Little Kids Make Me Nervous

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debodun

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I was an only child and never married or had kids of my own. Now when I'm in a situation where there are small children (like 10 yeas and under), I find myself agitated - they make a lot of noise and run around. Now I wouldn't hurt a child - I'm just saying that I'm so used to peace and quiet, a lot of active around kids can be upsetting to me. I don't know how parents and grandparents can take it.
 

I can understand you. I am kind of the same way. My older niece and nephew are near my age (my nephew is 6 years younger) so we grew up more like siblings. No grandkids. I can tolerate kids, but not sure I could take care of them or anything. That being said, I seem to be the only of the older folks in the neighborhood who tolerate the kids who play outside. I think I am just impressed that they ARE outside riding bikes, or playing ball than sitting inside glued to technology. I even earned their favor by showing interest in their new Hoverboards.
 
The only thing that worries me about small children is the tend to run around unsupervised in supermarkets ,and I can't tell you how many times I've almost been knocked over by small children running amok with a mini size shopping trolley.

Now days I try avoid the supermarkets that have the child size trolleys ,I'm 71 and don't want to be injured by or knocked over by unsupervised children
 

I'm so surprised that stores permit those mini size carts. That's a law suit just waiting to happen. Come on. Jimmy is going to throw his kid brother in it and run around the store. And either crash into some display with heavy products falling on the kids. Or the kids will ram into 86 year old Martha, who then has a broken hip. Doesn't anybody know they are KIDS and that's what KIDS do?
 
Little kids don't make me nervous, they aggravate the heck out of me. I came from the seen but not heard generation. What makes me nervous are my Grand kids. I'm always afraid they will get hurt or run out in the street,drown while we go swimming or be kidnapped. I really don't enjoy baby sitting them for those reasons. I know I wasn't like that with my own. I think it's because I'm not around them enough to know what they are capable of doing or not doing. By the time my daughter comes to pick them up I'm a basket case and the poor kids are glad to escape Grandma's iron grip.
 
It's not the kids that bother me it's the parents, LOL!!!

I remember the little lectures that our parents and grandparents gave us before we got out of the car when we went anywhere and also the look if we started to drift into dangerous territory.
 
What really drives me nuts is kids screaming or throwing a tantrum in a store, while mom stands idly by. My mom would have jerked me out of that store so fast it would make my head swim, and next time I wouldn't have been allowed to go. If we wouldn't behave in a place, we were not allowed to go there.

The same thing pertains to children running amok in a store, which endangers other shoppers. I don't understand why parents allow this kind of behavior. Don't understand why stores put up with it, either, because they could be in for big liability if said kid pulls down a display of canned goods and injures other shoppers or said kid crashes into someone and causes them to get injured. People love to sue stores for that kind of thing,
 
I enjoy being with kids, find them a lot easier than adults. lol I used to work in a schools and nurseries (classroom assistant/nursery nurse) and at first the noise was deafening but after a week or so it just washed over my head and I became immune to it.

I'm just waiting on my grandson arriving and then we're off out for the day. Going to a nature reserve to do a fair bit of walking and some bird spotting.
 
We don't like other people's children and absolutely hate a great many. In the case of our own kids they were brought up with strict and clearly defined rules and consistent consequences if they stepped out of line. We had the usual "I'm leaving home" stuff but ignored it.

Our grandkids are also being brought up with the same clear rules and consequences and by all accounts the occasional complaints that they are not allowed to do what most of their friends do which are totally ignored and it's paying dividends.

Have to say that our "snooty" dil and her lot don't like it and TRY to interfere but our son is having none of it.

The result is that our grandkids don't run around like most other brats do when in shops not do they behave like little animals.

We decided from before our first (of two) was born that when it came to Spock and his book on kids the best use for it was to throw at kids when they step out of line.

In summary both of us intensely dislike other peoples kids.
 
I enjoy the heck out of being around young kids when they behave. It is special to see and even participate in them seeing and realizing "wondrous" things for the first time... there is nothing else like it.
 
Kadee46 said:
The only thing that worries me about small children is the tend to run around unsupervised in supermarkets ,and I can't tell you how many times I've almost been knocked over by small children running amok with a mini size shopping trolley.

Now days I try avoid the supermarkets that have the child size trolleys ,I'm 71 and don't want to be injured by or knocked over by unsupervised children
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The wife and I went to a cafeteria style restaurant where you serve yourself. Kids could be seen running along the line touching and picking at the food!! We left!!! th.jpg
 
Damn,What a bunch of dicks you folks are. I love wild uninhibited kids running wild screaming their lungs out. Nothing makes my day more than when we have our grands,and associated cousins and such staying over. Many many is the weekend that the Missus and I have 7 or 8 kids under the age of ten staying with us.
Granted, we have no vested interest in their final outcomes,but we truly believe that children NEED to have time together in the most unrestrictive environment possible grow as humans.
They build forts,castles,play good guy badguy and a thousand other ideas that they concoct with their unbridled imagination.

Nothing is sweeter to see all their exhausted smiling faces sitting in a bath tub at the end of the day. To try and make our laps big enough to hold all the tiny little people that are clamoring for cuddles from NaNa and Poppy.

Children are most definatly the sunshine in our lives, and I hope to be granted enough time to enjoy their children.
 
Very good, but what about people who DON'T like rambunctious screeching kids? Why should we have to subjected to the noise and tearing around? If it's at a child orientated place then within limits that's obviously fine but if somewhere that is intended for the general public then IMO it is absolutely NOT fine.

I just wish that aircraft had child free zones and that supermarkets had child free days.
 
I agree with Robusta. The wife and I love to be around our little Great Grandkids. Our oldest Great Granddaughter, now 10, stays with us for a few days during school breaks, and we have her for a week or so every Summer. The house becomes an mess with toys scattered around, but it sure is nice having her around. As the other 3 get older, we hope to have them here as well. When the granddaughters were growing up, we watched them regularly, and they added a lot to our lives.
Perhaps we live in a different area, as we seldom see rowdy kids running loose around our stores...the parents usually keep a close watch on their little ones. Sometimes, a baby is crying loudly in a shopping cart, but then, that's what little kids do. I feel a bit sorry for a mother trying to do some grocery shopping with 2 or 3 small kids...her nerves must get pretty frazzled trying to shop and watch the kids at the same time.

Bottom line...little kids are some of life's most pleasant joys. What saddens me is when I see a news report of about someone abusing them.
 
Kids are going to be kids. By their nature they are loud and energetic. When you are 8, you don't have a PHD in manners. One the other hand, kids do know when they have stepped over the line. Parents should be able to control their kids in public, so they aren't a nuisance.
 
I think most parents these days are too lazy to discipline heir kids. Just easier to let them do what they want. I've seem parents trying to control their kids in public, usually to no avail.
 
I dunno. I met this woman with a bunch of small kids. One kid, maybe 3-4 at the most, held out his hand and said, "It's nice meeting you, Sir". Hell, I'm 30/40 times older than that kid and I'm not that socially adept. His mom deserves all the credit.
 
I have an eight year old great grandaughter who is autistic.
There are times when my grandaughter finds it very difficult to take her daughter anywhere because she just never know how she may re-act and at the same time my grandaughter know and understand she cannot shut the child away.
It can be very upsetting at times when they are shopping and my great grandaughter has a melt down and customers walk on by tutting or give my grandaughter a black look as if the child is just very naughty and my grandaughter has no control over her………….any number of things can cause these melt downs and one of the well known ones is sensitivity to bright light or loud noises……..so please people if you see a child and parent in this position, do not assume the child is being very naughty or the parent has no control……..just stop and think………….just saying.
 
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I love seeing well behaved children. I think one of the most delightful sounds is a child's laughter. However, I don't like it when children are allowed to run amok and do whatever they want while their parents walk around oblivious, something that's all too common these days. Best one can do is try to go shopping when not too many children will be around and avoid places where a lot of them will be.
 
aeron said:
Very good, but what about people who DON'T like rambunctious screeching kids? Why should we have to subjected to the noise and tearing around? If it's at a child orientated place then within limits that's obviously fine but if somewhere that is intended for the general public then IMO it is absolutely NOT fine.

I just wish that aircraft had child free zones and that supermarkets had child free days.
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What about people who don't like obnoxious adults? Why should we have to be subjected to the whining and complaining and general obnoxious-ness of certain adults? I wish this board had obnoxious-adult-free zones and/or obnoxious-adult-free zones. I do try to stay out of the politics forum but, darn, some of them insist on going everywhere......
 
:lol: May I point out that each of us was a child once and we lived in a different dimension to the adults around us. What we see as a supermarket aisle kids may see as an adventure park or a race track. However, most of the time the two dimensions are not incompatible.

I find children can be difficult to control but are easy to distract. I just start talking to them and draw their attention towards something less annoying. A comment on their great shoes that light up when they walk or asking them their name etc can be a circuit breaker. The funny thing is that sometimes when you break into their world they run and hide behind their mothers and the problem is solved.
 
aeron said:
Very good, but what about people who DON'T like rambunctious screeching kids? Why should we have to subjected to the noise and tearing around? If it's at a child orientated place then within limits that's obviously fine but if somewhere that is intended for the general public then IMO it is absolutely NOT fine.

I just wish that aircraft had child free zones and that supermarkets had child free days.
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I don't see that very often. Sure there is the occaisional public brat, but I can go to a store or to eat a hundred times and not see display such as described. Maybe it has to do with prevailing values where you live.
 
jujube said:
What about people who don't like obnoxious adults? Why should we have to be subjected to the whining and complaining and general obnoxious-ness of certain adults? I wish this board had obnoxious-adult-free zones and/or obnoxious-adult-free zones. I do try to stay out of the politics forum but, darn, some of them insist on going everywhere......
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