Do You Have Any Close Gay Friends?

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Lon

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I don't mean casual aquaintances. I mean individuals that you dine with, have them to your home and converse with on a regular basis.
 

But of course darling. I met best buddy at maybe 17. I still love him and we get together when we can. Hubby and me? Our first conversations? Which bars our best buddie's took us to...His were that lesbian, me hardcore male..." The Mine Shaft"...that had to hurt...
 
My best female friend is a gold star lesbian, Lon. I'll let fur explain that one. Lol. Seriously, we have been through the wars together. I love her to bits.
 

Well yes my sister n laws brother is gay and I see him on holidays. He is an excellent host and a very kind man. He loves my Suzy dog. I have had a bisexual friend, too.
 
Yup, it's not about stereotype but choice. Best buddy is the sister I never had. On the other paw there was another close friend. Even the far right conservatives would not have a clue. He was handsome and got the most beautiful ladies. Also bitterly cynical...happy to say age has mellowed him.

Probably still loves cute Latino's. But also cats and heartfelt notes from when he was away...want to hug him now, even as far away as he is.
 
I had a good friend years ago who came out as a lesbian. She became very involved in the gay sub-culture and I was busy with my job and boyfriend, and unfortunately we lost touch.
 
I used to think I did, 40 and 30 years ago. One male, one female. Turned out they were each using me to make their partners jealous and didn't really want to be friends with a straight person at all.

Kinda gave me a bad impression of the "fidelity" of gay people -- either to friends or partners! Put a bad taste in my mouth. I've never had a straight friend play that game with me or their SO.
 
The friend I've known the longest dates back to 1973. In 2013 my wife and I were lucky enough to attend his wedding to a partner he'd been with for 22 years. It was an incredibly moving ceremony (in WA state) in which my wife was the matron of honor. The party afterwards was wild and we had a ball. The former governor of WA spoke before the ceremony. It was very emotional.

Although my wife and I are across the country from our long-time friends, we're in frequent contact one way or the other.

Beyond those two guys, I'm not sure that I have any other close friends who are gay, but I did have several colleagues/friends at work who were.
 
Kinda gave me a bad impression of the "fidelity" of gay people

I dunno if that makes sense thinking of all the kooky things straight people have been known to do in their relationships...jus' sayin' Who you love doesn't have bearing on how faithful you are.

Oh and Ike, incomplete answer there son...No, not that you know of.

With so many friends and family in the rainbow community I try to be an advocate. It's like pit bulls...with education and understanding they can be accepted ya know?
 
fureverywhere said:
Kinda gave me a bad impression of the "fidelity" of gay people

I dunno if that makes sense thinking of all the kooky things straight people have been known to do in their relationships...jus' sayin' Who you love doesn't have bearing on how faithful you are.

Oh and Ike, incomplete answer there son...No, not that you know of.

With so many friends and family in the rainbow community I try to be an advocate. It's like pit bulls...with education and understanding they can be accepted ya know?
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Well, fur, we were asked for our personal experience and I posted mine. I also added that I've never had a straight friend play that kind of game with me or their SO. So, based on my experience, the straight couples I've known are more faithful to their partners than are the gay ones I've known. And I've known many more of the former than the latter. I can only speak from my own experience. If you want to judge me for that, it's your problem not mine. I haven't had any straight friends who did kooky things with or without their partners. Maybe your friends do kooky things to each other. Mine don't. You took an honest answer and started generalizing about kooky couples, so maybe that's you speaking from your experience?

I hate it when people on this board come out and start judging others who are only trying to answer a question that's been posted.
 
Sigh, gaydar is very unreliable. When I have been out with my best female friend, some of her lesbian friends have wondered if I was femme. Lol.

I hear ya Shali, sometimes things aren't what they seem. When the kids were young me and best buddy often took them on outings. He might bring a few nieces and nephews too. To look at us we looked like a great big happy family. Many thought we were husband and wife. Nowadays his fashion sense has gone more mainstream. But in the early 80's looking like Prince turned heads. We always had a chuckle, but I played proud wife with a smile.
 
True story: I mentioned my old friend in an earlier post. When my wife and I were in college and dating one another, we went out with our mutual friend one evening (the three of us met on the same night in college). He always struck me as a bit dramatic, but at that age I had no experience knowing anyone who was gay, so imagine my surprise when the place he took us to was a gay bar. Now, this was the mid-70s and this place was off the beaten path. I was so uncomfortable, not knowing if someone might make a pass at me. Of course everything was fine and we had a good laugh afterwards. Our mutual friend said he did it as a lark. A few years later he came out to us, but by then we had pretty much figured it out and we told him so and that it made no difference to us. At his wedding, I told him what an honor it was to attend and be a part of something so special, especially because for so long he and his partner didn't have the right to be married. It's nice to see progress in this area, but there's a long way to go.
 
Well since I live near the lesbian/gay capitol of the east coast I know quite a few. My neighbors are lesbians, my best friend's son is gay, and I have worked with numerous lesbian/gay people of all ages and have had personal conversations with all. I find them all to be kind, considerate, loving, and peaceful people. I have never heard of any that have committed crimes or dishonest behavior. Although it is not my choice of life, I do not judge or condemn their lifestyle.
 
Reckon there are LGBT boards where members have asked if anybody has straight friends? Is there anybody here who's so insensitive as to start a thread asking if any among us are LGBT? Asian? Muslim? Jewish? Black? B'hai? White? Christian?

When introducing themselves do straight people announce "Hi, I'm Jane/John Doe and I'm heterosexual"? Does it matter? If you met somebody new, liked them, became friends and only discovered later that the person was LGBT would it make any difference whatsoever?
If you learned that a member of our senior community here was of a faith you don't subscribe to, a race that you "don't like", has a sexual preference that doesn't mesh with your beliefs, would you put them on "ignore" immediately even though in the past you enjoyed their threads/posts? If the answer is yes, you might want to check Google for the definition of a bigot.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Reckon there are LGBT boards where members have asked if anybody has straight friends? Is there anybody here who's so insensitive as to start a thread asking if any among us are LGBT? Asian? Muslim? Jewish? Black? B'hai? White? Christian?

When introducing themselves do straight people announce "Hi, I'm Jane/John Doe and I'm heterosexual"? Does it matter? If you met somebody new, liked them, became friends and only discovered later that the person was LGBT would it make any difference whatsoever?
If you learned that a member of our senior community here was of a faith you don't subscribe to, a race that you "don't like", has a sexual preference that doesn't mesh with your beliefs, would you put them on "ignore" immediately even though in the past you enjoyed their threads/posts? If the answer is yes, you might want to check Google for the definition of a bigot.
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None of that stuff matters to me at all. Why in the world should it?
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Reckon there are LGBT boards where members have asked if anybody has straight friends? Is there anybody here who's so insensitive as to start a thread asking if any among us are LGBT? Asian? Muslim? Jewish? Black? B'hai? White? Christian?

When introducing themselves do straight people announce "Hi, I'm Jane/John Doe and I'm heterosexual"? Does it matter? If you met somebody new, liked them, became friends and only discovered later that the person was LGBT would it make any difference whatsoever?
If you learned that a member of our senior community here was of a faith you don't subscribe to, a race that you "don't like", has a sexual preference that doesn't mesh with your beliefs, would you put them on "ignore" immediately even though in the past you enjoyed their threads/posts? If the answer is yes, you might want to check Google for the definition of a bigot.
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Best post on this thread.
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A friend is someone you like for themselves, not their sex, sexual persuasion, color, creed, or whatever other label people want to place on other people.
 
I welcome the thread as a venue to illustrate the normality of LGBT. We need to neutralize the us versus them, and the circus sideshow elements that still exist among certain segments of society. It has been a decade since Canada instituted same sex marriage. It is now commonplace. So it should be.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Reckon there are LGBT boards where members have asked if anybody has straight friends? Is there anybody here who's so insensitive as to start a thread asking if any among us are LGBT? Asian? Muslim? Jewish? Black? B'hai? White? Christian?

When introducing themselves do straight people announce "Hi, I'm Jane/John Doe and I'm heterosexual"? Does it matter? If you met somebody new, liked them, became friends and only discovered later that the person was LGBT would it make any difference whatsoever?
If you learned that a member of our senior community here was of a faith you don't subscribe to, a race that you "don't like", has a sexual preference that doesn't mesh with your beliefs, would you put them on "ignore" immediately even though in the past you enjoyed their threads/posts? If the answer is yes, you might want to check Google for the definition of a bigot.
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Actually there has been a thread or two where some members have asked the question. LOL! But I get the point. I don't make reference to these things when discussing my friends, my friends are just referred to as my friend fill name_______________. But, I'm not against discussion if it's meant to enlighten though often the reasons with some are questionable.
 
I have a gay (male) coworker who, with his husband (Montana in 2016 passed gay marriage), have been checking out places to retire. They went to Europe this past month and loved it, because there simply seemed to be "NO" difference to anyone who was with who. He said it was the first time in their 10 year relationship, that he has felt totally comfortable holding hands in public. They stayed in a rural inn and specifically asked their elderly hostess what the reaction would be in the country, as opposed to the city. Her reply was "Oh, that's all in the long ago past."

It was so wonderful hearing him tell me this story. He was genuinely the happiest I've seen him, just talking about the experience there.
 

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