Children ‘Screaming’ in Stores

treeguy64 said:
If you have to deal with a child who, unfortunately, lacks "normal" control mechanisms when in public places, then you refrain from visiting the same with said child. Problem solved. If you want to reply with something to the effect that taking this child out in public places is unavoidable, at times, I'd say you need to rethink your situation and consider having a sitter/child minder when you must venture out in public. No, I am not heartless. I simply am considering the rights of the many, to not be disturbed by a caterwauling individual, over the right of that individual to scream his/her head off, in public. (No such right exists, in any country that I know of.)
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OK maybe we should just lock all those children away then out of sight out of mind would that suit you????...............you may not think you are heartless but you are heartless with no understanding........ people are obviously more tolerant and understanding where I live.
 

Olivia said:
Any of you ever recall making a screaming fuss in a store or restaurant as a child? It never would have entered my mind to do something like that. I think parents back then were much stricter. I don't know. Am I wrong?
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Never..absolutely Never, and neither did my own daughter.. not even once!!
 
hollydolly said:
Never..absolutely Never, and neither did my own daughter.. not even once!!
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When my wife and two daughters were out in restaurants, with me, people came up to our table, many times, to complement my daughters on their excellent behavior, from the time they were very, very young. Had I had unmanageable children, due to genetic defects, I would never have inflicted them on the public. NEVER!
 

Bee said:
OK maybe we should just lock all those children away then out of sight out of mind would that suit you????...............you may not think you are heartless but you are heartless with no understanding........ people are obviously more tolerant and understanding where I live.
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Lol! OK, I get it. You're a troll. You got me. Congrats! Obviously, you're not really in favor of taking unmanageable, screaming brats, who may have genetic defects that predispose them to loud public outbursts, out in public so they can inflict themselves on the same. Nobody could be so narrow minded as to condone responsible adults doing that. I'm now through with feeding you, troll. You may now move on to try and sucker others in here. However, you are hereby outed!
 
Bee said:
OK maybe we should just lock all those children away then out of sight out of mind would that suit you????...............you may not think you are heartless but you are heartless with no understanding........ people are obviously more tolerant and understanding where I live.
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They are more tolerant and understanding where I live also. My son threw three tantrums when he was four, never again. He outgrew them as most kids do. Had he been autistic, he probably would have thrown more.

Should he have been imprisoned at home? I think not. What about the obnoxious adults who air their dirty laundry in public at the top of their lungs, or pick fights with you in the gardening centre? Yell at you in the grocery store because you are wearing

South Asian clothing? Then there is road rage. Let’s keep them out of public places, please. Oh, wait a minute, that would be infringing on their rights. Children are people too, deserving of kindness, patience, and respect. Socialisation is a process

which takes time. It is well to remember that kids raised in overly stern, didactic households rarely grow up to be emotionally healthy adults. They are especially prone to substance abuse, and often vulnerable to the machinations of cult leaders. If

discipline is not regularly applied in a calm reasonable manner, children grow to believe they are unworthy, unloveable, and that message instills a huge millstone of self doubt which haunts them all their lives.
 
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Shalimar said:
They are more tolerant and understanding where I live also. My son threw three tantrums when he was four, never again. He outgrew them as most kids do. Had he been autistic, he probably would have thrown more.

Should he have been imprisoned at home? I think not. What about the obnoxious adults who air their dirty laundry in public at the top of their lungs, or pick fights with you in the gardening centre? Yell at you in the grocery store because you are wearing

South Asian clothing? Then there is road rage. Let’s keep them out of public places, please. Oh, wait a minute, that would be infringing on their rights. Children are people too, deserving of kindness, patience, and respect. Socialisation is a process

which takes time. It is well to remember that kids raised in overly stern, didactic households rarely grow up to be emotionally healthy adults. They are especially prone to substance abuse, and often vulnerable to the machinations of cult leaders. If

discipline is not regularly applied in a calm reasonable manner, children grow to believe they are unworthy, unloveable, and that message instills a huge millstone of self doubt which haunts them all their lives.
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Road rage ?.....don't even get me started on a$$holes driving with their heads up their a$$es.

I swear if one more idiot cuts in front of me and creeps along at 50 mph when I'm in the fast lane doing 70 mph or shoots through a red light causing me to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident I'm gonna..........

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NancyNGA said:
Never. I wouldn't dare even think about what would have happened if I had done something like that.:eewwk:

Seriously though, at first there was a fear that something bad might happen, so I never tested it. Later it was more like I wouldn't want to disappoint them. I don't know how they did that. It was some kind of talent they had. lol
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Whatever talent your parents had, mine had the same one. Had we acted up, the first thing that would have happened is that we would have been taken out of the public place so fast it would have made our heads swim. As you said above, I wouldn't even have dared to think what would have happened when we got home. And no, my parents were definitely not abusers and we did not live in fear of them -- there was just a mystical "something bad" that we knew would happen if we misbehaved in public, so we never did it.
 
Some necessary shopping days a mother with a howling child (and she has no babysitter) in a grocery store is just too beat/tired to shut up the kid, she can only hope she & child won't be kicked out of the store. Non-tired mothers who don't bother to even try to shut up their kid, well, bye bye, please leave.

I have a neurological disorder (Essential tremor shaking head to toe). http://tremortales.com One day, while at an apartment pool where I'd taken my grandson, a little girl there would scream & scream while at play & the loudness of each scream worsened my shaking--quite uncomfortable and embarrassing. A day later I told my good female friend about this and she, (embarrassed, I think) told me the little girl was her son's daughter. (Ohhh no, I thought. :) ) Talk about a small world....... :)
 
Maybe I screamed in public, maybe I didn't. My early childhood is way back in the rear view mirror. I do know that there was greater tolerance for kids back then. I also know that the older I get the "better" a child I think I was. Of course, that rose-colored memory flies in the face of some of my other memories, namely the numerous smacks, spankings, scoldings, hollerings, and time in the corner that I was subjected to in my youth. As were my siblings and most of my friends. (Meantime, our parents' generation complained bitterly that THEY were never permitted to behave that way when THEY were children...)

I'm fairly tolerant of misbehaving children, having not been personally born an adult.
 
StarSong said:
Maybe I screamed in public, maybe I didn't. My early childhood is way back in the rear view mirror. I do know that there was greater tolerance for kids back then. I also know that the older I get the "better" a child I think I was. Of course, that rose-colored memory flies in the face of some of my other memories, namely the numerous smacks, spankings, scoldings, hollerings, and time in the corner that I was subjected to in my youth. As were my siblings and most of my friends. (Meantime, our parents' generation complained bitterly that THEY were never permitted to behave that way when THEY were children...)

I'm fairly tolerant of misbehaving children, having not been personally born an adult.
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Precisely!
 
Let me try to put this back on track. I was once a cashier in a store. A woman came in with a boy about 4, who appeared to be in need of a nap. He was a bit cranky. So she dragged him up to me and said to him "If you do not shut up, I will have this lady call the cops on you". I politely reminded her to not threaten her child that way and I would not participate in this. I feel that a child should know he can trust a casher or police, especially if lost. This does not help.
I have encountered whiny kids, and frustrated/embarased parents. I try to console the mom, and child, in hopes to let mom know not all people will get upset with them.
 
Gary O' said:
Just a week or so ago, a tyke was screaming his lungs out in the check out line
mother seemed oblivious
I thought ('man, how long can he keep this up?')

so

I got down in his face and watched

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little critter stopped right away
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The little critter probably thought he pissed off Santa Claus- true cause for alarm!
 
Bee said:
Thankfully I don't live in the USA. with attitudes like that.

If you had taken the time to read my original post, you would have read I have a great grandaughter that has autism and ADHD and with children with that condition they cannot conform to what the likes of you expect from them and if you had any understanding of what parents go through with children of those conditions or mental problems you might repeat might just find it in yourself to be a little more understanding instead of critisising the parents or the child.
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Are you serious? You base your opinion of an entire country on a few lines by a few people on a tiny little Internet forum? That's sheer idiocy. Maybe I'm thankful you don't live in the USA.
 
........and if you had read the post just before I posted that (about the police coming after me) you might just understand why I said that.
 
Elsie said:
Some necessary shopping days a mother with a howling child (and she has no babysitter) in a grocery store is just too beat/tired to shut up the kid, she can only hope she & child won't be kicked out of the store. Non-tired mothers who don't bother to even try to shut up their kid, well, bye bye, please leave.

I have a neurological disorder (Essential tremor shaking head to toe). http://tremortales.com One day, while at an apartment pool where I'd taken my grandson, a little girl there would scream & scream while at play & the loudness of each scream worsened my shaking--quite uncomfortable and embarrassing. A day later I told my good female friend about this and she, (embarrassed, I think) told me the little girl was her son's daughter. (Ohhh no, I thought. :) ) Talk about a small world....... :)
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Oh wow Elsie...did your friend at least commiserate with you regarding her grandchild ,especially being aware of your condition
 
Bee said:
........and if you had read the post just before I posted that (about the police coming after me) you might just understand why I said that.
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You were attacked by him because you stood up to his egregious comments re children with disabilities which may cause them to act out in public. These children should not have to be locked away simply because some adults are inconvenienced by them. Totally understandable that you reacted as you did. Also, for some, it seems to be ok to criticise other countries, yet any criticism of America is viewed as tabu. Double standard. Bullying tactic.
 
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I just started reading this thread. I found a great help for this.
I carry stickers in my purse. When I encounter a screaming child in the grocery cart I walk up gently so the parent knows it's safe and I place sticker on the cart handle in front of the child without saying a word.
In 8 cases out of 10 the child looks at me, looks at their parent, looks at the sticker and just stops.
I give the parent a couple extras and they look so appreciative.
Diversion is a good tool for little tools.
 
hearlady said:
I just started reading this thread. I found a great help for this.
I carry stickers in my purse. When I encounter a screaming child in the grocery cart I walk up gently so the parent knows it's safe and I place sticker on the cart handle in front of the child without saying a word.
In 8 cases out of 10 the child looks at me, looks at their parent, looks at the sticker and just stops.
I give the parent a couple extras and they look so appreciative.
Diversion is a good tool for little tools.
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Aren't you a sweetheart? ♥ I love your idea and am going to keep some stickers in my purse from now on. Thank you for this!
 

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