Why I prefer these kinds of forums

BlunderWoman

BlunderWoman

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To each his own. Some people like facebook, but I like the anonymity a forum like this provides. Also I like the fact that it's all seniors here. I was on facebook for a while. I really hated it. I don't really like all my business in the street. Do I really want all my worlds to collide on one page? Hell no. Do I want an acquaintance I respect but do not know well to read what every far relative or relative by proxy is saying or doing? No. Do I want people I don't know well to keep seeing a relative I have that seems to have never grown up still doing nothing but partying almost every night and posting drunk cell phone photo after drunk cell phone photo at this bar and that bar? Nope. In my family we never discuss politics because it causes loud arguments and hurt feelings. I never posted about politics on my FB page. Then one relative I had stalked me to a website where I had posted something about politics and then quoted me and called me by my FULL freaking name and then said " Sharon ****** ! I never knew you were such a complete idiot ..blah blah blah." It was embarrassing because she announced she was my relative and said my full name. I was stunned. She had followed me all over to see where I was posting. WHAT THE HECK. I deleted my FB page that day. I felt sort of violated LOL. There are discussions I would like to have without every near and far relative in my family reading it. I also don't like all my worlds colliding :D


 

My husband doesn't even know what I post here unless I choose to show him.

I'm on the forum to talk about things that I don't talk to my family or friends about because either they aren't interested or because I don't want to risk alienating my nearest and dearest. I never drop the seventh veil anywhere but I drop different veils for different audiences. A girl has to maintain some mystery after all.
 
Facebook and an estranged girl...well I basically said " $%^# you too, have a nice life"...then again a crush from jr. high and he turned into the most handsome man:love_heart:
 

I love FB for different reasons. And I do post on politics there. I don't get into arguments on FB with my friends as they all know I am left wing, so they either say nothing if they don't agree or they have no interest in politics. The few who I know are right wing only post occasionally as just don't reply to each others posts.

BW, when I first got on FB in 2008 I thought all my friends could see all my other friends posts. They can't. They can only see what I posted and the replies of all my friends. So if a niece posts drunken party photos, only her friends see them including me and any friends we share.

I like this forum for conversations on many topics and the viewpoint of people in my generation.
 
Hi, Blunder woman. I've never considered facebook, but searched for friendly senior community forum to talk to people about things that interest or bother me. I'm also on such a forum in my country, but here, I can not only talk to friendly people from other cultures, but also learn about these cultures and customs, practise the language and widen my vocabulary range. I love being here.
 
Vedaarya said:
Hi, Blunder woman. I've never considered facebook, but searched for friendly senior community forum to talk to people about things that interest or bother me. I'm also on such a forum in my country, but here, I can not only talk to friendly people from other cultures, but also learn about these cultures and customs, practise the language and widen my vocabulary range. I love being here.
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Vedaarya, had you not mentioned it, I would never have guessed that English was not your mother tongue. Your English is excellent!

We're glad to have you here.
 
I've never been on Facebook or any other social media. I understand why it's important to some people, but for me the greater value is privacy.
 
bluebreezes said:
I've never been on Facebook or any other social media. I understand why it's important to some people, but for me the greater value is privacy.
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I'm not sure where people get he idea that having a FB page means you have to lay out all your personal information.. including your last mamo results and bra size. It is not mandatory. You can if you want to.. but you can do that here if you choose. FB is what you want it to be. You pick who can see your page. and you decide who you accept as friends. I love FB in that it has allowed me to reconnect with old friends and keep in touch with family. It's a valuable form of communication and it's with people I know in real life and have a real relationship with, as well as some new found friends from all over. No one knows my personal business, or knows anything I don't choose for them to know..
 
QuickSilver said:
I'm not sure where people get he idea that having a FB page means you have to lay out all your personal information.. including your last mamo results and bra size. It is not mandatory. You can if you want to.. but you can do that here if you choose. FB is what you want it to be. You pick who can see your page. and you decide who you accept as friends. I love FB in that it has allowed me to reconnect with old friends and keep in touch with family. It's a valuable form of communication and it's with people I know in real life and have a real relationship with, as well as some new found friends from all over. No one knows my personal business, or knows anything I don't choose for them to know..
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Well I must have been doing something wrong then because that person was able to see where I had commented on other websites. I also would get friend requests from some relatives I did not want to add but if I don't add them it's a whole big drama. Like- " My son said he requested being your friend on facebook and you didn't friend him. What's your problem with my son?"
I just did not like it for myself. Every single person in my family is on facebook even my father. I think I'm the only one that isn't on it. It's just a matter of preference for me. Lots of people are going to enjoy facebook. I'm just not one of them.
 
QuickSilver said:
I'm not sure where people get he idea that having a FB page means you have to lay out all your personal information.. including your last mamo results and bra size. It is not mandatory. You can if you want to.. but you can do that here if you choose. FB is what you want it to be. You pick who can see your page. and you decide who you accept as friends. I love FB in that it has allowed me to reconnect with old friends and keep in touch with family. It's a valuable form of communication and it's with people I know in real life and have a real relationship with, as well as some new found friends from all over. No one knows my personal business, or knows anything I don't choose for them to know..
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True. You can make it as open or private as you like. I've changed mine to where only my friends can see who my other friends are - not in a public search of my name.

I like FB for many reasons - I have friends and family in US, UK, Australia and Uganda. Best way to keep in touch.

BW, I don't know how anyone could find you on an anonymous forum through Facebook unless you shared your user name and the forum name on FB.
 
BlunderWoman said:
Well I must have been doing something wrong then because that person was able to see where I had commented on other websites. I also would get friend requests from some relatives I did not want to add but if I don't add them it's a whole big drama. Like- " My son said he requested being your friend on facebook and you didn't friend him. What's your problem with my son?"
I just did not like it for myself. Every single person in my family is on facebook even my father. I think I'm the only one that isn't on it. It's just a matter of preference for me. Lots of people are going to enjoy facebook. I'm just not one of them.
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I get feeds from certain democrat or liberal sites and some newspapers, etc. So if I comment on an article my friends can see that I did. I belong to some FB groups, some are open, some are closed (members only can see). Is this what your were referring to?
 
Ameriscot said:
True. You can make it as open or private as you like. I've changed mine to where only my friends can see who my other friends are - not in a public search of my name.

I like FB for many reasons - I have friends and family in US, UK, Australia and Uganda. Best way to keep in touch.

BW, I don't know how anyone could find you on an anonymous forum through Facebook unless you shared your user name and the forum name on FB.
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I don't know what I did wrong Anne. I think it somehow showed sites I was visiting or something. I can't remember.
 
Ameriscot said:
I get feeds from certain democrat or liberal sites and some newspapers, etc. So if I comment on an article my friends can see that I did. I belong to some FB groups, some are open, some are closed (members only can see). Is this what your were referring to?
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Maybe that's what happened. Yeah I saw something political & clicked on it . It took me to another site and I posted thinking no one on my page could read that, but they did.
 
BlunderWoman said:
Maybe that's what happened. Yeah I saw something political & clicked on it . It took me to another site and I posted thinking no one on my page could read that, but they did.
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It took me a while to figure that out as well. I see things on my FB feed and wonder why they are showing up, but then I see at the top above the article or site that one of my friends had liked it or commented on it.
 
Ameriscot said:
It took me a while to figure that out as well. I see things on my FB feed and wonder why they are showing up, but then I see at the top above the article or site that one of my friends had liked it or commented on it.
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Well the relative that saw the post I made is the most rabidly polar opposite of me politically and she ranted about that post for months hahahaha. Dear God if I had thought she could read it I never would have posted :p
 
It's not just the Facebook privacy settings, it's how Facebook uses your data that's the larger concern. It's a for-profit business and the way they make money is to selling marketing and advertising services to other businesses. I prefer this type of anonymous forum where our information isn't being mined.
 
Well, I like Facebook. I recently re-connected with a young lady that graduated from high school with me 50+ years ago. Surprisingly, she's still 17 years old! Go figure. If we didn't live 5,000 miles apart, I'd pay her visit.

I do have a few other "friends" I need to block because they post 2 or 3 or more recipes ever day.
 
I have mixed feelings about Facebook....I like being able to keep up with family and friends but I live in Red Red country and the ignorance is appalling. I am very careful what info I put on FB.
 
Hoot N Annie said:
Well, I like Facebook. I recently re-connected with a young lady that graduated from high school with me 50+ years ago. Surprisingly, she's still 17 years old! Go figure. If we didn't live 5,000 miles apart, I'd pay her visit.

I do have a few other "friends" I need to block because they post 2 or 3 or more recipes ever day.
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Annie, do you get tired of recipes too? I have several friends that post so many recipes daily. When they do, I click on "hide all posts from HealhtyRecipes" or what the page is. Then I don't see them from that page again.
 
bluebreezes said:
It's not just the Facebook privacy settings, it's how Facebook uses your data that's the larger concern. It's a for-profit business and the way they make money is to selling marketing and advertising services to other businesses. I prefer this type of anonymous forum where our information isn't being mined.
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I don't really mind that. I'm great at ignoring ads. But as I mentioned FB is the very best way for me to keep in touch with family and friends in 4 different countries. Doesn't work on an anonymous forum.
 
This forum kind of brings me back to the times before FB, when these places were the best way to communicate with others. I am still on FB, but do not post a lot. I stay on because of contact with family and to play some games that I am addicted to there.
 
I totally agree that the scope of this forum (or any discussion forum) would be an odd choice for staying in touch with family and friends. In fact, I think of our forum here as a sanctuary away from family and friends, and I'm not teling anyone I know about it because I don't want to share it. How's that for selfish? :playful:
 
bluebreezes said:
I totally agree that the scope of this forum (or any discussion forum) would be an odd choice for staying in touch with family and friends. In fact, I think of our forum here as a sanctuary away from family and friends, and I'm not teling anyone I know about it because I don't want to share it. How's that for selfish? :playful:
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I wouldn't tell anyone I know I'm on this forum either. I can say things here that I wouldn't say to family and friends (especially if I'm talking about them!). :p

We have these FB discussions here every couple of months, and quite a few say they have no use for it or desire to use it. I joined in 2008 while living in Uganda. Some say if they want to talk to someone they phone them or email them. Umm...phone Uganda, Australia, US? Email them? I have to email my sister who refuses to use FB. My favourite part of FB I think is sharing photos - I see photos of my grandkids, grandnieces and nephews in US, friends in Uganda, inlaws in Australia, latest funny videos of what 4 year old grandson up in northern Scotland has done. My family and friends enjoy seeing photos I post of us while on holidays in Thailand or elsewhere.
 
I've been criticized for not partaking in FB. I may not want to tell everybody my business. I may not want one person to know something or be afraid something could hurt someone's feelings. I think it is desensitizing people to expose themselves to having others know their personal business and thoughts. No thanks. I cannot be convinced otherwise.
 

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