don't want a date, want a job:(

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Denise1952

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2nd day in a row I am really down, yuck. I put an ad up (personal) because I thought I would be happier if I met a guy to date. Well, for 18 years I've been alone with only a few dates, and I set up one (3rd date in about 2 months) for today with a nice enough guy, just not even a hint of a spark, so I cancelled it about a minute ago.

I just want a job, my dating, and mating days are over, I think I need to except that. Does anyone else that is single/divorced/widowed feel the way I do? The other thing is that "spark", should I expect that at my age or not? (I'm 61 now for those that don't know me yet, kinda new here still) I'm horrible depressed, crying, and just not willing to do anything today. I can't believe I'm even posting but maybe someone will say something that helps. I know I need to be busy, but I am lousy at finding things to do, or am willing to do when stuck at home. Some folks are busy cleaning, crafting, yackin on the phone or internet, and some days, I just can't get busy:(

I know some of you will want to just come over and slap me. Probably sick of hearing people's sad stories and people like me feeling sorry for myself. Well I don't blame you, there's times I don't want to hear peoples sad stories either. Yuck, I think I'll slap myself
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It could be worse - this was who showed up at my door the last time I tried online dating:

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The really BAD part was that she had a wonderful personality. ;)

I'm totally involved in my work these days - unless Sofia Vergara answered my dating profile I don't think I'll be going anywhere. I'm still burned out from my 20's. :rolleyes:

Hang in there, kid - it'll happen.
 
omygosh Phil, LOL, you must have feeling for that gal though since I've seen her pic twice now on these forums, are you sure there isn't a spark and you're in denial, LOL!!
 
you know honestly folks, it isn't a "looks" thing, really it's not, that spark is all about how someone is, what they say, how they act, are they fun, boring or what. I'm really not a shallow person, I was early on, teens etc.
 
nwlady said:
omygosh Phil, LOL, you must have feeling for that gal though since I've seen her pic twice now on these forums, are you sure there isn't a spark and you're in denial, LOL!!
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Well, since we met she got into the South Beach Diet -

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... but our schedules are still too different: she's working at the Penguin Rescue shelter in town during the day, and I've gone back to work with the Chippendales at night, so we rarely see each other.
 
dang you Phil, I'm fresh outa clean undies, and yep, you guessed it, need a pair after reading your dang replies, LOLLLLLLLLL!!
 
SifuPhil said:
Well, I always find that doing housework takes my mind off my troubles.

Later I'm going to clean the litterbox with a toothbrush and the floor-tiles with a Q-Tip.

Gotta' love that OCD. :p
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Oh gosh, that sounds really enticing, think I may try some of that too;) Get out my magnifying glass:magnify:
 
Hey Denise...stop this! No spark; no go.
of course you are entitled to a spark at 61; tell the rest to go jump!
don't look too hard......and talk to Ceecee and I.....
 
Vivjen said:
Hey Denise...stop this! No spark; no go.
of course you are entitled to a spark at 61; tell the rest to go jump!
don't look too hard......and talk to Ceecee and I.....
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Thanks Viv, so sparks aren't just for the younger years? I just don't want sparks for some bad-ass either, my picker was broke, I'd like to think it's fixed now, but can't be sure unless I try it out sometime. Well, truth is, I am not happy out of work, as I mentioned. I am not too sure I would want a fella if I had my own act together. I do suspect I would still want someone to share my life with though. hugs, Denise
 
One of the reasons I joined this forum was because I was lonely, bored, and miserable.

Ceecee joined at the same time; so we tend to veer off into our own conversations....you are welcome to join; you are not alone; and if you look at some of our miserable posts?......well!
 
LOL, yeah, well, it's always nice to know folks understand and just don't give you hell for being down once in awhile:) I know it's a choice, I mean unless I guess if there is a medical reason. A choice to be happy and content with what I have. Sometimes to be honest, I am not willing to try, I choose to be down. Hard to stay that way when I get to talk to you all though:) I feel about 100% better than I did whenever I posted this topic, thanks to all of you, and that ain't a bad deal:) Denise
 
LOL, yeah, pretty bad when we smell others that we must smell like, LOL! I sware I never thought I'd be old (er) LOL! I know there is happiness to be had/found, I won't give up, and I never stay down too long. Sometimes I just feel better after I read my own sorry-ass post, LOL!! I start laughing, do you ever do that, you'll be bawlin your eyes out and just start laughin instead, LOL, that's me for sure:)
 
Makes me want to take a short fuse on my next, date, just to make sure of some fireworks! Yeah right, and I'm expecting some nice guy to want to take me outpants-on-fire.jpg
 
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