I didn't want to hijack the friends thread

rkunsaw

rkunsaw

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But it got me thinking. I worked in a large factory with people of both sexes and all races.

One thing I noticed in later years was the difference in races. Maybe because of the natural tendency of being more outgoing or whatever, but this old white man found when talking to a complete stranger for the first time that black women were much easier to talk to than any others of either sex.

Have anyone else noticed a difference like this that is race related?

BTW are there any black people on this forum?
 
In my working life, I did find that Asian women were often the most difficult to talk to...a cultural thing I think.
 
Vivjen said:
In my working life, I did find that Asian women were often the most difficult to talk to...a cultural thing I think.
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The corner shop by me is owned by an Asian couple and if I go in when the wife is working, I can't away because she wants to talk that much.:D
 
Yes Jen, I've found that Asians of both genders are little more reticent at first, but quickly adjust to 'normal'. Cultural diffs that's all, they probably think we're very rude talking to strangers so familiarly as we tend to. We see it as a friendly gesture but other cultures don't. They're raised to be a little more suspicious of strangers perhaps. Cultural rather than race though. And yes, Asian women take longer to open up in strange company but again, that's just the way they were raised. I found Eastern Asian women much easier to talk to than Indian women although Indian men were easier to talk to than East Asian men. Purely cultural.
added: Moslem women were 'one of the girls' in no time but never could get along with Moslem men. Wonder why?

Can't help you there Rky, not the same culture of black women here, different race too, and haven't had much contact with many but have had a great chat and laugh with one in a supermarket who was an utter stranger and who I never saw again so they aren't all as shy, or as rude, as we sometimes think. Others I've known casually were same as everyone else. But they are only a small proportion of a wide range of attitudes so hard to judge.
But, again, a very different race and culture.
 
I worked all my life, lived and went to school with a mixture of races, mostly black or Hispanic. I've haven't found one race or sex to be friendlier or easier to talk to, just depends on the individual.
 
When I lived in Texas, one of my very best friends was black..we socialized heavily for 13 years. When we moved 3 1/2 years ago she dropped me like a hot potato..still don't know what that's about, except that I know she was very upset about us leaving..A couple of years ago when a tornado touched down very close to her neighborhood, I sent one of my other friend that she also knew wellto go check on her. She wouldn't answer the door...

Merci L. used to post here, as far as I could tell she was black...I'm not sure the term "black" is PC anymore, so no offense intended. Just not a PC person.

As far as the original question, my personal friends are pretty much divided between M &F. I love female companionship as long as they are strong (mentally), independent women, without a lot of kid baggage.. I like men friends to balance me out with a different perspective, and they are less emotional, like Di said.
 
I, blue-eyed blond whitey, "click" with black women a lot. Don't know the answer but have often enjoyed the easy and friendly connection.
 
Living in Sydney I'm a lot more "colour blind" than I used to be.
I have no trouble chatting with anyone I happen to find myself sitting next to in any setting.
Most are happy to talk but I agree with Di. For some Moslem men there is a taboo about talking to strange women although being a grannie does allow some to respond me without feeling guilty. It all depends how long they have lived in and experienced Australian culture.

I find that in general, most new migrants are relieved to see a friendly face. Many are very frightened of rejection and of making some cultural blunder. Once they relax they are more likely to attempt conversation.

I realise that I'm talking cultural rather than racial differences but I think culture is stronger than skin colour.
As far as I am concerned someone may have a Chinese face, but if he talks with an Australian accent, he's an Aussie and we have much in common. A lot more than I would have with an American of any hue.
 
I find it difficult to talk to hispanics whose english is bad. They don't understand and I don't understand what's being said.

I also have trouble talking to people from the UK sometimes.
 
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