Adopted Children Seeking Out Their Birth Parents, Good or Bad Idea?

What wonderful and moving surprise! I hope you get to meet the baby before too long, Iodine!

My high school friend gave her illegitimate baby son up for adoption when he was born. Early last year, the adoption agency wrote to her and asked permission for him to contact her about his medical background. She agreed and got a written request from him with a nice note saying he had a happy life, that he held no resentment against her but wasn't looking for a relationship.

One day last summer, just a few weeks after my friend died, another letter came from him saying he changed his mind and actually did want very much to meet her. But he was too late.

All this while, each was afraid to be rejected by, or cause trouble for the other.

Since then, he has met his brother and sister by her; full blood, as she did eventually marry the father.
 

What a moving story Radish Rose. I kind of wish your friend had met him before she passed on but I guess things happen the way they are meant to. I'm glad he's met his brother and sister. Has he met his dad?
 
My Niece adopted a baby almost 21 yrs ago.She told him from when he was old enough to understand that if he ever wanted to know anything about his biological parents she wouldn't be hurt and she would give him all the info. He said he didn't have any interest in knowing anything about them and that she is his Mother. Then a friend I knew for years had adopted 2 children. A boy and a girl. She asked both of them if they wanted to know about their biological parents and they both said no. Then when her daughter was getting married my friend saw her looking in the mirror and crying. My friend thought that maybe her daughter was thinking about her Mother. Her daughter saw her and said "Gee Mom when I looked in the mirror it made me cry because I never realized how much I look like you,and it really touched my heart.Until this day my friend still beams with joy about that day. I think every child has a right to know if they want to know.
 

Beautiful grandaughters Oldman ,where would they be if it wasn’t for your son and DIL adopting them ?

I knew a lady in the town where I grew up,who had a child every year and they were adopted out from memory she had 13 children including one to my ex who I was with at the time ( I him divorced in 1971)
She was commonly referred to as the town bike ...not my words ...I still remember her name
 
Sort of a post scrip to my post of a few months ago. Dec 1 we became great grandparents to boy/girl twins and we wouldn't have known about them or their 3 year old brother if our oldest grandson hadn't looked for his real dad.
 
I wasn't adopted. But, at times, I'm sure my parents would have liked to adopt me out. And, at times, I would have eagerly agreed with adoption. I did ask a girl to the prom, who was adopted. She and her brother were adopted. Both were open about being adopted. I thought being adopted was cool, you know you were wanted. But I wan't sure why the two were so insistent that everybody know about the adoption?
 

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