What would you do?

debbie in seattle said:
I sent her a 'chatty' email and in the middle of it all, said it looked as if they were really busy during our visit and after talking it over, decided to postpone our visit to another time so that we could enjoy our time together when they weren't so busy. Haven't heard back. :hurt:
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Good for you! Sounds like you handled it perfectly!
 

debbie in seattle said:
I sent her a 'chatty' email and in the middle of it all, said it looked as if they were really busy during our visit and after talking it over, decided to postpone our visit to another time so that we could enjoy our time together when they weren't so busy. Haven't heard back. :hurt:
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Sounds good Debbie, you kept it real and pretty simple. She should reply and say that although she'd like to see you, that's a good idea....or she'll try to convince you to sit in her empty house and come to the hot dog fest with them. :rolleyes: Hopefully it's not the latter, if it is, stick to your guns because she's being selfish and inconsiderate in that case.
 
Sis responded.......she said for such a short visit with them, always thought it was stupid (yes, she said stupid) to drive such a distance. Her last sentence was "perhaps our paths will cross again someday." She doesn't get we were ONLY doing all this to visit HER. Sad.
 

I can't help but feel that you're more committed to your sister relationship than she is Debbie. Maybe it's time for you to transition to a different kind of relationship, cards, letters, emails, but save on the gas?
 
debbie in seattle said:
Sis responded.......she said for such a short visit with them, always thought it was stupid (yes, she said stupid) to drive such a distance. Her last sentence was "perhaps our paths will cross again someday." She doesn't get we were ONLY doing all this to visit HER. Sad.
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Well at least she didn't insist on your coming so that's good. I'm sorry this visit didn't blossom Debbie, but I have to agree with Debby, it looks like you're more dedicated to nourishing the relationship than she is. It sounds more than like she doesn't care either way, but that she might even prefer the cancellation of plans. Hugs...don't think about it too much, just cherish the time with your daughter and have fun.
 
SeaBreeze said:
Well at least she didn't insist on your coming so that's good. I'm sorry this visit didn't blossom Debbie, but I have to agree with Debby, it looks like you're more dedicated to nourishing the relationship than she is. It sounds more than like she doesn't care either way, but that she might even prefer the cancellation of plans. Hugs...don't think about it too much, just cherish the time with your daughter and have fun.
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Qft.
 
I think what you told her was fine. She sounds a little rude to me. Does she ever visit you? Can you invite her to your place or can you and she meet up somewhere for a few days together? Its sad it's like this but she needs to put forth some effort too.
 
Nitelite hit the nail on the head ! That's exactly what I would have said;

Instead of all this dilly-dallying around.
 

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