What do you do to avoid getting lonely?

In adjusting to aloneness I first got into fitness and did Yoga and Tia Chi. But my reward was hurting myself, so for a while I vegetated. But then, after spending a couple of weekends in my house with no human contact from Fri to Mon I decided to go to church. Met a nice group of people there, and I keep going. Of course my friends on Facebook are the ones I wake up with every day. I really panic when my computer goes down and I can't visit them! The weekend I held a yard sale was quite social, too.
 

SifuPhil said:
I don't try to avoid being lonely; I actively seek to be alone.

There's a big difference ... :playful:
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I so agree with that. I am alone often, but never feel alone. Pets help with that, but also gardening... even container gardening if nothing else. Keeps a person busy!
 

Boo's Mom said:
I so agree with that. I am alone often, but never feel alone. Pets help with that, but also gardening... even container gardening if nothing else. Keeps a person busy!
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Exactly. I'm heading out now for some interesting conversation with the cat while she supervises my weed pulling . . .
 
Boo's Mom said:
I so agree with that. I am alone often, but never feel alone. Pets help with that, but also gardening... even container gardening if nothing else. Keeps a person busy!
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Yep, pets are the answer I think - that's why the pet industry is making money hand-over-fist these days - there are a lot of lonely (or alone) people.
 
I really like the Steve Berry books, and I just read his latest one about Christopher Columbus, called " the Columbus Affair".
he puts a lot of good historical facts mixed in with an extraordinary story. This one addresses the possibility that Columbus was actually Jewish, and looking for a place for Jews to live unpersecuted, that was supposed to exist in the East, and was also carrying their religious treasure , that had been hidden away for all the years since Columbus secreted it away here in the New World.
Very good book, as are all of his that I have read thus far.
 
Love to read also, but stick with fiction most of the time. So easy for me to get lost in a good book for days...and then get mad at myself for not getting anything done. Just finished Whole Latte Life/Jeanne DeMaio..
and I do prefer books. Haven't gotten into the Nook/Kindle thing yet.
 
Speaking of reading books, I was doing some research on Amazon best-sellers today, and now I'm depressed.

Do you have ANY idea what the best-selling authors are pulling in on a monthly basis from Amazon alone? And the thing is, the majority of the best sellers are fiction ...


  • Dan Brown's Inferno: A Novel - $1.04 million / month
  • Sylvia Day's Entwined With You - $782,000 / month
  • and a surprise for #3 - Bel Kaufman's Up The Down Staircase, her classic 1965 novel - $733,000 / month (mostly school sales)


... I really have to buckle down and do more writing ... :(
 
I constantly talk to people, Strangers are friends We haven't meet.
I am not pushy, but let things roll, happen. All the seniors on the bus stop, like a good conversation, as they are lonley as well.!
 
Me too Red. Like Phil, I actively distanced myself to achieve a little lonesomeness, which is different to loneliness. It wasn't that I didn't like them, we all get along fine, I just didn't want to be enmeshed in or take sides in their daily dramas where I didn't really belong.

.The internet and phone are contact enough to get me by without becoming totally detached from the world. I actually enjoy that far more than trying to negotiate the pitfalls of sensitivities, heirarchy politics, and social graces of groups.

I used to escape by wallowing in masses of books but haven't read much for a while, prefer writing to reading now.

I don't remember ever being what you'd term lonely. As an only child being alone was normal.
People are the primary source of complications in life and without 'em too close by it's been just plain blissful. :)
 
Diwundrin said:
Me too Red. Like Phil, I actively distanced myself to achieve a little lonesomeness, which is different to loneliness. It wasn't that I didn't like them, we all get along fine, I just didn't want to be enmeshed in or take sides in their daily dramas where I didn't really belong.

.The internet and phone are contact enough to get me by without becoming totally detached from the world. I actually enjoy that far more than trying to negotiate the pitfalls of sensitivities, heirarchy politics, and social graces of groups.

I used to escape by wallowing in masses of books but haven't read much for a while, prefer writing to reading now.

I don't remember ever being what you'd term lonely. As an only child being alone was normal.
People are the primary source of complications in life and without 'em too close by it's been just plain blissful. :)
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I realize that I didn't know how true that all is until I'm around a group of people ... maybe it's comes from being an only child for me too. I don't know the reason, but everyone's everyday drama can drive me bonkers.
 
Boo's Mom said:
I realize that I didn't know how true that all is until I'm around a group of people ... maybe it's comes from being an only child for me too. I don't know the reason, but everyone's everyday drama can drive me bonkers.
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That's why I enjoy being on Facebook: whenever I feel that I'm missing out on life, I just go there and read a few of the posts.

I'm instantly re-energized and remember why I chose to live the way I do. The level of drama there ... the unnecessary complexity that people create for themselves ... it's just amazing. And that's just a mirror of the outside world - at least on Facebook you can just log-out.

Doing that in real life usually entails leaving a note and a messy clean-up.
 
Boo's Mom said:
I realize that I didn't know how true that all is until I'm around a group of people ... maybe it's comes from being an only child for me too. I don't know the reason, but everyone's everyday drama can drive me bonkers.
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I'm an only child too and I like my own company and I never feel lonely, I feel uncomfortable around a lot of people, I'm not good at parties.
 
SifuPhil said:
That's why I enjoy being on Facebook: whenever I feel that I'm missing out on life, I just go there and read a few of the posts.

I'm instantly re-energized and remember why I chose to live the way I do. The level of drama there ... the unnecessary complexity that people create for themselves ... it's just amazing. And that's just a mirror of the outside world - at least on Facebook you can just log-out.

Doing that in real life usually entails leaving a note and a messy clean-up.
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Oh, Facebook! ... Insane Asylum Online .. scatterbrains united...
 
I have fond memories of Dad when we had a party, when he had drunk a few he would take his teeth out and sing I'm Popeye the sailor man, that was quite out of character for him as he was usually a very quiet placid man.:bowknot:
 
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