How many of the seniors here have one really good true friend they trust and depend on?

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I was wondering how many people here have one really true friend who they can trust with a secret or to get advice. Someone they enjoy spending time with and can be completely honest with. Someone who they can go to when they need support or help with something or getting somewhere. Someone who has a loving listening ear to share your problem with. I had a best friend when I was young but we soon parted when we became involved with boyfriends or got married. Since then I've had a few friends who were either neighbors or coworkers but none I felt completely comfortable with and trusting. Does anyone here have a friend now who is a great companion and confidante? I have a good man now who is my partner and I love very much, but I don't really have any true friends outside of my relationship and I wonder if I ever will again
 

I have a good friend I've known since high school. I would trust her with my life. Unfortunately she is going through a very tough time right now. I try to be the true friend to her as she was for me all these years.
 
You're lucky Ruth and very blessed and so is she :love_heart:
 

Up to my 30's, I had friends that were my "soul mates" but then we moved away and over the years we drifted apart. I still see them occasionally, but I wouldn't say I'd bare my soul to them. I have lots of what I'd call "good" friends now, but they're not "soul mates" like I used to have.

I'd have to say that my sisters have taken the place of my best friends. I would gladly have given them away to the next band of gypsies passing through when we were kids, but I sure treasure them now. There is no one else who "knows where I'm coming from...."
 
I am fortunate that I have a very dear friend from when I was only 6yrs old, and believe me that was a very long time ago. I also have a Sister that I love with all my Heart. I am Blessed.
 
Other than my 2 wives, I've never had a friend like that. Now that I'm alone I rather doubt I'll ever have one. And I'm okay with that.
 
Nope.

I was lucky enough to have two, they both died a few years ago and I don't see another person like that in my future. My mother and grandmother both believed that people come into your life when you need them the most, we'll see.
 
My closest "non-relative" friend of almost 70 years passed away last year. But, I have the wife, a great Sister, and 2 daughters and Son-in-laws that I would trust to handle almost anything that might come up.
 
I have none. I just ended the friendship with the last friend I had by e mail, telling her I didn't believe we were friends anymore. That was that. I always knew I would end the friendship. Too many deadbeats in my background. I prefer to now dump people before they dump me. I did know her for 20 years. I don't believe in friendship anymore.
 
Have you had a close companion or friend that you could tell everything to, in the past Lon? Because if I didn't have my husband and my two girls, I would have to say that I've never had a friend of that sort either. I think I have the potential to be the crazy cat lady who lives down the lane behind high walls:playful:!
 
I've been lucky to always have one very close friend, except for a brief period when I first left home. They have all been really great people, too. All with a positive attitude, and all had a positive influence on my life. Hope I had the same on them.
 
I'm very thankful for having some true and honest friends:love_heart: What should I've done without them,being totally disordered when I've got widowed(2010)and losing our eldest son,3 months before?
My friends helped me,to find to myself again.
 
Of my oldest friends one goes back to the 9th grade, the other to about 1967.
They're good friends but I wouldn't feel comfortable leaning on them in troubled times.

My wife and my son are the two people I would know I can count on if I need them.
There's also my friend Joyce who I've known since the late 70's.

She, my wife, and I, are close.
She's a wonderful friend.

I could count on her as a friend through thick and thin.
 
I do not have a friend that I would trust with my life or any really personal information. I have put up fences or boundaries all my life. I have never let any one person get that close to me. I am not paranoid, or at least I don't think that I am, but I just prefer to keep my feelings and any personal things going on in my life to myself. If I have a real need to discuss anything that's going on in my life and that I consider to be of a personal nature, I have a therapist for that.

This is why I don't mind posting on forums. I can lay out my problems or issues to people that don't know me. Like any other forum, I can remain nameless and faceless. That was never the case when I worked. Anyone that mentioned my name to another person, at least most of my associates have heard of me. I was pretty high up on the seniority list and with being a training pilot, I met a lot of people within my company. When I left United, we had over 12,000 pilots employed. It was always kind of strange to me how some people will get to know me just from spending time with me and then start sharing issues that are going on in their life. I think sometimes that people need to talk about their problems, so they can feel better emotionally.
 
oldman said:
I do not have a friend that I would trust with my life or any really personal information. I have put up fences or boundaries all my life. I have never let any one person get that close to me. I am not paranoid, or at least I don't think that I am, but I just prefer to keep my feelings and any personal things going on in my life to myself. If I have a real need to discuss anything that's going on in my life and that I consider to be of a personal nature, I have a therapist for that.

This is why I don't mind posting on forums. I can lay out my problems or issues to people that don't know me. Like any other forum, I can remain nameless and faceless. That was never the case when I worked. Anyone that mentioned my name to another person, at least most of my associates have heard of me. I was pretty high up on the seniority list and with being a training pilot, I met a lot of people within my company. When I left United, we had over 12,000 pilots employed. It was always kind of strange to me how some people will get to know me just from spending time with me and then start sharing issues that are going on in their life. I think sometimes that people need to talk about their problems, so they can feel better emotionally.
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I think there are lots of people like you oldman. Very private, not inclined to share. I'm also like that although in my case, I think it comes from having a mother who always 'got it wrong' when I did talk about how I was feeling about what was going on in my life and too often thought it was an attack on her as a mother/woman/wife.....so you get used to just keeping your mouth shut or talking about safe things, like the weather! And then it becomes a habit. There's lots that I don't even share with my husband. Not that he isn't a great and understanding guy who is very considerate of my feelings, but I just can't bring myself to really open up.
 
I have a really good friend who I've considered my BFF for 40 years. I would trust her with my money and my life. But I don't "depend on her" other than when I need an "ear" because she's moved far away from me.
 

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