a season of the old J.J. Starbucks tv show with Dale Robertson right now.
 
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Veronica said:
Im alone but Im one of the odd ones. It doesnt bother me. So I dont know if I should be giving advice.
Im usually up late and poking around on the net and watching cat videos.
Anyways. Have you considered participating in telephone friendship program for seniors living alone.


AI Overview

Telephone friendship programs for seniors living alone offer consistent social connection, reducing isolation through scheduled, compassionate, and volunteer-led phone calls. Major initiatives like the Institute on Aging’s Friendship Line (800-971-0016), DOROT's Caring Calls, and AARP’s Friendly Voices provide emotional support, companionship, and check-ins for seniors seeking conversation and community connection. [1, 2, 3]
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Thanks, for that resource, Veronica. I've just noticed that it's an American number/service. I am still very grateful for your kind gesture, though.
 
Today, I feel totally worn out. My sleep was no problem - sleep is an escape, for me. But, yesterday's stress has really wiped me out. I'll probably have to use all of today just to regroup my resources, inside. I have a bit of a fight on my hands, with no fight left in me. That's quite a strange thing to be able to say, actually. Human company online...does make a difference, I've noticed. When your last friend dumped you around 6 weeks ago, the loneliness avalanche is very tough to resist...that's why it's knocked me off my feet and driven my depression even further into the red zone.

Thanks, to all who are trying to help me through this terrible, dark time.
 
Lara said:
You are not alone. You wouldn't still be here if you didn't have a purpose to fulfill. You are loved by
our creator, our Heavenly Father. Just let Him into your heart and soul.

I will pray too, that God will send others to reach out to you. And you can reach out to others as well.
I just care about you.
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@Lara Pardon me, Laura...I've honestly only just seen this! Your words have carved their way into me, I'm happy to say (and, I'm rarely happy about anything). As I can't feel my Faith (and, that has, indeed, been a most awful aspect to this anhedonia), would you please pray for me? I'd appreciate it. When I think of praying, try to pray, or try to remember having prayed, I have no feeling inside me and I've no idea how to deal with that. Thank you for your kind words.
 
Maybe I am not normal since being alone does not really affect me. Of course, I live in an apartment where sometimes I am praying that no one knocks on my door today. Yet there are days where I don't see or talk to anyone. With the exception of this forum. I think the key is to be busy. Find things to do that you like to do. I enjoy writing stories (though have a problem with ending them so they are ongoing), coloring in adult coloring books and cooking. When I color I think about things, plan things I want to do or just mediate.

Try to stay positive if you can. Post here every day so you can get to know us, your friends.
 
I sometimes have the same feelings you've expressed, but feelings come and go. WIshing you better times ahead.
Mack

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