Age difference in relationships

Leah

Leah

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My husband and I have a gap in our ages . I am 58 he is 47 but we do have alot in common and enjoy our time together but I do worry that as I age that he will see me differently hopefully that want happen.What are y'all thoughts on being​ with someone older are younger then you ..Leah
 

My husband's only a couple of years older than me, and we've been together over 40 years. Even though we're close in age, I don't see any problem with larger age gaps. If the love is there, nothing else should matter. Young men or women who use an older person for financial gain under the guise of a 'relationship' is another thing, that I'm completely against.
 
Totally agree

SeaBreeze said:
My husband's only a couple of years older than me, and we've been together over 40 years. Even though we're close in age, I don't see any problem with larger age gaps. If the love is there, nothing else should matter. Young men or women who use an older person for financial gain under the guise of a 'relationship' is another thing, that I'm completely against.
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About the money for gain weither it be a man are women doing it it's completely wrong and in the end a false relationship..Leah
 

I agree Leah, those are usually looking for a 'sugar daddy' or 'sugar momma' to take advantage of while they have a real love relationship with someone else on the side.
 
So true

SeaBreeze said:
I agree Leah, those are usually looking for a 'sugar daddy' or 'sugar momma' to take advantage of while they have a real love relationship with someone else on the side.
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I hate seeing people being used for other people gain and usually they pick people that are already going through hard times within themselves it's hard to see .Leah
 
Leah said:
My husband and I have a gap in our ages . I am 58 he is 47 but we do have alot in common and enjoy our time together but I do worry that as I age that he will see me differently hopefully that want happen.What are y'all thoughts on being​ with someone older are younger then you ..Leah
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Leah, I feel that if you really love someone, the age difference doesn't matter. My husband was 9 years older than me and we were married for 41 years when he passed away 4 years ago from cancer. For those 41 years we had a good marriage and enjoyed each other very much! He loved me and I loved him and if I had been the one who had gotten sick, he would have been by my side through the whole ordeal. If your husband truly loves you now, he will be at your side and love you regardless of your age, etc. then.
 
AprilSun said:
Leah, I feel that if you really love someone, the age difference doesn't matter. My husband was 9 years older than me and we were married for 41 years when he passed away 4 years ago from cancer. For those 41 years we had a good marriage and enjoyed each other very much! If your husband truly loves you now, he will be at your side regardless of your age, etc. then.
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Thank you yes I feel the same way.leah
 
Leah said:
My husband and I have a gap in our ages . I am 58 he is 47 but we do have alot in common and enjoy our time together but I do worry that as I age that he will see me differently hopefully that want happen.What are y'all thoughts on being​ with someone older are younger then you ..Leah
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My daughter and her[recently ex'd] husband were 14 years apart, he being the oldest. Step-kid issues, plus differences in social preferences were too much to overcome, sadly.
 
Age makes no difference if you love someone. There is only 4 years difference between us but since I look 10 or 12 years younger than he does --- I know age doesn't matter. :) :)
 
tnthomas said:
My daughter and her[recently ex'd] husband were 14 years apart, he being the oldest. Step-kid issues, plus differences in social preferences were too much to overcome, sadly.
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I am sorry to hear that.leah
 
Iodine said:
Age makes no difference if you love someone. There is only 4 years difference between us but since I look 10 or 12 years younger than he does --- I know age doesn't matter. :) :)
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I agree we get along great together and let each other be whom they are meant to be.leah
 
My fiancé is seven years younger than I. He told me if I were 10+ years older it wouldn't matter, I am his soulmate, love of his life. We met on this forum. He was a Taoist monk. Not anymore! He is an American

scholar/warrior/martial arts master, and I am a Canadian psychologist. He leans toward libertarianism, and I lean towards socialism. We love each other, and it works.
 
Shalimar said:
My fiancé is seven years younger than I. He told me if I were 10+ years older it wouldn't matter, I am his soulmate, love of his life. We met on this forum. He was a Taoist monk. Not anymore! He is an American

scholar/warrior/martial arts master, and I am a Canadian psychologist. He leans toward libertarianism, and I lean towards socialism. We love each other, and it works.
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That's wonderful happy to hear you are both happy.leah
 
My husband is seven years older than me also. This has never been a problem nor have I given it a second thought. We have been married for 47 years. Now that he is older, we don't walk as much as we use to. He had a hip replacement a few years back and walking distances still bother him and he tires more easily than a few years ago. I miss this but there are still so many other things we still enjoy. I have absolutely no regrets. Well, he can get a bit cranky but so do I.
 
My late husband and I had a 27 years difference in age which stirred up all kinds of gossip. Of course, we didn't pay any attention to it.
 
When I was in my mid thirties my boyfriend at that time was 5 years younger than me but that didn't make much of a difference because I actually had a "younger mind" than he did. My current husband is only a year and a half older than I am. If I were still out there dating, I'd probably keep those same dynamics...up to 5 years younger and no more than 2 years older, unless the gentleman had a very young, vibrant attitude.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
When I was in my mid thirties my boyfriend at that time was 5 years younger than me but that didn't make much of a difference because I actually had a "younger mind" than he did. My current husband is only a year and a half older than I am. If I were still out there dating, I'd probably keep those same dynamics...up to 5 years younger and no more than 2 years older, unless the gentleman had a very young, vibrant attitude.[/QMy husband and I live young at heart always will and are very happy in our lives together..Leah
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Ruthanne said:
My late husband and I had a 27 years difference in age which stirred up all kinds of gossip. Of course, we didn't pay any attention to it.
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It's all about attitude and how your perspective are with each other so far we are doing great together planning a hiking trip together soon .Leah
 
My wife of 37 years is 16 years my junior. Nature and nurture have given me compensating factors in the relationship so we manage well. We both hope we remain equally alive and kick off close together. I'm Pisces, she's Virgo...the only working opposites in the Zodiac. She's always been wiser than her years and I'm hopelessly immature...it serves us both well.
 
This old man tells his wife that he's going to trade her for two twenty year olds.... The wife says "honey, you ain't wired for 220"

and that's my opinion
 
Anomaly 73 said:
My wife of 37 years is 16 years my junior. Nature and nurture have given me compensating factors in the relationship so we manage well. We both hope we remain equally alive and kick off close together. I'm Pisces, she's Virgo...the only working opposites in the Zodiac. She's always been wiser than her years and I'm hopelessly immature...it serves us both well.
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Wonderful sounds like life is good with you both .Leah
 

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