So Depressed I Can Almost Taste It

fureverywhere

fureverywhere

beloved friend who will always be with us in spiri
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I dunno, I'm getting things out by writing. Maybe I could submit it to the paper as " The Face of Fair Credit Reporting" ?
It's just so very many interviews, some of which went swimmingly. Some of which hired me on the spot and pulled the offer afterwards. Today I interviewed at Macys. Crap I'm old enough I could joke with the interviewer I remember when they were Bamberger's...and ya know this fellow worked for them then, instant connection.

At the end of the interview he walked off to another room. When he came back in he was a bit somber. Sorry but that position has been filled. Well it's not rocket science but he said feel free to put in for other positions. But I wonder if the position being closed was just an easy way for him to say we checked your credit? A bank hired me before, Best Buys, and then thanks but no thanks.

I'm tired of singing this song. I'm not a felon, I have a degree, I'm ridiculously over-qualified but will accept minimum wage...what more could an employer want? Because I screwed up my credit more than a decade ago means I'm going to rob them blind now? That seems to be what's implied. Not that perhaps you'd be very happy to take care of your debts...but yeah for that I need the job that you won't give me. Feel like I'm beating my head into the wall.

Sigh thank you for letting me vent. You can get so down about stuff you actually feel like you're sinking.
 

I know the feeling of depression, Fur - and it bites.

I remember when Macy's was Bamberger's as well! There were a few of them around Yonkers.

I'm not going to give you any secrets to getting rid of that depression because I don't have any. My way is to just immerse myself in it, throw a huge pity party and grouse at people for a while.

Not real productive and not what the pros would tell you, but there you are.

You probably know my viewpoint on jobs - make your own. ;)
 

I don't have any constructive tips, fur, but I feel for you.
Been there, and keep revisiting.
Hope something shows up on the horizon for you soon.
 
Yeah non-profits, but for I needed a job six months ago you look at the big places that hire everybody...yeah except old people with bad credit. Then you're earning something and you look into meaningful work. I know Philly, I rack my brain over what I could do self-employed. Some of it is age...I've outlived my usefulness. Forty years ago I could have walked into a magazine or newspaper job pretty easy. Printed media is a dying concept now. Considered nanny but I speak the English good and I need frickin' benefits.
 
There is a teensy possibility. I did pick one of the last interview times. Then I put in for nine other spots. So if all of the above get shot down I'll know. But even the freaking restaurant outlet down the way. 5000 questions including math and featured on a site for ex-cons...I know I'm going all directions..." Best of luck with your future endeavors..."
 
Leave the country-go where workers are appreciated, eg. Germany, Australia, maybe even Singapore.
I did--with 2 children in tow!
However, you will have to put up with years of homesickness (I do), even after 43 years, but grown-up children are well-educated, have their own families, and love this country!
 
I wish, hubby is progressively disabled. The danged refrigerator decided the perfect time to poop out. The taxes are due. I'd jump on the nearest ice floe, but my doggies need me.
 
My sympathy, Fur, that sounds like it really stinks.

(For what it's worth, I grew up in Newark and have many fond memories of Bamberger's.)
 
You can get so down about stuff you actually feel like you're sinking.​
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Tell me about it. I have been feeling that way for months now. Plus, last night I felt so tired I really wondered if that was what dying feels like. Way too much stress lately, and I have no choice but to go through it, and have no one to talk to about it. And no one to help, and sometimes just listening is the best help of all.

Macy's was Davison's here when I was little.
 
Fur, do you know anybody who knows about cleaning up credit? If the bad problem (how bad is it? Have you pulled your own credit report to see what is actually ON there?) is old enough, I think they have to remove it from your credit report. Do you know a financial planner or someone who works in credit who could give you some help? Could your Department of Labor or someone like that give you some help?
 
Fur...I've just read this, and I feel your pain about needing a job desperately and being unable to get one, the frustration must be enormous...

2 questions for you tho'...when you say your over qualified, do you tell them at the interview at a supermarket about all your Degrees'''..if so, I would stop immediately, because they will presume that you may become bored very quickly with a mundane job...

...and secondly....from what I'm reading from your OP..I'm being given the impression that you (one) is virtually unemployable in the USA if you have a poor credit rating...can this be right, am I understanding this properly..?..surely not. I must have read that wrong, so please can someone explain..:confused:
 
Susie said:
Leave the country-go where workers are appreciated, eg. Germany, Australia, maybe even Singapore.
I did--with 2 children in tow!
However, you will have to put up with years of homesickness (I do), even after 43 years, but grown-up children are well-educated, have their own families, and love this country!
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A visa would be impossible to get.

I've lived outside my country of birth for 16 years (yesterday) and have never been homesick.
 
Fur, I've been in that situation many times. I had pretty good luck with temp agency office work when in between jobs. Having good communication skills and a friendly attitude seemed to work for me. A reception position can often expand into other things and the pay isn't all that bad.
 
Cookie said:
Fur, I've been in that situation many times. I had pretty good luck with temp agency office work when in between jobs. Having good communication skills and a friendly attitude seemed to work for me. A reception position can often expand into other things and the pay isn't all that bad.
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That's actually a great idea -- a temp job. Fur, are you familiar with the main word processing systems? Even if not, I betcha you could pick it up pretty quickly. Monday morning, call your local temp agencies, Manpower, etc., and see if they have anything. I know that here, at least, places like law firms have LOTS of overflow word processing (typing stuff) that they hire temps for, as needed; also hire for people on maternity leave, etc., and frequently if they like you they'll hire you for a permanent job.
 
Hi Fur

I admit to knowing zero about USA way of life, however when I was 50 years of age and in the space of just three months I lost my life time job, my home and my wife. Plus I was unable to walk more than 25 yards/metres being in chronic pain and was broke. I never worked again.
However I managed , work had in fact stopped me from making money and I survived, with a lot of pain and stress I agree and on my own.
Now I am ok, house in the country , two cars and no money worries, so just saying stay positive as you never know what is around the corner.
 
I am with the others that say to check your credit report. Credit reporting agencies make mistakes and it's up to you to clear it up. I just went through a situation where it was a simple matter of correcting an error by registered letter.
 
Fur, wish you were here in the South because here bad credit is only a problem when you apply to work at a bank. If they went by credit reports to hire people here then there would be no McD workers or office cleaners or office personnel. Here they usually run a criminal background report and do a pee test for drugs but that's it. Anyway, none of this helps you because you can't move but I do have a suggestion for looking for work, Home Health Care. There are a ton of people that need assistance and agencies to fill their needs. My suggestion too is to check your credit report and if there are any glaring errors then write them and dispute the errors, ask to have your letter of explanation included in with your report ... I think they have to agree to this but then I'm no lawyer. Mainly I suggest you apply at places that staff home health care needs.

Good luck, we are all rooting for you and wishing there was some way we could help. You know, maybe the admins of this site needs to allow people to start posts or threads for I need assistant because ....blank, kind of like a Go Fund Me. Then members of the forum can ask for assistance when needed. Just a thought but I stay on Reddit a lot and they have subreddits just for this type thing. People there post stuff like: About to be Homeless, any Assistance Would be Greatly Appreciated. They give details about their current situation in the body of the message and sometimes offer to pay people back at a later date, if it's a large amount of cash needed, and then the readers can personal message to ask them for a real time address or PayPal account number if they want to donate x amount of dollars. I'm just saying, if everyone on this site gave you ten dollars each maybe it would pay for your refrigerator repair. That type thing.

Or maybe this would open a big old can of worms, who knows. Maybe everyone would suddenly need assistance. I don't beleive this would be the case, but then I am to the far left of Liberal. Odds are other people might fear this would happen.

Hugs, and again, good luck!
 
Cookie said:
Fur, I've been in that situation many times. I had pretty good luck with temp agency office work when in between jobs. Having good communication skills and a friendly attitude seemed to work for me. A reception position can often expand into other things and the pay isn't all that bad.
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Temp agencies aren't the way they used to be. I was also lucky with temp agencies for those in-between times-in the past. But these days, my experience has been that there isn't any face-to-face unless your resume absolutely fits some criteria they have (I don't apply if my experience doesn't match). And these days, initially, it is all done on-line-then if they think you might fit, they will have you interview. Very frustrating!! We have had many threads about how the landscape of hiring has changed since most of us started out...and it my not so humble opinion, it is for the worse.

I am currently trying the Home Care route myself...will see how that works out:eek: Hang in there Fur...we're all rooting for you with fingers and toes crossed!
 
Anglophile said:
Hi Fur

I admit to knowing zero about USA way of life, however when I was 50 years of age and in the space of just three months I lost my life time job, my home and my wife. Plus I was unable to walk more than 25 yards/metres being in chronic pain and was broke. I never worked again.
However I managed , work had in fact stopped me from making money and I survived, with a lot of pain and stress I agree and on my own.
Now I am ok, house in the country , two cars and no money worries, so just saying stay positive as you never know what is around the corner.
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So, how did you do it? How did work stop you from making money, and how did you get from there to where you are? You should write a book! :)
 

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