Do You Have A Friend Of The Opposite Sex

Mizzkitt

Mizzkitt

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Is it possible to keep an opposite sex friendship completely platonic?

Thoughts?
 

Yes. I have enjoyed over 15 years with a lady. Another 8 years with another,
 

I have had a man friend for 30 years. Friends with his wife also. I knew him a long time before they married. We have never crossed the line and enjoy being friends.
 
I used to think platonic friendship between the sexes was impossible as all the men I met we’re looking to be a lot more friendly than me !

However, I now have a dear male friend, we meet about once a week for coffee and a chat which suits me fine, I know if I needed help I could turn to him as he could me, and I enjoy his company very much
 
Most people wrongly assume that if one half of a couple has a friend of the opposite sex then there has to be hanky panky going on. Seems people think that only couples can be friends with other couples.
 
I had a male co-worker who I became close to. He retired a few months before me. In a job with many younger workers, it was nice to have a friend of a closer age. We do not see each other much now, but share occasional emails.
 
Only as pen pals, had one male penpal for 12 years. In person it has never worked, either he wants more or I want more. I found men actually got offended when I asked them to be just friends.
 
PVC said:
Only as pen pals, had one male penpal for 12 years. In person it has never worked, either he wants more or I want more. I found men actually got offended when I asked them to be just friends.
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PVC....That's a long friendship. Just curious, I am assuming you start out with email and progress to skype??? I know of one lady that started out with an online long distance and different country friendship.She was from Ontario and he was from Texas. It progressed over time and they eventually married.
 
Mizzkitt, we met in a forum, he liked my personality and asked me to penpal. I told him I had no interest in meeting or relationship, he told me he was happily married, and we continued writing. I read that penpal friendships only last an average of five years, so we had a good run. No skype, just emails.
 
PVC ....That's nice, I was curious as I did also have a male online friend. But in my case when he got married his wife put a stop to it. A shame actually, we could have all been friends.
 
I was rarely successful at being just friends with women. Almost inevitably, one, or the other, came on physically. I know other male/female couples who are just friends, without benefits (or so I'm told), but that never worked, for me, except, with a few co-workers.
 
treeguy64 said:
I was rarely successful at being just friends with women. Almost inevitably, one, or the other, came on physically. I know other male/female couples who are just friends, without benefits (or so I'm told), but that never worked, for me, except, with a few co-workers.
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Would it work for you if the woman were gay? I think I could have an in-person male friend if he were homosexual (not bisexual). Then I would not be attracted to him and he would not be attracted to me (unlike a female gay who might try, it has happened to me). And I believe that a male gay friend would be more honest with me about my faults and mistakes than a female friend might. But, unfortunately, I never found one of those.
 
I had a few gay, female friends, including a co-worker. There were never any attraction issues. I felt the op was asking about having friends of the opposite sex who were straight. Maybe I took the initial post incorrectly, although I don't consider gay women to be the "opposite sex."
 
Yep. I met her when I was 10 years old. She's a very pretty blonde (natural), or was at one time. Now, she is about 70%-30% with the 70% being still blonde. If it's natural or not, I have no idea and I'm not about to ask. We have been friends since that time and she lives in Ohio, some 325 miles from me, so we keep in touch via e-mail, how else? My wife doesn't really seem to mind and seems to understand our relationship. I show her all of the e-mails that come from her and my wife also has access to all of my e-mail accounts and she also has my pass code for my iPhone.
 
treeguy64 said:
. Maybe I took the initial post incorrectly, although I don't consider gay women to be the "opposite sex."
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Good grief Treeguy, what are they if not the opposite sex. They are gay women. But if you are talking transgender going from woman to man then I suppose we are talking opposite sex at that point.
 
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